my best friend is too close to my girlfriend. They text message a lot and chat on line a lot. seems like everywhere we go, he ends up going too. He's my best friend and he likes to goof around a lot, but it seems that he's getting too close to my girlfriend and it bothers me deep inside, but I don't want to say anything, my GF will think I'm insecure.
2007-07-07 12:57:50 · 3 answers · asked by Greg D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
coming from the girlfriend perspective, this one is tough. my boyfriend has mentioned to me a few times how uncomfortable it makes him to see his good friend and i be so close. it really helps to sit down and talk about. i don't think it will make you look insecure at all. let her know what exactly makes you uncomfortable.
in example, don't just say "i hate that you two are so close"...be specific. is it the constant text massaging, the hanging out all the time, that you dont feel like you have alone time with her...give her a better idea of why this bothers you.
it may also be a good time to ask her if she has any feelings for him and why she finds it so important to talk to him.
i dont have any feelings for my boyfriend's friend, but he didn't really accept our friendship until i drilled it into his head that he was the only one i loved.
so, ask for the truth, and give the truth...you'll both be better off.
2007-07-07 13:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by chelsea_laforge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm let me start off by saying if u ask ur girlfriend thinks ur insecure for askin her wats goin on with her and ur friend than she isnt such a good gf but if u dont wanna ask her then ask ur friend. He's ur best friend right? then he would tell u why there so close. So dont get so worked up on it.Ots probley not that big of a deal.So jsut chill a sec and ask ur gf or friend.
2007-07-07 13:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by ayeeauraa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep an watchful eye on the situation. Talk to your best friend and straight out ask him if he has more than friendly feeling toward your girl.
You will know if he's telling the truth- listen to your instincts!
And make some plans to go places he doesn't normally go, tell your girl your really want to spend some time alone with her. Ask her to keep it to herself so you don't have unexpected company- and see what she does about it.
Good luck!
2007-07-07 13:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋