I moved a year and half ago from my Moms apartment building, i was just visiting and ran into a neighbour i havent seen since i moved, he acted like he saw the living dead.. said how are u doing.. I just said good and said how cute his new dog is and pet it. asked about what type of dog it is, then said see u later..
He didnt talk much and i feel its none of his business or anyone elses since im living with my boyfriend,, you know how people gossip in neighborhoods. my Mom says its none of anyones business..
Last time i visited this lady saw me and first thing she says is "you move, havent seen u in ages". i just smiled and walked quickly inside.. thought she was brazen...
what do u think?
2007-07-07 12:51:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think you are assuming that the behavior is due to the fact you moved. What would be the problem with someone you haven't seen in awhile because you moved, commenting on that fact? In reality, I have not found it to be an issue with the general public if someone moved. You are seeing offense where I believe none exists. And if they DID feel this way about you moving....I'd suspect mental illness. It all sounds a little paranoid.
2007-07-07 12:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by tlbrown42000 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like people care about you and you don't care about them. Why are you so concerned that nobody knows where you went? Yes it is none of there business but it is also polite and considerate to ask about others that you care about or want to know how they are doing. " How have you been?" "Where did you go?" That's not nosey, thats's just caring about others. You sound paranoid- You never know when one of these old neighboors could be important to you- maybe they have a great job for you, free couch they don't need, etc...
2007-07-07 20:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by weswe 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless you know the person well enough you dont have to share that, its none of their business but instead of being shy about it, just say "i've moved yes" you dont have to tell them anytheing more. Some neighbors may feel like they have come to know you so sometimes they may ask things like that. :)
2007-07-07 19:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Bug*~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If someone directly asks you if you have moved, it's impolite to not answer by saying "yes I did" but you don't have to offer up any more information than that.
You only have to tell a neighbor if you've become freinds with them.
I think your old neighbor was merely curious, not rude at all.
2007-07-07 19:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Cheese Fairy - Mummified 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like people are just trying to make conversation. They obviously know you've moved. You don't need to tell them where to or who with. Maybe you're reading more into this than necessary?
2007-07-07 19:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said, it sounds like you have the problem, not them. They didn't say anything disrespectful or intrusive. Why not just smile and say "yes, I moved"
2007-07-07 20:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No when I moved I moved for me and told no one that I did not care for. Just packed up and left.
2007-07-07 21:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by Michael M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she was just being friendly and passing the time of day, just a thought. some people actually speak to thier neighbours.
2007-07-07 19:55:11 · answer #8 · answered by AJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be paranoid,it's not a state secret that you moved.
You don't have to give details if you or your mom are embarrassed.
If not,there's really no issue here.
2007-07-07 20:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sick or hearing about these busybodys!! It's your life, and you don't owe anyone (except your bf) any explanations. So I think you've handled everyone and everything just right. Right on, girlfriend!! :) -L
2007-07-07 20:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by LadyLynn 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋