My Ex and have been broken up for a year. Within that time she's meet someone else. But a month ago they broke up and we were intimate with each other. They got back together a week ago. But my ex still wants to be friends with me and wants to see when she's in town. She left me a message on my phone saying that she dosent want to lose me out of her life she wants to be able to talk to me every now and then. I told her I need cut to her loose she got mad. I told her Im not playing back up because I still love her and want her back. Why would she get mad if I said you got a boyfriend so lets go our seperate ways. I want her back but this is confusing she always saying I need you as my friend right now. Ladies I still love her what should I do? I tried to put my foot down but I gave in.
2007-07-07 12:15:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try to stick to your conviction about not being a backup or you're in for some misery further down the line. Being in a shoddy relationship cheapens you in the process; you realize this which is why you weren't willing to go for it. There's not really much you can do about her reaction....that's when the ball's squarely in her court, but you were right to communicate what you will and won't accept. She may not like it, but she'll respect you for it. Maybe she'll come around, maybe not..but you'l be better off for having made this stance.
2007-07-07 12:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. Cut off the communication completely. She is playing you as a back up so she won't have to be alone if something goes wrong in her relationship with someone else. If she loved you, she would be with you and only you. Even if you would get back together with her, you would not be happy. You would always wonder when she would leave you for someone else. As much as it hurts, pull your dignity back together. You'll be better off without her. You're missing out on someone else out there who will truly adore you. No matter how hard it gets, don't turn back.
2007-07-07 19:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by chickdafam1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you still love her and have strong feelings for her...ok yes she has moved on but she is tryingt o tell you that her moving on doesnt mean that you 2 cant still be friend...and i know from experiance that trying to be friends with an ex whom you still strongly care about is really really hard. but what you need to stop and ask yourself is it more meaningful to have her completely out of your life or just ya'lls intimate relationship out of your life. Its clear that she still wants you to be in her life even if its just as a friend.. give it a try and if its to hard then sit down and explain it to her exactly in the way that you feel it.
Hope I Helped..
Good Luck
2007-07-07 19:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by *Ashlei* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have to put your foot down. She uses you when it is convenient for her and she always will as long as you let her. SImple as that. Cut this one out of your life. Stop answering her phone calls. SHe'll probably cry and all of that and try to make you feel bad. Don't let her. Just stand your ground. You need to move on and she needs to grow up.
2007-07-07 19:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Santana hon your ex wants to have her cake and eat it too. For your growth and emotional healing, you need to move on and cut the ties that bind. It is not healthy for you to continue in this relationship and to be friends would be like signing a death warrant. Stop setting yourself up for more hurt and pain.
Find someone who can give you all of the love you need and deserve. Never settle for less.
2007-07-07 19:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by Diva777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she wants the best of both. Cut her loose. If she's going to cheat on her current boyfriend, she'll do the same with you.
2007-07-07 19:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by Twizz1234 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she wants you around cuz she does not know if this new one will work out, so that way she still has someone. if you don't mind being the 2nd choice stay with her. that sounds harsh - but it is the truth.
2007-07-07 19:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants you around just in case things dont work out with her b/f. Be firm and move on
2007-07-07 19:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by Buffet4life 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel once you figure out how you feel about her that is and maybe it will work out all you have is a chance and mybe if you stay friends with her she will see what she is missing out on
2007-07-07 19:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by jennifer m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carry on giving in - like the average guy does when he is offered sex - or be an adult and give her friendship without sex.
2007-07-07 19:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by Roger R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋