ok i liked this guy and it turnd out he liked me too,but this other girl asked him out and he aint the type to break up with a girl so he stayed with her.He told me he cares about me alot and was waiting for her to break up with him,And alot of other stuff happend that I cant say cause Ill start cryin.
It all ended up that I was hurt and she was laughin in my face and he still wanted to be with me,....I was hurt by him and mad so I wanted to stop thinking of him and move on,so later on this other guy askes me out and I say yea.Well I like him alot too but I still think of the other guy...and I jus saw him and talked to him and I bout cried..I love him so much what do I do? Do I get rid of the other guy(eric one who asked me out) that asked me out and contue to love Allen(the one I love)?Or stay with Eric and try to get over Allen?
2007-07-07 10:42:32 · 18 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as stated, and you can have friends its all good
Eric from what you say is your friend-stay friends with him=its not steady till you know this is the guy you would like more than any other to marry in all the world
ok be careful about askin the same question and make sure it is a question or you know who will get after you.
and be sure to get help from above="In marriage the bed is undefiled, but all others shall be judged." Hebrews 13 the same chapter that tells us once we let Jesus into our heart "I will never leave thee nor forsake thee."
on faith=our best - good grooming hair to toes, with nice clothing kept.
to think our best - read the bible and get directions-especially the book of proverbs-i read 3 verses of it a day for 3 days, and then 3 new ones-greatest book of wisdom in the greatest book of smartness-the bible
yet to get the connection we must apply the answer from within-This helped me as born a Jew to realize =when we admit we need something more we are ready to consider the one that gave it all for us, to help us.
As promised "Unto us a child is born a son is given, and he will be the mighty God, the wonderful counselor, and the prince of peace." Isaish 9:6
He said "I go to the cross for the joy set before me, that you might believe." Gospel words of Jesus
"As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten, repent quickly therefore (even of one lie) and turn to me. Behold I stand at your heart door and knock, if you hear my word and open the door I will come in and be your friend." Revelation 3:19&20
So I prayed and had this need fulfilled in my life ="Jesus I am sorry for my sins, thanks for dying for me and promising to come into my heart to help me, please do and be my friend, amen."
A new wonderful life began for me-and is offered to each person.
May you have a great day, I am praying for you and each concerned, David
2007-07-07 17:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself who is better. I know Allen won't break up with the girl but he shouldn't have a relationship in a lie with that girl. If Allen really want to be with you, then he should talk to that girl and actually break up with her because of you. If he doesn't do that, he isn't worth it is he.. Plus, do you really like Eric because it seems that you only said yes because you were mad that you can't be with Allen. But if you do like Eric, do stay with him. I mean if Allen can't even do a simple thing to be with you... then he's not trying at all.
2007-07-07 10:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Strawberriieess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
It's.. hard to know what happened, since you wouldn't say, but..
It sounds like Allen needs to grow up a little. If the girl did something truly mean to you and he ignored it, that's pretty pathetic.
Also, he should break up with her because he isn't fully committed if he likes you. It's sort of going behind her back and I, in her place, would appreciate him being honest and breaking it off.
It's also possible you're making a bigger deal about what she did than called for, and it wasn't that bad, you just think it was. But again, I don't know the situation, so I can't know details like that.
I think you should break up with Eric because you're doing the same thing Allen's doing to his girl, and it's disrespectful to him (especially if he's a good guy).
Lastly.. I doubt you 'love' Allen. It's probably just infatuation.. which sounds lame, but I've been there. It's really easy to confuse infatuation and love, especially for those of us who haven't experienced both. ;)
Break up with Eric, and give yourself some time to think.. try not to talk to/contact Allen for a few days so he doesn't muddle your head. Think about exactly why you like him.
Then get over him, or do it closely enough that you can talk to him without making yourself miserable. Stay friends, and if his relationship breaks up, try dating him then.
Good luck.
2007-07-07 10:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by Smurf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i`d get rid of allen because he is still with that over chick and doesn`t sound like he`s going to break it off anytime soon because he doesn`t have the balls to do it, and eric apparently wants to be with you, so stop dreaming about someone you can`t have and give eric a chance, it`s time to move on allen is going to be a waste of time if you wait around for him.
2007-07-07 10:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Goth Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first guy USED you. He went out with the other girl and then cheated on her with YOU. He's a JERK. He's got you hooked and he doesn't give a d*** about you.
Get over Allen first.
Till you do, you're not being fair to Eric!
2007-07-07 10:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God this question sound just like the one i was about to ask but I'll answer it anyway...
Most people would tell u to follow ur heart but how do u know which way to go when it's broken n pieces? ur situation sounds just like mine but if Allen hurt u to the point of tears he not good enough for u and u deserve better and if eric is going to treat u better stay with him u'll fall in love with just wait.
2007-07-07 10:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by Merci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does Allen know that the girl laughed in your face? If knows about it and did nothing then it might be time that you try to move on because if he did care he would have put a stop to that when it happened.
2007-07-07 10:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with Eric. He isn't a massive wuss like Allen appears to be, and dumping Eric for a guy with a girlfriend would be a colossally stupid move.
2007-07-07 10:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Allen is full of crap. He's with that other girl because that's where he WANTS to be. If he didn't, he would break up with her and be with you. But that's not happening, now is it? You are being played.
Stick with Eric.
2007-07-07 10:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not overcomplicate the situation. If the guy REALLY wanted to be with you instead of acting like a player, he would just be with you. Instead he's playing the game by keeping you on the hook while he has all his options open right in front of him while you girls duke it out over his affection. As far as your dilemma that now has two guys in it, you really need to slow down and stop rushing into situations like this.
2007-07-07 10:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by Enjoyinglife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋