my sister is a hypochondriac?

Question

she is driving me nuts she is always complaining of something it drives me nuts she says my chest hurts or my stomach hurts or something els totaly stupid it is so annoying i know she does it for attention but thats tough because we have six kids and the little kids need me more than her i mean shes 15 and is such a baby i wish she would grow up i don't have time to baby her i usually am looking after a 12 year old boy and an eight year old girl and don't have time for her and she expects me to treat her like my other sister like will you hug me or comfort me because i don't fell well and i don't have time for it i have to keep things moving around hear

Answer 1

Go back and read your question. See how many times you said you don't have time for her. That's where the problem lies and it isn't your fault. You have too much responsibility with all the children. Where are your parents? They need to see to it that each of these children, including you, get some one on one time with them. I'm sure with all these children, your parents are working hard and need you to help out, but talk to them about your sister and see if they can spend some time with her because she is seeking attention and if she doesn't get it from them she will get it elsewhere.

Answer 2

I understand how you feel, I really do. Is there any chance she is NOT a hypochondriac? I ask because I am 42. I have been grinding and clenching my teeth since childhood. I did damage to my baby teeth! Along with this ar headaches. It wasn't until I was almost 30 before a doctor FINALLY paid attention and looked at my jaws. by that time it was too late, too much damage and no way to get the grinding and clenching to stop. The headaches are chronic and daily. I have not been pain free since about 1988. I went to the Diamond Headache clinic in Chicago, mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota, the Univ. Of Iowa Hospital, Univ. Of Utah Hospital and many doctors in between. There is NO family history of migraines and that's what they kept calling them. The various doctors put me on a over 27 different medications to try to prevent the so called migraines.
I am unable to work. I'm not reliable enough because of the pain. Fortunately, I was able to become a full-time mom to my now 22 year old son. I was treated horribly. I was treated like a drug seeker/addict. All I wanted was for someone to look at my jaws. There was soooooo much damage to them. I've had 3 jaw surgeries and need a 4th. Also, because of the chronic headaches, I am now at risk for heart problems. Heart problems do NOT run in my family (too much to explain, but there is a connection)
Please consider the possibility that there may actually be something wrong with her.

Answer 3

She's not a hypochondriac, she's just vying for you to show her more attention.

Take even a half hour a day and be with just her, I know you are overwhelmed, but even this Little amount should clear her symptoms up.

Your parents should be the ones giving her more attention too, I know with all those kids it's difficult but it does hurt the child no matter how old they maybe when they get ignored, soon she'll be out the door looking for attention from other people and you don't want her to get mixed up with the wrong kinds of people.

Counseling can also help her, that way she can get a therapists full attention for an hour, it should help her feel better.

Answer 4

plese dont push her away , she must really need attention my daughter has 5 and the middle 1 is 9 and i always tell her to make sure shes not be left out sometimes when theres that many children its hard to spread it around but you will see a change in her if you will just take the time and some day you will be glad you did i know you wont live to regreat it , so just a few minets out of your day take time for her......good luck.

Answer 5

It may not be hypochondria, but psychosomatic. She may actually be feeling all of the pain and sickness. She may not be really sick but because she is feeling abandoned, her mind is creating a reason to get attention. Or she really could have something wrong with her. She needs to be evaluated by a doctor for any physical problems and maybe get a referral to a counselor. And your parents need to know what is going on.

Answer 6

maybe she needs professional help. in the meantime, u should do your part by talking to your parents about it, and let them know u are trying to be caring of her, but that ur worried. she prolly doesnt get enough attention. try to set aside special time like a half hr every day just for the two of u. apparently she needs it. even tho it bugs u that shes complaining, try to swallow ur pride, and just let her vent. let her complain. just spend a good half hr everyday holding her, and talking to her. ask her if there is any emotional things she is feeling and needs to talk about. let her know u love her and only want the best for her. tell her sweet things like that, i bet her problems would cease after time. and she may not even need u to do that anymore after a while.

Answer 7

sounds-like she just needs some good old fashion attention? that's a lot of kids, has she ever gotten any one on one attention?you must know, children need this that's happy healthy-adults. she needs her families support and love. I'm sure if you show her some attention, and love it will come back to you ten folds.family is very important to all of you, you all need to help one another.give her a break and spend some quality time with her, god bless you and good luck

Answer 8

Your sister is hug sick. I have suffered from this awful disease since childhood. I know you are busy, but if you hug her it will take less than a minute, if you don't she will live with the emptiness for life. People who have hugs or don't share the ones they do have are more likely than you sister the end up without them. Besides, you are a kid too?! Here's you a great big hug, ahhhhhkiss you cheek, Thank You for helping your family, please share our hug with other kids, Thanks. Write me?

Answer 9

give her a big hug and an I love you sis , your the best! before she has a chance to start the bs, see if that doen't help

Answer 10

respect her and give her attention and talked to and tell her how you feel about what shes doing. with out telling your building up anger so tell her.