What does it mean when an ex still have some of your belongings?

Question

My ex broke up with me around January 07. He and I gave back each other's belongings, but he still have some of my stuff and I don't. Some of the stuff are my rollerblades, sports team apparels, a pair of shoes, all the lingeries. All of these stuff are paid by me which does not matter, but I feel may I have to leave it alone. I did mention once that he still have some of my stuff (but didn't mention about the lingeries). I would just like to know what it may mean especially he could've grab the lingeries along with the clothings that were given back.

We don't talk anymore, and I know the fact that he wouldn't be the kind of a person who would toss it. He may also forget about the stuff since he's a busy busy workaholic kind of a person which is understandable.

Any answers from any male and female's point of view? Thank you!!

Sincerely,

Miss Confused

Answer 1

I don't think it means anything except that he doesn't care if you get it back or not, and apparently you don't care either if you have never gone to get it. It's your stuff, so if you want it, it's up to you to get it. He's not going to go out of his way to get it back to you, especially if he is a busy, busy workaholic. He's not even thinking about your stuff.

Answer 2

He may have missed some of the stuff when he returned your things. It's common. If you want these items, be an adult about it - contact him, tell him what you're missing and set up a time for you to pick up the items. Otherwise, he may eventually throw it away or give it to the Salvation Army just to be done with it.

Answer 3

Sometimes even if you broke up, there is still feelings there and he may have kept you stuff, because he didn't want to give you up all the way. Feeling don't disappear just because you say it over, who knows eventually he may give it back, it may just be hard right now.
When he is ready to move on I am sure he will return your things.

Answer 4

I think if he's not at home right now smelling your lingerie then he's probably using it to show his buddies or considering wrapping them up and giving as a gift for a new love interest. I say cut your losses.

Answer 5

the question is more about you wanting to know if he is keeping souvenirs? Does he have unrequited love feelings? Ask for each item back or chock it up to he wants it for his next gf. There are always valid reasons when relationships end, best to move on.

Answer 6

from a females point of you, leave it.

He could be doing it so you have to go back and get it or he has just totally forgotten either way i wouldn't bother.

Would you wear the Lingery now anyway !!!

Answer 7

Ive actually had this problem. my ex boyfriend of a year and a half had a box of me. like all ym stuff was in there, and when id come over he'd put more stuff in there, but when we broke up, he still kept it. i asked for it back but he said no i wanna keep it cause it reminds me of the good things we had before i broke up with u.... maybe he still loves you and wants to bve with you but cant, so he broke up with u. its kinda like a memory more then just one in ur mind.

Answer 8

I would call, ask again if he could put those things in a box and anything else you might have left and leave it on his porch, or drop it by, whatever.

If he doesn't I would just forget about it and him and move forward.

I don't think it means a thing, just get beyond it.

Answer 9

Wow, sounds to me like he may like your clothes. Maybe he wears them :). Or maybe he gave them to a girlfriend, YUCK! But I do know that you might not be able to get your things back going through a legal battle. You are going to have to talk him into letting you have them back. The best of luck to you.

Answer 10

This may just mean that he needs a souvenir from your relationship. Most guys do this. It's nothing especially if you and him don't talk n e more. You must want it to mean something deep down.