Abstaining from sex till marriage?

Question

I am a 25 year old male, still a virgin, and abstaining from sex till marriage. The thing I worry about is that I am slowly losing interested in sex. When I was younger I found it really difficult abstaining from sex till marriage because the hormones were so intense. But, somehow I managed it. Now, however, the longer I live without sex in my life, the longer I feel I don’t need it. This really worry’s me for when I do have a girlfriend. I don’t even masturbate or watch porn.

Answer 1

Your hormone levels have adjusted to their adult levels which will last you until roughly your late thirties. You haven't "lost" your interest in sex, but because you're not consumed by it, it's not a pressing concern most of the time. You'll discover when there's someone on the horizon that catches you interest, you'll function normally. Don't worry so much. (When the time is right, you'll have the vigor and exuberance of a much younger person..because it'll be all new to you). The last, best laugh is yours!

Answer 2

It's good for you if this is what you decide to do but the chances are in this day and age that whoever you end up marrying will have been in a sexual relationship before they meet you. There are not many people who think the way that you do. There's no accounting for who or when you fall in love. If they are your ideal partner, then surely by definition whatever their past, it is immaterial to you. How would they have known to save themselves just in case you came along? I think you should take everything as it comes (if you pardon the pun!). You won't know until you meet Mr/Miss Right what their past is and how you will feel but it is always best in any case when starting a new relationship to draw a line in the sand where your previous relationships ended and then continue on anew in your own relationship otherwise you become bogged down and obssessed, comparing yourself to their previous partner(s), which is a very self-destructive way to live.

Answer 3

You have yet to realise that sex is an extension of a relationship and goes with the territory..i.e. you need a girlfriend...

the whole I will wait until I find the one or get married for sex is fine but you should be pursuing dates and so on to find the one as she will not appear out of anywhere....

I know what you mean when your alone you think sex (act of) is an important stage your priorities are such that this gets pigeon holed into some imaginary yet to occur time in the future and actually this is a bit dangerous..

What I mean to say is that your question will resolve itself with time when you make the decision about who to be with thats an important stage independent of sex and sex is only a naturally occuring process that happens afterwards...

Answer 4

i think that when the time is right, you will be ready. If you find a girl who you really have true feelings for, you will know. You will feel a physical response to her as well as emotional. (im pretty sure this is a theory in psychology, either the james-lange or cannon-bard....if you're a nerd maybe you'll know what im talking about ) :D
but dont worry. . .find a girl you care about, and remember that a relationship doesnt need to be based around sex, in fact, many girls are looking for a guy who doesnt want to use them just for sex, so believe me on this one....there is an amazing girl out there just waiting for you!
now go find her !!!

Answer 5

I totally respect your decision to abstain from sex till you're married. i definitely dont agree with you but if that' s what you want, then fine by me. no, i dont think you're losing your sex drive, exactly because hormones arent sky high at your age anymore. i also think it's because, since you've never experienced it, you dont really know what you' re missing.. and maybe watching porn or masturbating just isnt good enough for you anymore. you're no teen wanting to releif yourself for a while. you' re a grown man, it's only natural. me, too, when i'm with a man who doesnt satisfy my sexual needs, i lose my interest in having sex with him. maybe you're just fed up with the whole abstaining thing.

Answer 6

I was a virgin until 24.

No worries...you'll have the urge when there's a girl you really like. Congratulations for being able to tell the difference between love and lust. Just do what's right for you. You sound like a real cerebral kind of guy. You need an attachment for the attraction to happen. It will.

There's always available girls in your age bracket.

Answer 7

Wow, I definitely applaud you for your strong decision!

Now that you've learned to maintain your needs, you've come to realize there's more to life than just sex. It's okay if you feel you don't need sex. Sex isn't everything. But trust me, when the right girl comes along and you're in the context of marriage, it will come to you.

Answer 8

It''s a good thing what your doing by waiting I guess it's nature's way of helping you through until you do meet the one you want to marry, It could also be what you don't know doesn't hurt you, so when you do have sex trust me you'll love it.

Answer 9

Yea but loads of girls don't either i'm sure once ur marrid and u discover all that stuff ur'll think diffrently about it and go u! there are men that arn't sex crazed idiots in this world o-0 i thought i lost all hope...

Answer 10

wow, 25 year old virgin! props to you. i don't see how you made it.you're a strong person.maybe you are loosing interest. have you ever been around someone who made you so hot you thought you would loose your mind?they say if you don't use it, you'll loose it. my advice is to start watching some porn and masterbating some.if that doesn't help see a dr.