i dated a woman for about a year, and for the last few months, i suspected, for good reason, that she had been cheating on me. i finally got rid of her back in late october (or maybe early november???) for about two dozen reasons. i really haven't thought much about her since (a manipulative, deceitful, mistrustful control freak who treats a man like dirt and could probably stand to be medicated isn't the kind of person you really miss), and i got over her immediately. yesterday, a friend of hers asked me about her to me and told me a few things, and my suspicions were confirmed. this is the only woman in my life i have ever actually been relieved and truly happy to break up with. why does my heart sink NOW to find out that she cheated?
and...
she always accused me of cheating on her, and when she wasn't doing that, she was constantly reminding me not to. she did all this without any real reason. if a woman does that, is it a good indication that she's cheating, or that she will?
2007-07-07 08:00:31 · 11 answers · asked by That Guy Drew 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your heart sank, because it was confirmed that she LIED to you. This hurts no matter what.
Usually if someone accuses you of cheating, it's because they are doing it themselves, and they are paranoid/insecure.
Either way you don't want to be with you because either you can't trust them, or they don't trust you.
2007-07-07 08:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by jencanadian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You feel that way because you actually didn't want to believe it was true. One thing I will tell you in a relationship when you think the other person is cheating, they probably are. And the real tipoff was when she accused you of cheating. Move on with your life and forget about her. You deserve better so be happy it is over. Remember, you could be dealing with her today.
2007-07-07 15:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not an indication of that though i think now it's maybe that you suspected it all along and had it confirmed and maybe you still have some feelings for here that even you didn't know about but that you need to look at otherwise it wouldn't have bothered you
Or maybe it's the fact that you were lied too
2007-07-07 15:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you were deceived by someone you once loved and trusted, sounds like you did the right thing by leaving her..it never feels good to know we were cheated on however it sounds like your intuition is right on just be glad you didn't have more invested in this relationship and lost more than a year together
2007-07-07 15:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many females are emotional wrecks nowadays. You did the right thing. I guess it bothers you because your suspicions were confirmed and now you feel betrayed because there was still resonable doubt that she cheated.
She's a physcho just like my exgirlfriend. There are lots of girls who aren't about these stupid games.
Somewhere, outthere there are still good girls.
2007-07-07 15:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone, male or female, that accuses are usually the guilty one. You are not the only one to go through this. It hurts now because you had not resolved all the issues in your head. Now you know, finish your grieving, and then move on.
2007-07-07 15:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by msims52 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
any person that lies and cheats will also point out the sin in their life..My husband did everytime He was doing something He shouldn't be..I was the blame for everything..I was the cheater(not)..I was the liar(not)..so on...
You feel bad because you did care about her to some extent,you already knew in your heart she was doing it,but to hear it from another just confirms it..
2007-07-08 09:46:46 · answer #7 · answered by I give you the Glory Father ! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Becase even when you get rid of a bad relationship there is a sense of loss, and mourning. You are going through that now. For encouragement, listen to ttb.org.
2007-07-07 15:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by stick man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bcoz u know the truth. 1st u had suspicion but u wasn't sure to accuse her, but now u know she really cheated on u. when it comes to reality people gets a shock.
2007-07-07 15:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drew, I think that you are actually bothered by sin. You don't like sin. You have a God nature. You like holiness, and when you hear about sin that close to home, it bothers you. You see sin for what it is. It is a slap in God's face, and this one was a slap in your face.
2007-07-08 01:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by Caveman 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋