How many gay, lesbian, or bisexual people do you know? Do any of them walk around wearing a 'homosexual' banner? Do they approach you to spread the news that they are, indeed, gay? Do any of them at all tell you what they do to whom in their bedrooms?
The reason I'm asking is because there seems to be this misconception in the christian community that gay individuals advertise their sexuality. This just isn't so. At worst, they show their sexuality in the same way that straight people show theirs, by dressing and acting accordingly. Do you get upset with the pretty woman in the front row of the church who has on a nice dress and lipstick, maybe showing a little cleavage? How about the straight guy that goes to the beach without a shirt? Do any of them really 'advertise' their bedroom behavior, or are homophobes simply afraid of what is different?
Lastly, is it really gays that advertise their sexuality, or are homophobic groups advertising "deviant behavior" to blame?
2007-07-07 07:22:07 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Good point. All the gay people I know look and act just like everyone else. Most of them, I didn't even know they were gay until they told me or I was introduced to their boyfriend/girlfriend.
2007-07-07 07:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 13⤊ 3⤋
Well, I'm not one of those people who complain about homosexuals in general, so I know this question isn't directed towards me.
I have no objection whatsoever to see a man/man couple or a woman/woman couple, so long as they're not all over each other. And just so it's clear, my husband and I are VERY well-behaved in public, and that's the way I like it. I don't need to see ANY couple, hetero or not, making out and groping each other.
Furthermore, I would have no issue whatsoever with gay pride parades if it wasn't for the indecent stuff that some of them do in these parades. I'm one of those people who believes that ALL fetishes should stay in the bedroom. Maybe I'm just a prude, and old-fashioned, but I think some things should stay private.
If a person tells me they're a homosexual or bisexual, I don't tell them how I feel about it unless they ask me. It's none of my business.
Anyway, most homosexuals and bisexuals act like anybody else. They keep their private life private, as it should be. But I have had, and do have, some homosexual and bisexual friends who are very...err...flamboyant about it. That, I do have an issue with.
And for the record, I don't think that people should show as much skin as they do in public, but I can't control how others dress, now can I? All I can do is silently disapprove, and make sure I dress conservatively.
2007-07-07 07:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
FundaMENTAList Christian groups don't feel like they've made their point unless they can yell out about all the "deviant" behavior that goes on between gays and lesbians in the bedroom. Are there people who are very provocative about discussing their sex lives, both gay and straight? Yes, but those people are actually in the minority.
To me, I think that if a straight guy brags at work about how hard he gave it to his wife/girlfriend the other night, maybe she needs to know about how her man is airing all their dirty little secrets. If she's pissed about it, she should be. If she loves it, then I think they both deserve each other, and they're probably people I wouldn't care to know outside of the workplace.
I am not a puritan or a prude by any means, and neither is my partner. We're not closeted, but we don't make it a point to go around in public, screeching and flipping our wrists. There are people we've known for years who have no idea that we're a couple, yet there's hardly a way you could miss it, so that's their problem, not ours. Neither one of us feels the urge to walk up to anyone at a party to discuss how great it was that we "sixty-nined" last Friday.
If any real advertising of gay bedroom practices is going on, I'd say the major campaigns are being sponsored by Your Friends On The Right, not by the GLBT community as a whole.
2007-07-08 05:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by dreamchaser8860 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some do and some don't, i have had many people walk up and introduce themselves as an active gay/lesbian. it does not offend me. others are just like i am and do not discuss their sexual preference. i have seen many people afraid of a gay person or assume they are gay by the way they dress or act, i think in the end its a bit of both....i have heard people say they were offended by two gays kissing in public , but say nothing when a man and women do.. personally i think its nasty either way i dont wanna watch anyone make out..lol its both boils down to hypocrites really
2007-07-07 11:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hetero rainbow on a bumper sticker? How about 'My child is an Honor Roll Student at (fill in the blanks)?" Gawd! Breeders are so discriminated against. You are absolutely right. People are people. Some gays are obnoxious. Some straights are obnoxious. Some gays are wonderful people. Some straights are wonderful people. Those whose sex lives I have any interest in, I listen to. Those I'm not interested in, I tune out.
2007-07-07 08:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by Niccolo 2 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I actually do know at least one very flamboyant gay man, who has all of the stereotypical gay mannerisms TIMES TEN. :)
Your question is thought-provoking. You should be careful, however, to not stereotype Christians. They don't all feel that gay people advertise their sexuality. (I'm a Christian, and don't. There's only that one man I know that loves to call attention to himself.) ALSO, there are just plain prejudiced people, full of hatred for anyone different than them, who are NOT Christians. I'm thinking of a family in my town (they happen to be farmers, but I don't want to stereotype farmers!) who are definitely not Christians. Their kids express hatred for Jews (although they know nothing about ANY religion, let alone Judaism), gays, women, etc. And you know if the kids talk like that, so do their parents.
2007-07-07 07:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
In my experience, those that I know don't advertise their "gayness" anymore than the heterosexuals I know.
If anything, (totally generalizing here) it's the heterosexuals that keep a keen eye out for who's gay and who's not gay. "Just in case " one of "them tries to hit on me" or "thinks they can turn me into one." Give me a break.
I would, however, like to make the point that if someone happens not to agree with homosexuality, it doesn't make them a homophobe....that term, like "racist", and "intolerant" is thrown around way too often.
2007-07-07 10:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, generally we don't advertise our sexuality. Which, as a bisexual woman living in a small town in the midwest (closest gay bar is two hours away), I kind of wish it was a little more obvious. I think it's more the homophobic groups that are to blame.
2007-07-07 07:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by Dawn 5 · 7⤊ 2⤋
It is the fear, of anything, which is the least bit different, and so what, if certain people within the LGBT community, chose to make their sexuality, known. How does it affect, you, and besides, only someone with strong issues, would have a problem? A secure person, wouldn't be bothered.
2007-07-07 10:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by whatnext 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wonderful point.
One of my best friends is gay. I have known him since Jr High and always kind of wondered but he never flat out told me until many years later. And since he has told me the only thing he has ever stated to me about the issue is when I jokingly asked him one day "What does he have that I don't have" (he was incredibly fine and I did have a deep crush for him for many years)
Since finding out he was gay I have met some of his gay friends and in running around with these folks for some time I have to say I have never seen one advertise or flaunt the fact they are gay.
2007-07-07 07:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 1⤋
It has nothing to do with being afraid of something that is different.
I am still unconvinced that men acting the 'part' of a gay man, being more like a woman then some women are, is natural in any way. I have yet to see any evidence that this is a natural part of life, and that we all just need to sit back and watch it.
Nor do I pay attention to men without their shirts and well dressed women.
No, homosexuals actually do advertise their behavior. They do so in the way they act, the way they chose to talk. These are learned behaviors it is not inhereted. Every day I see news saying how these awful Christians aren't letting them get married.
I am not a Christian - but I do not support gay marriage. Many want to get married because of the tax breaks. If they loved eachother would a legal marriage really matter? A lot of straight people live together for decades without ever getting an offical marriage. Or is is about tax breaks - what my tax dollars would be paying for.
Why would I support giving up my tax dollars to something I do not approve of? I already have to little control of where the money goes.
2007-07-07 07:36:01 · answer #11 · answered by noncrazed 4 · 3⤊ 8⤋