im the kind of persons that just cant let the past go....n get over with...for example i hate the first guy who brock my heart n the problem is i dont hate him becoz i still in love with him..but it just becoz he brock my heart..so i need to learn how to let it go specially my engagement is soo soon
2007-07-07 05:46:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The easiest way to let go is to ask yourself why you need to keep it. He broke your heart--we all have broken hearts--and you're engaged to someone else, so why is it important to remember? Do you like the idea of holding onto hurts and revenge? Do you think if you do, he'll come back and fix it? Get over it.
2007-07-07 05:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel like you have "let" go. This man that broke your heart as been a special part of developing who you are. It wasn't just him hanging on you to detrimentally break you down. It was you too in a first relationship where he wasn't happy. Don't let go of that, honor that. The reason you still love him is because he is a great person, you know that already. Letting go of this lesson, will only set you up for disaster in the future. Hold dear the experience you had with him, understand that he didn't break your heart, you did because you thought you weren't good enough to hold on to him. Honor him as the man who showed you love without responsibility of your happiness or his. Then move forward with your lessons into this engagement. People and situations only hold credit and power to what we let them. So, let go of his responsibility of breaking your heart and own it. Then you can release his hold on you and move on to a healthy relationship.
2007-07-07 12:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by earthmothermoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do need to start letting go of things. Take this advice: let go and let God. Holding on to negativity only brings you down. Most of the time when we are holding grudges, the other person isn't thinking about the situation. Holding grudges only hurts you. Please do yourself a favor and start letting go. Get yourself a journal or a good friend and let out whatever you are feeling. You also may need to seek some counseling. Get yourself together before you marry, or you may be headed for divorce.
Don't sweat the small stuff, and it is all small stuff.
Good luck!
2007-07-07 12:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by davabombshell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people never really get over the past.. i still think about my past all the time... i shake my head to try to clear the pcitures that i still get in the head... i think that you just need to accept the fact that it did happen.. and i think the sooner for accept it the better you will be.. remember no one forgets there first love or the first person that broke there heart but people know that they have to move on so they do...
2007-07-07 12:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by Broken Blue Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say you probably do hate him because you still love him and arent being honest with yourself about that. to let something like that go you have to accept it. accept that it wasnt the right thing and he wanst the right person or that you made some mistakes. if you cant do that you cant move on. holding on to stuff like that only hurst you, it doesnt hurt the person you are mad at. plus it will likely come up in your current relationship in some way or the other. sure he may have broken your heart but it sounds like you have someone better now. chalk that up to young love and move on.
2007-07-07 12:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by asg_is_chillin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hates a very strong word, dislike better.
Its good you haven't forgotten that he did this to you though, maybe this has helped you in some way to better yourself and the treatment you expect from others because of your past.
Your can't be too up tight about it though, you have definetly moved on with your life.....congradulations.
Eventually you have to let sh*t go, don't forget but don't let it eat at you either. You can always dislike someone and what they did to you, and learn from it so you don't keep repeating it......
2007-07-07 12:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by MLJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, be careful.
ask yourself, what are you addicted to a pile of **** your ex has left in the emotional past. You have a future here that can be happy and bright. Look forward, before you become a pillar of salt
2007-07-07 13:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need closure. Discuss with ur ex the past problems then realize that U have someone new in ur life and move on.
2007-07-07 12:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait....wait.... are you seriously going to be engaged with someone while you still love with your first guy who broke your heart?
Think about it... will you be happy? Fulfilled?
Healing take times...
2007-07-07 12:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by donna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you ever want to get married you just have to let go,it mighty affect your relationship with your boyfriend.
is all about making up your mind to do it.
2007-07-07 12:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋