my guy came over at ma place for the first time n after sometime became so restless to go. he said its not u, its me n i just need time. i am going ona 45 days vacation..later in the day when i went to meet him he became upset, saying we had met for the day n now he'l meet me only when i come back from my vacation..i said ok,as he wishes. i tried to chat with him on sms today but he didnt reply back. i don't want to go without meeting him n don't even want to look needy and clingy by asking him to meet me. i want to give him space but cnt resist talking or meeting him. why does he says he needs time n what should i do so as not to lose this guy..shud i call him before i leave or wait for his call..
2007-07-07 05:36:12 · 3 answers · asked by aint_i_hoot_madonna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
guys.. he says its not u, its me coz he is a very confused person.. he says he has a very high comfort level with me but just needs time to sort out things, he is a busy businessman..
2007-07-07 05:43:54 · update #1
he basically just broke up wth you. the "its not you its me" is a breakup line. he got mad because it sounds you disregarded what he said and acted like he didnt just break up with you. you need to back off entirely. go on your vacation and keep your mind open to new possibilities because this one seems to be over. of course maybe after 45 days apart he will want you back but perhaps you wont want him back. regardless, dont call, write, text or anything else. assume its over and move on.
2007-07-07 05:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by asg_is_chillin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is evaluating himself and where he is in life right now. This really is a case of it's not you it's him. You may lose him yet when he is finished with his evaluation. He may feel that he is not going in the direction in life that he thought that he would be or that he cares for you more than he can handle right now and is pulling back. Either way the only thing that you can do is to give him space. Send him an e-mail every couple of days while you are on vacation to let him know that you are still interested. Also let him know that you are there if he needs to chat. Don't expect a reply though and don't get upset if he doesn't reply. He is soul searching right now. When you get back if he hasn't come up with a solution to his dilemma then I think it is time to move on. Good Luck.
2007-07-07 12:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is to resist, don't talk to him any more before you leave. Give him the "space" he asked for and he may find he doesn't want that space anymore. And, after 45 days without contact with him, you may find you don't particularly want him anymore. If so, that's his tough luck. Enjoy your vacation. A one-trick pony is not the whole show.
2007-07-07 12:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋