In need of some major advice!!!?

Question

Ok so i have been working for the past week, and have been watching 4 dogs and a house. Not all of them are by me, so i have to spend the night at the one. So my friend and I have been spending the nights over there, and we brought over the bacon and some other groceries to cook dinner with. Well we haven't been getting a lot of sleep and I am pmsing so I haven't been sleeping, so we are sleep deprived. Well her and I made arrangments to go and have lunch somewhere, and I come home and my mom flips out!!!! So then I go and see stuff of the computer! And she asks me a question about if the 2 things are going to over lap, I didn't respond because i was thinking and she hit me in the back with a closed fist right in my spine!! I was like what the hell is your problem?? She said that i wasn't responding so she had to hit me to get me to respond! So then i was mad at her, then my dad comes home and blows up at me for forgetting the bacon!! Please tell me what i should do im going crazy!!

Not to mention that I get verbally aboused by my dad anyway!! He is always saying I am fat, and am a ***** and such! And my mom is just being dumb! She always follows along with him!!!! I am sick of the abuse, but I really can't turn them in for it! Please tell me what I should do before I lose it completely with them, and get myself thrown out of the house!!!!

Answer 1

First off, your mother should never have hit you like that!!! You're a teenager and teens get attitudes and I'm sure your father has forgotten things in the past. I have a 16 yr old daughter who pisses me off all the time but I remember being the same way myself. It would probably help if you sat down calmly with your Mom and Dad and actually talk to them, let them know what's going on and you don't feel well and you're tired. Tell them you didn't mean any disrespect but they also should show you a little more respect as well. Communication is the biggest problem with teens and parents. If you all talk more about what's going on in each others lives, you'll all get along much better.

I'm sorry for what you had to go through. My Mom used to hit me all the time when I was a teen and it feels like the worst thing ever! I never hit my kids because of that, instead, I talk to them about how they're making me feel and what we need to do to work on that or they will be disciplined in other ways.

((((BIG HUGS))) You need one! Keep your head up sweetie, soon you will be able to live your own life but if the abuse doesn't stop, talk to a school counselor or a family member you trust about getting family counseling.

Answer 2

You really should think about turning them in, abuse is abuse and no one should have to suffer with that. There are only three real choices that you have.

1. Turn them in
2. Family counseling
3. Find another place to live

If you're not going to turn them in, then you're probably stuck with them abusing you. My mother was the abuser in my house and no one ever turned her in, so it went from child to child and never stopped. She was able to get on some medication, but this was only after I left, so I didn't get the benefits from the meds.

I'm not sure if there is much else you can do and I feel so bad for your situation. At this point you'll probably have to submit to their every whim if you want to avoid being hit and that's no way to live.

I know the other answerer's on this board will agree with me about turning them in, your safety should mean more than your loyalty to them.

Answer 3

I don't know what your age is, but if i were you i'd run the hell out of there and start a life on my own. Parents can be agressive when they don't understand us, they become mean thinking that this is the right way to give us some education. When things like that started to happen to me, i left. But for me it's different, my parents are divorced. Yours are stil together. You can try to talk to your father and to get him on your side (you can even try to victimise to him, dads can be quite sensitive), this way there would at least be some balance and you would have a parent that would defend you.
Best luck

Answer 4

Abuse of any kind is a serious issue. Have you thought about moving out? Go stay with a family member or a friend. You never know when the hitting will go too far. Stay safe, I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 5

Your family needs counseling, what they are doing is abusive maybe not to some standards but it is abuse, If you think you can actually sit them down and talk to them and tell them how u feel then go for it, no one should have to live like that, no one.

Answer 6

You have to belive in yourself, it sounds like your parents were probably treated like this when they were growing up. Connect yourself with people who give positive feedback. Learn how you want to be treated, and treat others with the same respect. Everyone forgets things and has bad days, You and your parents. Don't turn this all bad, try to be understanding with them and look at how they were treated. It's not about you they probably have personnel struggles themself, so don't get down on yourself.

Answer 7

Quit acting like a spoiled brat and start taking responsibility. When your parents ask you a question, answer it. Show respect. Do what you are supposed to do.

Answer 8

it sounds like your family needs counseling. no parent should be verbally or physically abusing their children. why wait to be thrown out, when you should be trying to get out. see if your other relatives are willing to accept you for awhile. you do not not have to accept their treatment. my heart goes out to you. i wish i had more to say.

Answer 9

What the hell are you talking about. You need to rewrite this question

Answer 10

Are you a minor, if so there hotlines to call, you might want to look into that.