She hates the thought of abortion. Please be kind and do not respond negatively. I'm just asking if anyone knows of an adoption organization that you feel will help her. She already has two children to raise after her husband left her. Please do not respond unless you have something helpful to say.
2007-07-07 05:01:50 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm not the person who is expecting a baby, it is someone who asked for help in Yahoo Answers and I have promised that I would help her find out an alternative to abortion.
2007-07-07 09:02:42 · update #1
google "adoption agencies" for your area......
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2007-07-07 05:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by Michael B 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, first of all you should have used extra precautions. Did you really expect her to wait until she was 40 to have kids? Also I don't think "SHE" did it on purpose. You both did it by not using a condom or something else. There is nothing you can really do other that take on the responsibility and get used to being called Daddy! If you are really worried about your mom then it sounds like you might have some issues there too. You are out of college, have a job, have a steady g/f (for a while it looks like), and you are worried about what your mom thinks?! I am 22 and due in 4 weeks with my first child, my husband is 27 and my mom didn't kill me, she is actually very excited. You might be surprised on how your mom reacts. Also, your g/f wants a baby, and she should have never had to explain to you that she will be keeping it. That should be something someone assumes to begin with. She is old enough to have this baby with or without you. So if you are not ready then you shouldn't make her feel like she is not ready. I think if you can make a baby, be a man and own up to the responsiblity!
2016-05-20 22:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was absolutely appalled when I saw your earlier question, and even though I thought you made it perfectly clear that you had been asked for your advice, people assumed you were butting in.
Anyway, it all depends on which state you live in. There are Planned Parenthood agencies, and there are usually also Crisis Pregnancy Centers. Both help expectant mothers to make the right decision for them, whether it's abortion or adoption. They should be found in the yellow pages of your local phone book.
You can also do a search online, typing in your state and the phrase "adoption agency."
If I had the money, I would adopt your friend's baby in a heartbeat.
I wish you and her the best of luck, and I think it's wonderful that you're trying to help your friend!
2007-07-07 05:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First i must really commend you for erazing the thought of abortion from your mind...it is no option at all. You started well. Nothwithstanding, we are still human,still have our strenghts and weaknesses at work in our members. Though we are not perfect yet and can make mistakes,but as long as our heart and mind is focused on perfection,we learn from our mistakes and improve. On your part it is very possible to consider what you have just done as a mistake--an unwanted baby and pregnancy.If this is seen that way ,oviously there is a solution and you are 80% responsible for it. There are lots of marriages suffering today because of childlessness.And l want to assure you that that baby cannot be a mistake...from the sight of God. I can sense from your question that you are not economically and emotionally balanced to raise this baby.But come to think of it,where is the father?
well,you can really be a mother to your baby,but indirectly this time...giving him out to families that are praying for one.l can help you search for them,but that is not a guarantee. You have to learn to take control of your boby...do not get pregnant when you know you cannot be a mother. God loves you so much and you are still His concern. Become busy with things that activates your passion,you have a destiny to fulfill,an assaignment and purpose upon your life...do not abuse it by the wrong choices and decisions.Remain blessed and hope to read from you soon. Love you.
2007-07-07 09:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by wisdom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am personally against abortion but I do believe it is every woman's decision to make on her own. In the end, only she can decide. It is her right to have an abortion, but if she's already against it (for whatever her reasons may be), most likely she'll feel regret later on.
Also tell her to consider adoption. She could make a barren couple out there very happy. A lot of adoption agencies will pay for pregnancy costs if money is an issue.
It's good that you're there for her, in situations like that women need close friends the most. Just be as supportive as you can, offer your personal opinion but let her know that in the end it's her decision.
2007-07-07 05:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think she should abort. For reasons why not, just search the methods on google. It's horrible. And is murder. But I do think she should consider adoption. I think it would be good for the mother, her baby and the existing children she has. She also is giving parents who cannot concieve the chance to have a child of their own. But she also has to think about what she will say to her children when their baby brother/sister goes to live with someone else, and how she will cope giving away a child. Once it is born, the bond is hard to break. I wish her all the luck in the world, God bless her.
2007-07-07 05:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
IT has been said already in this post, but I will state it again.
Most counties have Pregnancy Crisis centers.
They do way more than pregnancy tests and all services are free of charge.
If she seeks the help available at these centers, she will be supported in her decision. If she decides to adopt out the baby, she will have all tools available to her right there at the centers.
If she decides to keep the baby, she will have help in the form of clothing, diapers, formula, furniture. There are other resourses that can be accessed from these centers also, including churches that can shelter her and her children and help them not just get on their feet, but give them a blueprint for staying on their feet and walking on the correct pathway.
This is not a secular organization, nor is it a singular way of worship organization. It is supported by many different churches with many different ways of worship. She will be treated with dignity and respect.
2007-07-07 05:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by cindy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are many organizations that can help with adoption in this kind of situation. However... they are usually what is called, "grass roots" organizations. Basically funded by private entities...donations and churches. They are often started by people who want to reach out to people who have been in the same kind of situation as your friend.
Because I do not know where you live... I cannot provide you with a list from your local area. But, you can pull out the phone book and look up...adoption, pregnancy, birth mothers... and, you should be able to find local agencies that can assist you. The local welfare office often keeps lists of agencies of this nature as well. I know...because I used to keep lists myself - as a welfare worker.
I will get you started with a few websites that can possibly point you in the right direction to finding those local agencies. These are websites that will explain what options are available - in general. And, they have toll free hotlines to call for more specific information.
www.birthmothersoptions.com
or
www.birthmothershelp.com
or
www.adopthelp.com
Best wishes to you... and to your friend. May God bless you.
2007-07-07 05:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by debi_lockwood 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She should NOT talk to Planned Parenthood which will do their best in talking her into having an abortion.
I know of several Christian adoption agencies all over the country. Its best if she works wiht one which is locally in her area.
Crisis Pregnancy Centers are all over the country, if one of these exist locally they are a good choice.
If she's married, she won't be able to give a baby up for adoption without the consent of the baby's father.
There are many other factors to consider and without knowing more facts, there is no point in my guessing about them. If either of you want to talk, my phone number is listed on the link below.
Pastor Art
2007-07-07 05:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Did you delete your other question? Call Catholic Charities, or see a priest at any church, and consult someone that will be sincere with her. She doesn't need to abort this child, or any child for the matter! Planned Parenthood will tell her, encourage her to abort the child! Remember the child didn't ask to be brought in the world. Think of the little one and remember to always say to her, 'How would God want us to handle things that are painful?'
2007-07-07 05:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by SDC 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋