I love my family and wife dearly.... our love life is great and passionate... I am a lucky guy......but......
I feel attracted to other women please don't think I am big headed or a bad guy.... but if I go out shopping or whatever more often than not a girl catches my eye... I forget what I am doing and quite often they notice and smile at me inviting me to chat to them.... I never do but goddam do I want to....
Its purely physical and I never have any intentions and wouldn't cheat on my girl... so what am I doing? Am I just bad do all guys get this?
I re-iterate I am totally happy with my wife and life except I want more money but who doesn't... seriously though don't take that "your marraige is over" tact cos it just means you havent really read da question,.
2007-07-07 04:58:13 · 24 answers · asked by Wayne Kerr 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lol no don't worry I do know the difference between a smile of acknowledgement and an inviting look. But I take your point all the same.
2007-07-07 05:12:19 · update #1
Thanks people you made me feel better well most of you and we live in a democracy so I can ignore the minority.
Just kidding!
2007-07-07 05:59:21 · update #2
To be attracted, I think, is quite normal. What is important is that you do not act upon the attraction. That not only says how much you love your wife and family, but says that you are indeed a mature human being.
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-07-07 05:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-07 05:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal. regardless of what they tell you in marriage fantasies people dont lose their attraction to other men or women besides their spouse. the most important thing is not that you look but what you do or dont do about it. now i will give you one bit of caution though. even if you dont do anything you sure as hell better not get caught by your wife looking because nothing you can say will explain that away and make her ok with it. so perhaps you need to learn to be more subtle with your looks. but dont worry about it, if you truly have no intention of cheating, looking at other women isnt going to hurt anyone. if you are feeling tempted though, thats a different story and you better work that out before your desires get the better of you.
2007-07-07 05:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by asg_is_chillin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are totally happy with your wife then you won't start "chatting" with strangers whom you find attractive. Btw, if a girl is just smiling back at you, I hope you are not taking that as an invitation to chat.
It's human nature to find someone attractive. It's ok to acknowledge that a woman is beautiful but it is very wrong to act on it. If you just follow that rule, you'll be fine and will stay happy.
2007-07-07 05:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're doing nothing wrong, you have nothing to feel guilty about, men and women are just the same..we all enjoy a good look, even a little flirting now and again doesn't do any harm to a relationship, just remember that thats all its ever going to be xx
2007-07-10 23:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Tracie_1010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're beating yourself up for things we all do but just don't vebalize them. I don't think we're judged by our thoughts but by our actions, and yours seem to be above board and honorable. Truthfully, your wife may well have had a passing fancy of a guy or two herself, but you both realize that's not reality so instead of risking what you've built together, you both come home to each other....as you should. Congratulate yourselves on a job well done, and keep the homefires burning! You're doing fine.
2007-07-07 05:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the Roving Eye Club, pal. Its ok to look and admire but, as a married guy, you have to set and keep your own boundaries. When you get married---you know the rules. But we all can appreciate beauty, and God's an incredible artist so, like going to the museum---view the art and drool a little but keep your hands and conversation to yourself like you've been doing and you'll be alright. But, to be biblical, on God's terms if you think about it---you're doing it. Good luck buddy,
askaman
2007-07-07 05:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by www.askaman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with you! Temptation is a b*tch and it happens to all of us. I totally understand. I am in a very good marriage but I also struggle with the same issue. It is easy to give in to temptation and harder to walk away from it. A weak individual will fall and I would like to think that I am a strong individual and wouldn't succumb to temptation. Good luck!
2007-07-07 05:04:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't claim that things are totally slipping outta your hands coz of such faked hallusinations!
Man! show some respect to the above mentioned wife and family .. it is not just words we insert to secure and comfort others ... love is action and comfort .. above all a promise deep inside our hearts to be totally faithful to our loved persons.
Imagine your wife doing that ... will you "forgive and forget"?
Experience is my sweet bitter tutor!
2007-07-07 05:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by Sara007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't be a red blooded male if you didn't look at the opposite sex now and again. Keep to the rule - look but don't touch and hope you're wife doesn't catch you doing it!
2007-07-07 05:02:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sparky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋