Why does she ignore my text's? bi polar?

Question

I'm seeing this girl....we hung out the other day. We have sex. It's not serious, just casual. However, I text messaged her twice yesterday just saying Hi and what not...and no responces. What's the deal? She can be really flaky but I'm not sure I can deal with flakes. She also said she's bi polar. ugh! What's up with that? That doesn't make you flakey if you are on medication for it does it?

btw it was her decision to keep it casual. I treat her with respect, answer her phone calls, take her out, pay for our dates, and respond to all her text's. She has only recently made it a habit of not returning my text messages. She stated she was bi polar and sometimes does that. I'm just wondering if that's a legit excuse.

Answer 1

Hi:

There are many things in life that can blame Bipolar, but your situation does not sound like one at all. One should never be to quick to blame on a disorder for something is and always will be common actions of just regular ole' life.

There are many different reasons why she hasn't txt'd you back...

Busy
Dead Battery
Can't find the phone
Hasn't checked msg's yet
Left phone at home
Is taking a nap
Phone is off
Out shopping
Out in the yard, garden beach...
Walking the dog
Phone fell in toilet (don't laugh my sister did it 3 times)
Left phone in the car
Isn't ready to chat w/ you right now
....Oh just a ton of reasons. But now is where patience comes into any relationship friends or more, it's always needed and that is to have patience.

Sit back and do whatever guys do your age and she will txt when she can or when she is ready.

As for "Flaky" We all are flaky to a point, some more than others.

To be perfectly honest with you and I mean no disrespect at all, but you are blaming normal human behavior on a disorder that if you had not know about would chalk it off to she's prob busy, she'll txt later...

Because she has Bipolar it is not some excuse you have now to use as a "catch all" for behaviors that you do not like or do not understand. I would suggest that if you are friends w/ a "bonus" then maybe you should do a little reasearch on the basics of Bipolar to help you in the future as to what is normal behavior and what is not.

Again, please understand that there is no disrespect intended, just stating what I believe is the truth.

Patience my friend

Be safe and be well


Yes, people with Bipolar will go in phases that at times it is difficult to use the phone, txt, email, etc... I am fine, stable, answering you and have just ignored 3 calls not because I am Bipolar but because I just don't feel like it.

I hope this helps.

Answer 2

You can blame the bi-polar, or you can know that you don't have much of a relationship if it's just sex. Maybe you should work on having the relationship first and then having sex. Women are complicated: they may say they only want sex, but they usually want emotion, and if all she's getting from you is 'casual' then she's going to treate you as casual, and that means not returning your texts promptly. You get what you give, you know?

Answer 3

I know people worry about these things, but you yourself said that it was not serious. You make it sound like a one-sided relationship. It is fairly well-known that physical aspects of sexua relationships have more meaning or, let's say a different, meaning for guys than for women. Men crave physical touch more than women on the whole, whereas for women a relationship is more in the head. You have to allow woman to develop a romantic idea. If you feed their heads with too many facts, you may destroy the idea that they are forming. Cool it! And remember, you should develop a relationship before you get into a deeply intimate relationship. Remember, this maxim, women think more with their heads than with their body; men think through their body's and tend to to use the head on their necks, the thinking part. When men think to much, they tend to burn out and out-think themselves.

Answer 4

I would not blame this on her bipolar disorder. Many bipolar people are actually very smart. Ted Turner for example. To know what is going on you have to ask her. She may not be interested in you anymore. I would try calling her and if she does not respond let her have her space.

Answer 5

She didn't reply to two messages...really? Maybe she has a life that doesn't involve you 24/7. Get over it. You said yourself that the relationship is not 'serious'.