OK..My boyfriend and I have been having a very rough time in our relationship which is 1 year and 4 months old. He hasn't cheated on me per se, but he seems to hide certain things from me. He's been talking to a couple of girls over the past 8 months or so. 4 to be exact. TALKING not meeting up or sleeping around with. He tells me he would never hurt me in that way. Just today, we had a terrible fight. He's been chatting to his ex about a prob of hers! He didn't want to tell me because he thought it wasn't important. This isn't the first time. The last time he was cybering with a married lady. But again, he hasn't met any of them. Today, I totally lost my cool. I did something that I've never done before to anyone. I slapped him. I'm very very tired and I'm trying my level best. There have been many faults on my part as well. Now he says he needs time. Please tell me:Will we work out?Our parents know about us and they would like us to get married.I love him a lot and I know he loves me
2007-07-07 03:47:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People that fight a lot are unsure of their mate and you need to talk and find out what is really going on?
2007-07-07 03:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you 2 have some issues that need to be addressed & worked out. If you both truly love each other, you will work them out. If you just go forward and not work out these issues, they will continue to come up until one of you has had enough and call it quits.
For one thing, you both need to talk. If he is having cyber chat with women online and not hooking up or meeting them in person, then what is the problem? Is it you for wanting to know everything he does and says? Do you micro-manage his time down to the last minute? Or do you think that he "hides" things on purpose?
What about him? Does he "hide" things on purpose? Is there a reason why he doesn't tell you? Could it be because he thinks you will be angry at him, or think he is being secretive by not telling you?
You 2 need to sit down someplace alone and talk it out. Find out where you both stand in your feelings for each other. Like I said - if you both love each other, you will resolve this and move on.
Good luck, and I hope this helps.
2007-07-07 10:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by Paul L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all reality, no, you're probably not going to work out. Not if he's having cyber-sex with various people. Since you mention your parents, I'm going to assume that this is a high-school romance. It is really for the best to accept that most High School romances do not last, once you leave for college your dating pool will be a great deal larger.
In my humble opinion, if he's been having cyber sex with various women, then he's given you a reason to be nervous about what he's talking with other girls about.
2007-07-07 10:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you guys will work out Because there is no reason why your boyfriend should be keeping thing from you
and seeing girls behind your back
Or maybe he didn't want to break up with you because he really loves you but its not used to going out with a girl for more than a year.
2007-07-07 11:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Saydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, then give him the time that he needs. If it's meant to be, then he will come back.. I'm assumming that you guys are young, and young people need to break away sometimes to find themselves, so in the meanwhile.. Go to the gym and work out and get a tan! Focus on yourself and looking really hot, so he'll see you and say DAMN!!!
2007-07-07 10:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by savagegrace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. You can do better. If your boyfriend is already "cybering" with other ladies he is no good.
Trust me when I say this, YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE BETTER!!
Staying with this guy will only cause more fights and more stress in your life, he will break down your self esteem. Leave now & don't look back, HE IS A CHEATER!!
2007-07-07 10:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jaime V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all... the slap definately did not help. and second what your parents want is not the issue here. you have a rough road to smooth out... good luck.
2007-07-07 10:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your descision not anyone elses. turn this upside down. would he like it if you were TALKING to some guys? or had a bunch of fights? its your decsision. if u want go ahead and love him if not ok. its your choice.
2007-07-07 10:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by (: (: (: (: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋