Ok we have been together 7 years and have 3 children, my boyfriend works very hard 7 days a week as he is self employed. He has drink every day after work. He will drink these before having something to eat and a bath. Most night he will then walk back to the shop and get a couple more cans sometimes just 1. He then has a bath about 11pm and then expects me to cook a proper meal for him (i refuse to do this). When he just has 3-4 cans he is fine we get on brilliantly and he is a brilliant dad. My problem is i think he has a drink problem and it is pushing me away i try and tell him its a turn off to sleep with someone that stinks of beer and i hate him sitting around in his work clothes all nite. Also a couple of times a week we will go to friends houses and he will have about 5 cans then on the way home he will stop and get a few more. On these occassions he will be argumentive and get up late for work. I dont want to leave him but i dont want to be with a drunk either suggestions?
2007-07-07 02:25:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's terrible. My bf used to drink a lot...i mean, A LOT! Until I told him how I felt, and how he was pushing me away. All he cares about his drinking more than me...and I broke up with him. He woke up and realized what he did....so he completely stop drinking, and begged me back. I told him that he has to prove it to me...and he did!!! We're still together for 3 years now and still going strong!
He'll have a beer once in a while...but not heavily. (maybe about 3 or 4 beers with his brothers) Thank God. :)
2007-07-07 02:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kim W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholics Anonymous
2007-07-07 09:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by margarita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he wont stop his dirty habit then tell him that you will leave hi and with the kids. cause if he doesn't stop then it is only going to get worste, like instead of 4 or 5 cans it could go up to 10 or 20 then he could get drunk and act crazy and when people are drunk they could get abusive torward you or your kids and i know you don't want that, so just tell him if he wont stop drinking then you are out and with the kids. hope this helps and good luck.
and God Bless
2007-07-07 09:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by wedget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have a serious talk with him in the morning before he goes to work and has a chance to pick up another beer.. let him know that you miss him(cause he's not the guy you got together with when you first met).. just let him know how you feel and hope that things will be okay.. i hope he understands you and things get better... best wishes!
2007-07-07 09:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you really do have to confront him. not only is he drunk, he is directly influencing the kids. you have to tell him in the face that it is wrong, and just talk. be firm. ask him to choose between that wretched beverage or your family. i don't think your children would like to see their father in such a state.
2007-07-07 10:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by girlnumberone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im guessing he's just bored in general..
One of my friends had this problem and when she asked him why he drinks so much he finally gave in and told her it was because he was just bored..
Bored of his job..Bored of doing all the same things over and over..Bored of her..
This may not be the same for you...Im just saying what i know.. :-)
2007-07-07 09:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by baby_lou_smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋