Why does my boyfriend do this?

Question

when we get in a fight over the phone, and a friend of his shows up he goes on a power trip and starts yelling at me?

i know he's only acting this way becuase his friends are around. he's 23 and i am 21. what is this called? or has anyone experienced this before?

Answer 1

It's called immaturity. Run, do not walk, to the nearest exit and lose the loser.

Answer 2

This has absolutely nothing to do with age. And you just answered your own question. "I know he's only acting this way because his friends are around." My soon to be ex husband gets brave with me on the phone when he has an "audience", and he has a VERY high respect for my mom but he gets the same way when people are in the same room. He's 32 so like I said, it's not an age thing. I think they just want to show off and have something to talk about, and be able to say "well I told her!" If he's gonna be like this,,,,YUCK I say you're better off without him. Imagine what he says about you to them after you hang up.

Answer 3

Okay, it's a manly man thing. Pure macho. If he looks weak in front of his friends, they'll make fun of him or put him down as being "whipped." So he rants on you to not look weak to them.

It's not right and I would talk to him about it. Just ask him that if a friend of his comes over and you guys are arguing, ask him to hold off until the friend leaves before you continue to settle your differences. Either that or to ask the friend to wait somewhere anywhere, so that you guys can settle your problems in private. Then he won't look weak, and you wont' get yelled at and everyone will end up happy.

Answer 4

Hey he yells at you just for a fight, it happened in relationship but that does not mean he can yell at you in front of his friend, maybe he's just trying to show to his friend that this is how they should treat their girlfriend, if they had fight ,,,this is call show off.

Answer 5

It's called a mans ego...childish...power trip...with control issues...it's also called get help or get out now. He shouldn't treat you any differently because his friends are around...and you need to set him straight on this. You don't deserve to be treated that way. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I think his trying to SHOW OFF in front of his friends!
&&Chu better dump him before he does it to you!
&Worse if he does that on the phone then what happens if a friend appeared and you were there,and he starts yelling at chu and then he`ll probably break up with chu!
Dump him!

Answer 7

Next time, just hang up and say, "Call me when you're alone". Don't play along with it he'll soon get the message, he showing his friends that he's "cool" by speaking to his girlfriend like that, but they probably think he's a prick for doing it, but they'll never say.

Answer 8

he's trying to act superior or like he has you on a short chain.. men act like they are the big dogs when it comes to relationships and their more man-ly friends are around.. tell him to quit with the "power" trip and grow up before you move on to a real man..lol good luck and best wishes!

Answer 9

i have experienced this, he is just showing off with his friends, or maybe he just doesnt feel comfortable with being cute & sweet to you when his friends are around cuz they will make fun of him...i would do the same to him so that he knows how it feels & if he continues then its time to move on, dump him

Answer 10

He sounds like the same kid in school who gets disciplined by a teacher and makes a huge deal about it talking back. When that teacher gets them alone they are scared like little puppy dogs.