i have a problem with an elderly neighbour?

Question

i live in a ground floor council flat. i have an elderly neighbour whos 74 that moans about every thing i do i have silk flower displays in the outer main hallway and when i go out shopping she comes across and destroys them i havent got any real proof that its her. my things are constantly being destroyed and stollen whether its ornaments flowers or plants and when ive been gardening i leave my muddy shoes out there she steals just one of them she tkes my door mat and then 2 days later they re appear living like this is making me depressed ive told my housing association 3 times but nothing has been done what can i do.

Answer 1

just remind them that they will soon be dead,

Answer 2

Coincidence piled upon coincidence!
I was in EXACTLY the same situation a few years' ago. I was living in an HA flat and my elderly neighbour took a sharp dislike to me, probably because of lifestyle differences. See how good I am at empathy?! I suspected that it was him that used to destroy my garden ornaments and tip the contents of his hoover bag on my garden. Also, he used to constantly 'bang up' regarding noise that he THOUGHT he could hear coming from my flat.
He reported me to the HA and made my life hell. I kept a level head and told them about HIS behaviour, making sure that I expressed empathy regarding our different lifestyles i.e. I was a single parent with a young child.
The HA officers offered a compromise. They said that nothing could be done but I could move to another flat in the same complex. I declined the offer. Result? This unpleasant man and his miserable wife decided to move instead. Yippee!
Advice: Keep a record of 'happenings'. Speak to HA representatives calmly and levelly so that it doesn't look like you're gunning for your neighbour. However, let the HA know that this situation is upsetting you and beginning to make your life a misery.
P.S. I'VE JUST READ OTHER PEOPLE'S COMMENTS. CONFRONTING THE NEIGHBOUR DOES NOT HELP. I USED TO GET INTO VILE ARGUMENTS WITH MY NEIGHBOUR WHICH ONLY FUELED OUR MUTUAL DISLIKE. THIS KIND OF PERSON CANNOT BE REASONED WITH. REMEMBER: THEIR PERSONALITY PROBLEMS ARE NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

I live in America, so I'm not sure about how many neighbors you would have in a council flat. If you have other folks around, they're probably experiencing the vandalism as well, and you could band together. You should try to make friends with them and discuss what should be done. Don't make accusations about any particular person.

Do start documenting the vandalism with pictures with times and dates. Even if your housing association is reluctant to do anything to help you, you can still go to the police. It's possible that they've received complaints about this vandalism before. If they haven't had complaints, they should still have more specific advice for you about how to catch the vandal.

Answer 4

Then take away the temptations. You may want the outside of your house to look pretty, but at what expense? Just don't put flowers out there. Muddy shoes can be placed on a sheet of newspaper just inside your door until you can clean them properly. And place a doormat just inside the door to wipe your feet on, it doesnt have to be put outside. Sounds like shes just being a minx and likes playing tricks on you, all this advice should spoil her fun. Good luck

Answer 5

she is obviously a disturbed old lady, i do feel sorry for her but i would also be annoyed too , have you ever thought of telling her that someone is picking on you and you would be grateful if she would keep an eye on your flat, hint you might have too install a camera too catch them. i know you are trying too make the place look nice , but maybe you should stop putting out the flowers etc just for a while . talk too age concern , she needs help, if all else fails you must ring the local police for advice .

Answer 6

Invite her round for a cup tea and a chat. Be as polite and kind as possible but ask her if she has been touching/moving some of your stuff. You could say that you are upset and will contact the police if it continues to happen. have you not got a neighbour that could keep a look out for you?

If she admits to it then tell her to stop or you will go to police.
If she denies it (which she probably will) just tell her you have a camera watching your property.

Answer 7

regrettably, the only way you will sort this with none undesirable thoughts is via no longer sitting interior the backyard. She thinks it belongs to her. My suggestion could be which you be organization, yet well mannered. Remind her it is a communal backyard for each guy or woman in that development. enable her understand if she does no longer prefer everyone sitting on her chair, then maybe she would desire to eliminate it from the backyard? additionally tell her that for the duration of destiny, you will rejoice with if she does no longer stare at your sisters mutually as they're enjoying interior the backyard because it makes them uncomfortable. The backyard is for each guy or woman in that development and their travelers and if she maintains being complicated, you will would desire to communicate to her landlord approximately it.

Answer 8

You said she is 74 years old...did you ever stop to think that she doesn't really have any other motive (really not) to hurt you so I am thinking that maybe she is lonely and maybe wants to start a conversation and or a friendship...give her a chance....by giving her a chance you just might find out whether she is the one who has been doing all this stuff...and you might also make a good friend...

Answer 9

Why not try speaking to her children, or some relative, friend about this. Could be Alzheimer kicking in, and if so she could do worse things. Possible cooking and forget, then start a fire?? I would not let this go, cause it could be disasterous for everyone in the building.

Answer 10

When you stop letting this elderly person get to you, she will no longer find reasons to "torment" you.
The solution is simple really. Don't let her "games" bother you, and her behavior will stop because - it sounds like to me - the only reason she's doing these things are because she knows it bothers you. Take the higher road. And who knows? Maybe she's a tad senile or has mental issues?

Answer 11

You just speak with ur neighbour gently. That wht is the problem why she is doing like this? she will answer wht she has in her mind. If she doesn't reply then u can take another step.