Ok, ive got 3 kids and i am working and i want to change my career. I look after them in the mornings when it comes to the school holidays and hubby looks after them in the afternoon. My youngest is about to start school in September. How comes not many employers are willing to be flexible when it comes to working mums having to look after kids in the holidays. That means I have to be stuck in my current job until the kids are grown up. Isnt this unfair?!!
2007-07-07 01:16:57 · 13 answers · asked by jessie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
How am I asking for special treatment? Im not taking time off work to look after my kids my work starts in the afternoon. Also if I had to pay for childminding there is no point going to work, the charge is per hour per child thats about 3 x my hourly wage. I would be broke!
2007-07-07 01:40:22 · update #1
Sorry that's not how jobs work. Your children isn't your employer's responsibility. I know it's hard, but I wouldn't consider it discrimination.
FYI, I think it's wonderful you and your husband work off-shifts to keep your kids out of daycare.
Good Luck
2007-07-07 03:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Keep looking there's a job out there for you.
Maybe your resume needs some work, or how you interview.
They have to feel like your worth it to hire even with the whole kids situation. Also, maybe youand your husband need to split up the holidays- your career is just as important as his so he should take days off from work some of the time rather than you all the time.
btw, you can put your children in daycare during some of the holidays. I guess that's what a lot of parents do when they can't take off.
btw, I don't think it's discrimination really, you are in a way asking for special treatment by getting more days off than others.
2007-07-07 08:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Try www.MomsCorp.com. Or this link http://www.usatoday.com/money/workplace/2003-09-23-moms_x.htm for the best companies for working mothers.
It is really hard to find the balance. I work part time too and I get hassled when I am not available to be flexible for additional events ( I work at a college).
It is not discrimination because most of us are "at will employees" meaning we can leave if we want. it is our "choice".
I absolutely feel your pain and admire you for working so hard to find a way to balance it. It is really hard to find a new job when you are totally unencumbered so adding this as a complication is even more challenging.
If you are a college graduate, check with your college career center, many offer services to alumni. Good Luck.
2007-07-07 09:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a working mother. You work where you have to to make sure you get the schedule that best fits your family. You won't have to work there until your kids are grown, just until you can trust the older to watch the younger for a few hours a day.
You don't deserve any more flexibility than anyone else. It's not your coworkers' fault that you squirted out kids, why should an employer cater to the working mother's schedule?
YOU chose to have kids, that's your fault, not the workplace's.
2007-07-07 09:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
That is one of the things that comes with the job position of mother. They dont have to be flexible, although it would be nice. Perhaps they just CAN'T afford to have you take the time off anymore than you can afford NOT to take it off.
Congrats on staying home with your kids until they started school :)
2007-07-07 08:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by Betsy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep looking; there are tolerant supervisors out there, but they're hard to find. Supervisors have supervisors who have supervisors . . . and the bottom line is the almighty dollar.
Having had three children of my own to raise, one of the girls I supervise got pregnant, had the baby, took maternity leave, leave ran out - I said bring the little fellow in with you. She did. Put him in a play pen in her office - which was nice because we all got a chance to pick him up and hold him when we'd get a break. It gave the mom a break, too. My best wishes to you. It's hard. Keep looking.
2007-07-07 08:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by Chris H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it costs my daughter a fortune for the child minder, even when she just takes them to school, so be thankful your job lets you look after them part time. i also think it not fair that she has to pay when child minder away on holliday, but thats how it works, cos then she still has to pay and bring the children 300 miles for us to look after them!
2007-07-07 08:25:26 · answer #7 · answered by dansnan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try contacting your local Citizens Advice Bureau and see what advice they cna offer for you! Look in Yellow Pages or on line!
2007-07-08 15:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because most bosses can't see past people doing the 9-5.30. They assume that you must be some kind of slacker or weirdo if you want to deviate from that.
Can you possibly do your job from home?
2007-07-07 08:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by godron_wookie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, that's so unfair. Mothering is such an important job, and children need lots of love and nurture to grow up, your boss is just horrible! You should have some extra rights because you are working and contributing to society through production and taxes, plus raising our future leaders. Sorry for you :=(
l hope you're able to find a new job somehow.
2007-07-07 08:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋