I was going to participate, but suddenly my partners leave wqas cancelled, so he wouldn't be able to attend. The wedding's in next week. I don't feel comfortable to go to the wedding all by my self, and the location is a bit far away. Since I don't drive I have trouble to go there. My other friends offer me to give a lift on my way back home, and they insist I must come and meet their partners and spouses.
All of them are so pushy and make me feel guilty for not attending. But going there is very inconvenient for me at this point and I am going to give the couple a gift and a card even if I don't go.
But my other colleagues nag me so much about this issue. They all are attending with their partners and I am going to be the only one without a partner if I go. The travelling it self is difficult for me going there all by my self is even more difficult. But I feel others are going to be cross with me if I don't go.
What should I do?
2007-07-06 22:50:21 · 6 answers · asked by Yarra 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You are under no particular obligation to attend, nor to have to explain further to your colleagues. If asked again, just tell them no and that's final.
If there was an RSVP with the invitation, then you do have an obligation to let the bride know that you will not be attending after all. Offer your apologies to her and your best wishes. As the wedding is next week, this must be done immediately.
2007-07-07 17:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that as much as you'd like to go, you're uncomfortable attending without your partner. Period. No more explanations required.
But if they're going to give you a hard time, maybe it's worth the aggravation of going to the darn wedding. It's one day out of your life (of course, it will seem like one heck of a long day). Think of if as an investment in your future with this company.
2007-07-07 06:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people nagging you to go should offer transportation both ways.
If they don't, and you don't want to pay for a driver, then you'll have to claim you're too ill to go. That's the only legitimate excuse for canceling, other than death in the family. (Merely claiming "discomfort" is definitely not sufficient)
2007-07-07 09:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the others push you into going when you know that you are going to be uncomfortable.
You said that your friends were going to give you a ride home, what about to the wedding?
If you don't want to go, don't go.
2007-07-07 05:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by Stacey W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in your situation I would take a family member or a friend :)
2007-07-07 05:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by Shalom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to politely decline and if they are cross, then it is they who are being rude.
2007-07-07 06:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋