for anyone who understands how the male mind operates?

Question

i hav been called cold,childish,'stuck-up'...by this guy who likes me.we can't have a conversation without arguing n that's bcz i wont agree to be his girlfriend-he already has a girlfriend but says he would leave her for me but i jus can't allow him to do that to another woman-besides i'm studying for my career n i want to be fully focused(is that so wrong!).i've had a pretty sheltered life but i'm not naive to his real aim.i'm really getting tired of this whole cat n mouse foolishness n willing to take drastic measures to get this guy off my back but i don't want to hurt his feelings cz he's nice. since i don't think i'll handle this situation well all answers n solutions r welcome thanks in advance

no matter what i say to him he wont give up he's even willing to wait until i've finished studying.why is he so persistent isn't it time he licked his wounds n move on

Answer 1

Up front and honest: I have been married for two years with my husband for a totally of six and I stillh have NO IDEA HOW THE MALE MIND OPERATES!

However back to you question! I would call him and just flat out say you are not intersted in dating right now and that you would like to be friends, but if he keeps bringing up the whole dating thing, you aren't going to be ablet to do that either.

It shoulds like you have all ready let him know, I understand that you don't want to be rude, but sometimes to make men understand you have to be. Sorry to say, but oh so true.

Also, he has a girlfriend, he isn't into her, she should dumpher, what he is going to do , go out with her just until he finds someone else. he will just end up doing that to the next girl to.

Best of luck and good luck with your studies. Take Care.

Answer 2

I would first tell him that if he has a girlfriend then he doesn't need to be talking to you like that... because it is wrong. Second, if you want to focus on studying for your career, I say go for it and tell him to get out of your face. And third, don't be afraid to be a ***** to any guy. If you are a single, and I am assuming pretty damn smart then you don't have to put up with a guy who is trying to tell you that he will leave his current gf for you. It just isn't right and you could probably do much better than him!

Answer 3

Tell him exactly how you feel. Honesty is the best policy. Tell him you like him as a friend, but that's all. Tell him what you want to do in life and right now it does not include him. Tell him right now the most important goal in your life is to get your degree and then to develop your career. If he already calls you cold, childish and stuck-up what's the difference in telling him flat out that you only consider him as friend. In his mind you will still be all of those things to him.

Answer 4

I'm not sure what your question is, but I would suggest you have a nice conversation with a nice guy. There are many of us out there that would desperately like to meet a nice career woman such as yourself, and form a satisfying relationship. We might not be the coolest or the cutest, but we are the best choice for your happiness.

Answer 5

He's saying that to piss you off and provoke you to fill what you believe you really are--nice, friendly, etc. so that when you do, he may feel flattered and more confident. He's bugging you because he wants you and he can't have you. The more you refuse, the more he'll want until he gets fed up or finds another girl to ogle over.

Answer 6

Ok
you are definietly not beign childish
and stuck up .
Your beign good by saying no to someone whos already dating.
If your truly not into him
tell him that your not intrested.
And you should never let a guy ruin your career
guys come and go

Answer 7

I had in no way enjoyed before or had somebody love me. until my now ex confirmed up. He became each and everything i wanted and we enjoyed eachother from the beginning up yet he constantly left me and got here returned whilst he extremely joyful and that i constantly took him returned because of the fact i didnt understand any further proper. now he's relationship different women and nonetheless says he loves me and needs to be with me yet hes like we cant see eachother anymore it truly is it. yet why go with me, then tell me to in no way see you returned? i dont understand adult males minds the two :( yet i think of it truly is in basic terms They Dont understand What they have until it truly is long gone!! =/ there loss :) lol i will love returned sometime. and to the adult males who inform you they love you, those in basic terms throwing it around like it truly is not something probably in basic terms go with intercourse, sorry to assert. yet whilst somebody truly loves you,you will are conscious of it.

Answer 8

im a guy and i will tell u the truth guys are screwed in the head. it proven that guys dont fully mature until mid 20s so no matter how many times they get into **** they will do it again and again.

Answer 9

you are a challenge to him. your refusal to bend to his intimidation is an affront to his ego. don't worry about his feelings because he isn't worried about yours. he is acting very immature and he dosen't seem to be in full control of his emotions. even if you tell him in a very nice way to f off, expect a childish outburst.

Answer 10

some things are better left unanswered...otherwise ur bf wud ask that if someone knows how a womans mind works...and dats more a complex question...dont go into such elaborations...otherwise u wud b left bewildered...