My boyfriend has moved away to a different town to advance his career. Even though he did not make any plans for our future together. I love him and want to wait for him to come back or until one day we will be together. Meanwhile, In the enviroment that I work, I often meet very successful, intelligent, and sometimes very handsome men. Finally, 3 months after my boyfriend is gone. This young man I met started to pursuit me. He is 3 years younger than me, but extremely intelligent and runs a hedge fund founded by his father. I told him that I already had a boyfriend who is out of state and might come back very soon. He is not discouraged at all .and said: "any boyfriend can leave you alone is a fool" He also persuaded me and said as long as I am not engaged, I should give him a chance. Does he has good point here? I cannot tell my boyfriend this, even though he might act like he doesn't care, deep down inside he is very insecured. If he knows, he will be very upset.
2007-07-06 22:22:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What makes it difficult is that this new guy is very handsome and attentive. I found myself blushed when he stared at me. I love my boyfriend and don't want to be disloyal to him. Meanwhile, my boyfriend is very foucsed in his career and really do not have much attention to spare for me. What should I do? The man who is in love with me, or the man I love, but is very busy for his career now. what is your vote??
2007-07-06 22:32:59 · update #1
Well I had a similar experience with my boyfriend... for most of our first year together we lived in seperate cities... he was getting upset and jealous that I was in college and was around all the hunky college guys. Well we are about to hit our three year mark and we are doing great. i would say to wait it out... if you really love him. Once you have love... you never want to let it go.
2007-07-06 22:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to decide if you and your boyfriend are going to make it. You mention that he didn't make any plans for you future together when he left? Don't you think you two should have discussed you moving there someday? I am assuming you are old enough to go there with him, why did you stay behind?
Talk to you boyfriend about your future together. See what the two of you come up with.
DO NOT go out with the other guy if you are still envolved with boyfriend. This would mean you are cheating and that doesn't look good to the boyfriend or to the guy you are cheating with. he might think so now, but it will dawn on him that one day you might do that to him too, if things work out between the two of you!
Best of luck and I hope you figure things out.
Maybe suggest taking some time apart from boyfriend...talk to him about this and dating other people. Then explain to the boy that you are just dating.
Be careful not to hurt anyone here and remember don't be a cheater....even if you aren't sleep with the boy...doesn't mean it isn't cheating if you are out on a date and you boyfriend is someone else.
Best of luck again. Take Care and I hope you find Mr. Right.
2007-07-07 05:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by pinkribbons&walking4boobies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man you are working with does not respect the man/woman relationship. DO NOT get involved with him.
How do I know he does not respect the man/woman relationship? Because, even after you told him you already had a boyfriend, he is still pursuing you. A real gentleman would have backed off.
What if you did dump your current boyfriend for this younger guy. . . down the road he meets someone he likes better than you. What do you think he's apt to do? Might he dump you and go after this new "more exciting" woman?
He disrespects the relationship you're in now. If he doesn't have any respect for other's situations, I doubt he's going to have the proper respect for his own.
"any boyfriend can leave you alone is a fool"? Quite frankly, and I don't mean to sound condescending - I am paying you the respect of being honest - anyone who falls for a line like that is a fool.
2007-07-08 16:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by Daver 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing that you didn't say is that the guy your in "love" with loves you, you don't have any plans to be together again, and you said he lives in another state, but you didn't say if he has come to visit or ask you to come and see him.
What you need to do is talk to him, find out where you stand, what the two of yours plans are, if he isn't making any plans to be with you, he is moving on, and so should you.
2007-07-07 05:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand, i hate long distance relationships, im in one, i should kno, ive been in one for the past year, i met my bf online in a game chat thing, he lives in GA and i live in MO, and we have NEVER met, i tlk 2 him on the phone all day long and we message each other bak and forth, if u love him and truly do, u will wait for him, no matter how hard it is, bcuz ya I KNO it gets hard, i do, and im in high school...i say follow ur heart, if u love him and if he loves u, itll work out, and if u think u cant wait or if u think somehow it wont work out then just wait awhile dont just jump into another relationship...pray bout it
good luckâ¥
2007-07-07 05:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by princessjazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUH...of course he'll be upset. You need to move on or contact your boyfriend and find out where your relationship stands. It sounds like you are unsure of your current relationship so that's why you let this other guy get to you.
2007-07-07 05:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by SlamDUNK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I,d ask your boyfried if he is coming back, then again he maybe waiting for you to go to him. Yea I,d go out with that new man/ If your boyfrien is that insecure ,forget him and move on with your life.
2007-07-07 05:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by hatch_53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are the pros & cons with the new guy & your boyfriend? if you can see yourself with the new guy, why not give him a chance but make sure you & your boyfriend are taking a "break" from each other so you wouldn't be considered as a cheater. you can't have your cake & eat it too.
2007-07-07 05:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by single_n_hopeful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your boyfriend wanted more as in marriage, he would have stayed put. go ahead, date, have some fun.
wouldn't surprise you if your boyfriend was dating would it?
2007-07-07 05:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by rwhz199 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so...if he`s really a good man then he`ll wait for you to break up w/ your bf!!..
2007-07-07 05:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by kagome in blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋