Do You Ever Feel that God......?

Question

Do you ever feel that God is punishing you for wrongs your family before you did & that He doesn't like you? I've felt like that for sometime, it seems as if everytime I get close to accomplishing a dream or begin to feel as if one of my hearts deepest desires is about to become reality it's snatched away. I know it's a deep question, and something I'll be discussing on a more professional level I'm sure, I would just like to sort this out. I'm a good person with a good heart who tries my best to follow the " Golden Rule" no I'm not perfect but I'm a very honest, caring, giving, kind person. I feel I deserve some of my hearts desires. Maybe I'm just venting, but what do you think?

Answer 1

God does not punish us for the mistakes of our ancestors. When the Bible talks about the sins of the fathers being visited on the 3rd and 4th generation it's talking about the thought processes and misconceptions that each family tends to teach it's children. Following a family tree one often discovers that there is a consistent concept or problem that is handed down. Sometimes this becomes smaller and smaller until it has less effect on the generation because the generations draw other families in by marriage. Sometimes the problems remain because the families tend to be drawn to others who have similar thoughts.

Having said all that let me make one suggestion that may help. Spend some time with God, asking Him to show you where the problem lies. It may be something simple like not seeing how having your dreams come true at this time would be less advantageous for you than having them come true at some future date. It may be a behavioral pattern you have that you are unaware of. It may be a tendency to overlook important details that would hold your dreams together. God will honor your request and help you see what it is that is hindering you as well as what you need to do to move forward.

Answer 2

You mean generational curses? Yes, I do believe they exist.
From what the Bible says about them, I know if there is one, it effects the entire family, not just one person from each family.
And I also believe people who become Christians within a non-believing generationally cursed house, are released from the curse. Only you can decide if this is true about your family or not.

Sometimes, God who knows everything, will test our conviction about a job, career, a dream, to see if we will stay the course, persist in the face of disappointment, and give us a chance to get our feet wet to see if it is REALLY what we want to do, before he allows us to dive into the deep end of the struggle for our dreams or goals. Or it may well be that your "dream", your "heart's desire", your "goal" may lead to self-destruction or severe loss and pain...and God Almighty is seeking to protect you from that future heartbreak.

What I do when I feel that way, when I have done everything I could to see my plans to fruition without success or I'm in a holding pattern (going nowhere) I start praying about it. And I do the REALLY hard thing, I talk to God about it, my wants, my frustration, my dream and how everything is going nowhere fast, then I give it to God Almighty, I take my hands off of it, and tell God, if this is what you WANT for me, then YOU work it out. And I thank Him for the answer ahead of time. And then I stand and wait and watch. What God wants for me, then begins to move and my plans begin to solidify. The ones He does not want me to have, crumble and disappear just as quickly. Over the years, I have learned that the things that I wanted that WERE accomplished were perfect for me; the ones that fell through, I later learned would have severely harmed my heart, mind, or life if I had attained them.

Simply put, Jesus loves you. He WANTS you happy. He WANTS you successful. So talk to Him and ask Him what to do & then let Him have it, then just stand, and wait on The Lord and He will knock your socks off!

Answer 3

For 26 years i have felt what you just said but i relaized something, you make your own destiny(the one Allows you to) I used to think i suffer because the guilty things my dad did to his family. But now i know how wrong i was, yes it is true that once deed affects the other that stands besides you. But do not forget we can always change. You say what meant that some of your lifes dream almost came true before it was snatched away. My friend what if your greater good was not in that to be but something else. Our creator always has a plan which is the best for us. And he does not hate us for what we do for he The Most Gracious and Most Merciful. He watches was patiently. Do not lose your faith on him. Took me 26 years just to begin and understand how he works. He loves us all no matter what religion we are. Should we forget that he has created us out of his love.

Be patient, no matter how hard life tends to be, always keep in mind this world is just a testing ground for what is to come next. Take care my friend, never lose hope, never!!!!

Answer 4

You sound like a good person. The next time you read your bible, try Psalm 73. It always helps me when I think others that are not as deserving as I seem to get all the good and I do my best but end up with the bad deals.
God can answer this in His Holy Word better than anyone here.

Answer 5

Basically, I believe that you "feel" this way or interpret this experience the way you do because of your belief system which colors your interpretation of these events in your life.

I couldn't help but notice that you speak of pursuing and accomplishing YOUR desires but speak nothing about persuing and accomplishing the "desires" of God (His Will) -- and what He might want or need for you to do for Him and "the work".

Have you thought about aligning yourself, your desires and your will with the Will Of God?

Do you even know how to do this? Don't feel bad -- most don't even tho they profess to.

I find it interesting that you seem to be focussing on yourself, yet you expect God to focus on you? How do you reconcile that with yourself?

Might this account for some of your experiences -- or at least how you interpret them?

How is that you don't believe that EVERYONE should not deserve their hearts desires?

And do they?

If not, then why do you think, feel and believe this is the way it is? From your logic, then God is punishing everyone? Does that seem reasonable?

Can you explain to yourself as to why this experience should be any different for you than others?

Regards,

Answer 6

I was just talking to someone about the same thing...being punished for something someone else did in your family...I have been very mad at God before...infact I even
"screamed" at him outside...I really think everyone gets mad and questions if you are doing the right thing...and I have also felt having things snatched from you at the very last second...everyone needs to vent once in awhile...its normal...and to be mad at him is very normal...its good to question things to make sure you are doing the right thing for yourself...God knows your heart, and he does understand...

Answer 7

When I`m feeling lonely and down when instead of smiling I frown, I go somewhere that I can be alone,I talk to God when I`m on my own, I feel His presence,when I`m lonely He is there. With all the seasons passing by,the warm Sun shining in the sky, the Birds and scent of flowers in the air, the loveliness of nature everywhere, I feel His presence all around me,He is there. And even in the deepest dark of night, I know that He guides me with His light, He`s living in my neighbor and my friends,I know His love for me will never end, I feel His presence in all others,He is there.

Answer 8

Everyone has dreams that they would like to be fulfilled...but the reality is that, most of them are just that...dreams...and will not be recognized. It is hard to come to terms with but it is also a part of growing up. God loves you, and he loves us all equally. When you imply that you feel God doesn't like you because you feel you deserve some of these dreams yet aren't getting them is a little childish...but please understand...we are all very childish when we think we deserve from life, from God what we want...even if what we want may not be good for us. We can only know our wants...not the result of them.

More importantly...God only wants the best for us...and if we continue to be "deprived" of our deisires...it may be in our best interest. I for one can remember many dreams I had, that I prayed for many times...and God didn't grant them...basically said NO to my requests. I am so very thankful that He knew better than I did...because if I was given those dreams...I would regret them today.

God's concern for us is not to give us what we think we need...but to save our souls...it is the primary concern...that we accept Jesus Christ as our savior so that we can have eternal life in heaven with God. Our dreams are much less important than our eternal salvation....perhaps God is using this time to speak to you and to get you to think about your priorities...He sent His only Son to die for us, not because it was unimportant...think about it...if God gave His only Son to save us...it only stands to reason that He would want you to know His Son above all...and believe me...Jesus Christ is a dream come true for all of us if we believe. He guarantees us a place in heaven if we believe in Him. I pray you seek Christ, because once you do...your old dreams will be replaced with new ones that God will answer and bring to fruition.

God Bless you, and don't lose heart. God is with you.

Always be contented and thankful for what you have, because it could always be worse than it is. You have a roof, running water, food, clothing, electricity...some people don't even have that much. Some are poor and dying...or sick and starving...be thankful and seek Jesus Christ...you won't regret it.

Answer 9

Dear one, it takes practice to play soccer, it takes practice to play a musical instrument, and it takes practice to draw a cartoon.

It also takes practice to be happy. Sometimes you have to get back to the basics, the things you ignore. The unhappier you are the simpler those basics have to be. When you find something to be happy about hang on to it for relief.

You're correct you do deserve some of your hearts desires but in the world of your subconscious you sometimes set yourself up to fail to keep yourself unhappy because a part of you doesn't believe you deserve it.

You have to honestly look at your disappointments and determine if they are attainable. I pity the person that can never be happy till they win the lottery.

In love we sometime choose people we believe we will compel to be with us due to our great love for them, but you know when it's a hopeless cause.

Remember God has absolutely nothing to do with your success or failure; it's all about you and your choices. You have to pick your fights. Once you leave God out of it you'll find the strength to do what you must to find a place for yourself in this world. God hasn't helped you yet and he's not going to, because it was your power that put you here not his. It has to be your power that gets you out, and you already know what you have to do.

So mote it be.

For what it's worth you have my heart on your side.
Good Luck and Blessed Be.

Answer 10

Come on... it's just some sort of task you know. And I believe you'll be repay in heaven if you keep on facing it with good act. By da way, it seems that God really give you a hard time. But keep believing in him. I'm sure he'll loves you considering you so patient with his task