Anybody still making fun of you, say in your family or family friends?

Question

and why or why not?
Anybody with a vengance as well? and why do you think that they are this way?
Doesn't it upset you alot or do you know how to deal it pretty well?

what do they bother you about and why?

what about also family or family-friend secrets that they know about and they try to hurt you with those, as well?

(I have a rather vindictive sister who will stop at nothing to get at a person in the family.)..not really teasing them, but, more like hurting them..know what I mean? Vengence seems to always be in her blood...even her own mother thought that she had way too much hate as well!

thanks!

Answer 1

It went on way too long, in-laws took cheap shots too, it's such a warm fuzzy feeling when everyone uses you as the "Scape Goat", the punching bag, use you to take the heat off of themselves. One fine family evening I was getting hammered pretty hard in front of my girlfriend, and I stood up, and passed out the "F*** you's" around the room, while everyone stood there gasping, screaming at me for saying that in front of the children etc. I left with my girlfriend, that was 12 years ago, I have NOT looked back, or spoken to anyone since.

Answer 2

My outlaws as in hubby's family. They are toxic! Always talking about me so far they think I am a Voodoo queen and that I am some how the one that is the reason hubby has MPD! When in fact it was I who got him into treatment they feel he would need to be crazy to go and get the Medicine and all. Little do these nuts know how much good I have done for hubby and how I always have his back through thick and thin. He had enough on Easter when he was told his daughter was not welcome in the house because she and I quote here "just showed up and blood or no she is a stranger".

My family as nutty as we are try not to talk about anyone badly and always have each others back. Funny thing is Mandy is closer to my family then so called blood family. Oh and I don't let then bother me at all they stopped coming by when I left Voodoo book's "out my mistake" To be funny ok?

Now where did I put those Voodoo dolls???!!!

Answer 3

The comments so listed above and sure to follow are impressive and I find can be healing for not few should they only behold such and peer into your words, all of yours, and see into the truths you each undertake to express.

Interesting takes all of these --- 'brave' if not popular, impressing a telling portent of what is to come in this world.

Know this: Not few of high spiritual station would not disagree with your takes here, which opinions and feelings, conversely, would come as great surprises or sorrow in the mass of thought that is modern-day society of the Western Hemisphere in particular, but increasingly shown to be truth the world over.

I find it all honest and refreshing, however -- most genuine and a reaching out to the kindred few who share your views in some if not great measure, of which I am one.

The book 'Voices of Ancient Bethlehem A Dialogue with Jesus and the Twelve Apostles,' is a published heart-to-heart transmission and so scribed, wherein reads a passage spoken and written down verbatim by the Apostle Andrew, page 65, as regards family's purpose today. It is most telling, though may be thought a hoax by empiricists and staunch conventionalists.

To wit:

" Of love within family, I can say this: that the love between children or siblings can often be an affair of convenience for the resolution of past life issues, and all familial relationships should be properly weighed with this in mind. It is not always true and necessary to remain within or committed to the house once the issues and lessons have been resolved. Thus it is the responsibility of the parent to watch over the young children until they have come of age to well make their own decisions, but the family is not a thing to be cried for or lamented if the time has truly come when its value has runs its course. It is to some degree a social institution, but the time of its central importance in the stability of society has long since past."

End quotation.

A corporation, a group, nation, galaxy, planet, or a universe for that matter, each, has its terminus. Once any such entity has served the purpose for which it was created and designed, only natural is it that it does shut down.

Family is not excepted from this selfsame principle, for it is a reality in no wise different or exempt from all life, and does it matter little that the means by which this arises may come by fine or coarse -- though one should wish it proceeds neutrally in its closure for sake of balanced causation, which cessation neither attracts or repels any furtherance of Cycles or retrograde karmic patterns.

Still, again, traditionalists and clerics of today would find this take a travesty, but many of them -- many -- are not awakened to these truths, regardless of what their respective stations affect to convey as to what be "right" or "moral" or proper. Women will do as they must; men will do as they must as to how each does carry -- there does exist no one way but many and varied, and in accordance with the need at hand.

Answer 4

OH PLEEEZZZE,

family is outdated and very over-rated. Just dump them. Do not accept their calls, stay out of their way and don't share your stuff (information or material possessions) with any of them. Ever.

Family should support each other emotionally yet they are often at the ready to hurt you beyond any hurt you ever dreamed possible from the most villainous ill-intentioned stranger.
These people (family "members") exist to disrespect and disregard you (not "you" the question asking guy here but "ya", as in general). Remove yourself from their path and family cannot hurt you.

I believe that a lot of marriages could be saved, a lot of weight could be lost, many hangups and limitations could be breached and much personal harmony and stability could be achieved by totally disengaging oneself from all family ties.

I firmly believe that allowing oneself to deny these familial ties without guilt is the cornerstone of personal happiness and adult maturity.

So much for that reunion...

Answer 5

My sister seems to tease me and my other sister about our faults, but I have come to notice perhaps it is just her way of trying to make herself seem better than the rest of us. I should think it was because she being the oldest and having a baby young could have something to do with it. What makes this even funnier is she is a psychologist, so I should think she would recognize her impulses as a cover up.

Answer 6

Ah, The Ugly Family Vortex. Don't actually hear much about it do ya? Such a nice little dirty secret...in my family, we have one I call who's your Daddy Paddy? Why, She cares about nothing else, and when someone in the family dies she hires a U-haul, I could go on. The sister that calls to tell you things, but refuses to listen to a word you say. The brother who generously gives you some extra cash to get you thru a tight month and then puts it in his family Chirstmas Card. That kind of family?
I get so sad and jealous at time. I wanted a real family too.... at least I did efore I stopped playing the game.They are my family otherwise my Dad would have had his butt sued off many times for his outlandish slander of my good name and abilities. He has been to my house 2 times in 15 years. He has called three times. Two of them about a month ago. I got fed up with wishing he would call me at least once. I don't mind doing all the calling, but you know.....so one day I merrily went throught my personal phone book and blocked anybody I had been sucked in by and if I decided they were not worth the crap, I blocked them. Yikes, Good old Dad decides to call...makes ya wonder why? Got his panties in a bunch because his number was blocked....he hasn't called since 1999, what?!
Picture yaself as some little ol white girl lost in the blues and ya just wish, maybe you had something to do for a special occasion. Maybe a Dad to take you to the damn Father Daughter Dance......but he's got "stuff to to tomoorow", besides "look what she looks like"....I looked. I looked like a little girl. Take this opportunity to block anyone who does not treat you with respect. Tell them ahead of time if you wish. I have never felt this powerful. From now on if any of those people want to spew their crap on me they are going to have to drive allllllll the way over here (I get scolded for not going to see them all of the time because I live so far away...Same distance ain't it there sugar buns?)to do it. So far so good. AND if bad news is good news hen the good news is I haven't heard from them. Meanwhile, I've have time and peace and made some new friends and am doing a pretty good job of enjoying my life. I still cry sometimes, but it's part of what make me human. So there you are. Don't let them suck you into their Ugly Vortex. Just be as kind to yourself as you can be, it will rub off on others and you WILL make friends who are glad to have you be part of their family, and if ya don't right away, don't sweat the small stuff, Rome wasn't built in a day. Honey whatever you have allowed youreslf to get stuck on you is because you weren't ready. You just went public with stuff I wouldn't have let on about just a few years ago. But look at us go! We don't need no stinkin' Ugly Vortex.....Best of the Best 2 you! Friend2Friend, J

Answer 7

Not anymore. I became a successful individual. Of that I do not care. I just think it is quite funny how the world views success as a barometer of who you are, and, if what you did was worth it.

The humorous point is I never did change. I just learned the rules of the sport...did it, and became successful. But, when I am on my own time I am me.

Others who would make comments or jokes stopped. I am their Boss.

Answer 8

My kids make fun of me because I am such a klutz. They know family secrets about me and it's there turn for revenge now. Only one is married (?) and when we have a family gathering they let my daughter-in-law know how klutzy I am. She knows anyways because she had seen me in action. But it is all in good fun. It's their turn now. I really don't mind because it is all true anyway. We all have a good laugh and that's good

Answer 9

my family has been the biggest influence on my low self-esteem. i even got a nose job because i was self conscious. i have to stay clear of people (related or not) who are going to try to hurt me. i hardly have any kind of relationship with my family because of the hurtful things they have said and done to me throughout my life. sometimes its lonely, but i only try to surround myself with positive people.

Answer 10

If they do, it's not to my face. They know that I would not take that from them.