How to forget something that is not pleasant?

Question

Last weekend I went out with a group of friends (let's say acquaintances), they were not really nice, I didn't enjoy the night and they made me put $ 30 to buy wine or other stuff that I really did not want. Now I realize that I shouldn't have gone out with them, I just went because there was one girl that I knew and I had nothing else to do at home. Now, I regret to have spent those $ 30 in something I didn't really enjoyed. I feel guilty now because I contantly restrain myself from spending money in things that I like just to save for school. Now those damned $ 30 are hammering my head. What do you think I should do to block those strange feelings of stupidity and fault? What can I do to feel better? How can I forgive myself and feel normal again?
This is very weird I think I need a shrink. Has anyone been in the same situation as me. I cannot talk to my family because I feel guilty for not spending my money for good reasons and not even enjoying it.

THANKS!!!

Answer 1

Everyone does things that they regret. All you can do is learn from it. You probably won't get your $30 back, sad to say. In the future, you should avoid hanging out with these people, and don't give in to pressure to spend your money again.

Answer 2

There's this saying: Never throw good money after bad. If an evening just isn't going to go anywhere, spending more won't help it get any better.

So you're kicking youself in the @ss? It happens to everyone. Try a shift in your attitude. So it cost you $30 to learn a lesson about peer pressure and how to stand up to it. Some people pay far more than $30 to learn that.

Money comes and goes. That's just what it does. Just tell yourself that it was lost. Remember that self esteem cannot be bought. Don't let this thing cost you any more than it already has.

At the very least, you might be thought of as a generous person and won some points to your rep.

If these people ask you out again, make sure you know who's buying. If the give you a run around, or pull the same tricks, just pass and tell then your wallet made other plans.

Maybe confiding in your family might be a good thing. They can offer you support through this and maybe even some advice. Just don't make it sound like you're asking for a hand out!

Finally, I know this might sound offensive, but it's only money. It's not like you lost a irreplaceable family heirloom or destroyed the first issue of Superman or crashed a car and killed someone. Okay, sure, money's tight. When isn't it? But focus on the blessings around you and know that it really could have been worse.

When all is said and done, you still have what really matters in life.

Answer 3

30 bucks is a cheap amount to pay for learning a big lesson you can use the rest of your life. Believe me, we have all done similiar things, done something and regretted it and came home feeling abit used and confused. Forget it, figure out a way to make another 30 and just move on. Don't be so hard on yourself. I don't think you need a shrink for this problem, unless you have other things bothering you. You are OKAY. It was just a mistake. Move along, grasshopper.

Answer 4

Don't beat yourself up. You made a mistake like so many of us do. Leave it in the past where it belongs. Certainly you are not the first person to have been caught up and influenced by peer pressure and you wont be the last. Each and everyone of us has been there. You know that it wont happen again with you. You simply wont allow it. It was a lesson learned and you are wiser for it. Let it go. You don't deserve the punishment that you are inflicting upon yourself. You're better than that.

Answer 5

I get obsessed sometimes with similar things, but it's just silly...

Relax, my dear. It's only money, and not even a lot of money- just30 bucks. You gonna make 100 times more in your life.

And you don't have to always spend your money on a right thing.Once in a while you'll spend it on a wrong thing - you are a human being, not a machine. Trust me, I've done it many times. We all have done it. NO BIG DEAL. :)REALLY:)

Think of what you need money for- TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE. You are putting money aside for school- good for you, you have a goal in your life and that's great! Think of your bright future, when you will finish school. You gonna spend money on necessary things and on things that are not so necessary, but just because you want them. Trust me, by then you are not gonna remember those friends and those 30 bucks. It's just hilarious.

Just try not to go along with the crowd next time, but do what YOU want to do. It's difficut and I know it from experience, so as you see it happened to me too and I consider myself an intelligent woman, and so do my friends. SO NO BIG DEAL. Just try to be with people whose company you enjoy.

And remember, that there is nothing more important than people, there is nothing more important, better than YOU. And MONEY IS MADE TO SERVE YOU and not vise versa.

Take care. I wish you good luck in achieving your great goal. And with finding love too, if you have not found one yet:) With all my heart.

Answer 6

What a wonder-full lesson you learned for just $30.00. From now on you inner voice will alert you when you know you do not want to participate in something that makes you feel uncomfortable! Allow yourself to accept you made a mistake, set it to one side, and continue on. If you bought a pair of shoes, and realized they were horrid, you probably could wince a little, then let it go, do the same here. Also, name-calling your-self is counterproductive, so when you hear that in your "Roof-Chatter", substitute, "I learned a great lesson, really cheap, and I will avoid that situation in the future." In a short amount of time, you WILL feel better. Be trusting that the adults in your family have also, on occasion, made similar mistakes, most of us have. Blessings

Answer 7

Everyone spends money unwisely from time to time. It was 30 bucks. its not like you gambled away 10 grand and hav eto put a lien on your house to avoid losing fingers. I think youre being slightly over sensitive about it, and dont need to forget it, just admit you made a mistake and move on.

What did you do? Buy hookers? You definately are not the first, and if it was only 30 bucks you got off easy (no pun intended,)

Answer 8

Don't forget a lesson well learned! Make that wasted $30 pay off the rest of your life by thinking ahead about not wanting to waste anothr $30.

Answer 9

I know how you feel though. I always feel bad when I leave the mall. Get those people to pay you back, first. I'd say leave the majority of your money with a friend, but most friends and money do not mix, so leave it with the bank, in a basically untouchable account, so you can't spend it.

Answer 10

I get buyers remorse too sometimes,If I were you Id chalk it off to one bad decision, and let it go. life is too short to sweat the small stuff, To feel better think of all the things your greatful for in your life, and all the GOOD decsions you have made in your life so far. Remember you cant have all yin and no yang. If that makes sence ;)