I am actually divorced and he says that he was comfortable and had no reasons to pursue a divorce. Is he saying that maybe perhaps there's a chance for him getting a divorce if he had reasons to like finding a special person?
2007-07-06 16:12:42 · 8 answers · asked by Pinky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is separated and comfortable with no reason to seek a divorce? And he says he loves you? Hmm... Sounds like that he is trying to have the best of both worlds !! First he wants to find someone special, And just how long will it take him to decide if your the special one or not?? I would suggest that you not pursue the relationship UNTIL he is divorced !! If you do i am afraid that you'll wind up getting severely hurt .. A little patience now will help you avoid heartache later .. Wait until he can FULLY commit to a relationship with YOU !! I really think that you need to express these concerns to him as well , If he is serious about a relationship, Then he will get a divorce FIRST !! I hope this has helped you and i wish you well !!
2007-07-06 16:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look...I used to be in love with a married woman. It's true! I can't lie or deny it. The key word here "USED TO". I had to say goodbye to her because she went back to her husband and kids. I was like a PLAN B for her. She never gave me a fri chance to be with her. She was married and when she was seperated from her husband. She was banging abother guy as a "F**k Buddy" ahs she called it. We never slept together, but I still was madly in love with her. I would have married her and adopted her 2 kids ( who are not biologically MINE!) But she never ever was single enough for that to happen. She always had a man around to sleep with. I felt like such a stupid, dumbass fool after it was all over. That was 5 years ago and I havent seen her since. Don't want to either!
So, you are involved with a MARRIED MAN...he just said he doesn't plan on getting a divorce. He's trying to have his cake ( his wife) cake and eat it ( you) too.
Look...you're better probably better off finding someone else to love you for who are...right where you are. The choice is up to you think about. Love is a choice...
2007-07-06 16:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Warrior Guardian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your name Heather.. J/K you sound just like my g/f and we are in the same situation as you to. Me and my wife are separated and she is divorced. Iook at it as me and my "wife" are good friends now, and there no doubt in either one of our minds we will get divorced. As for me there is on need to go out and get one right away. She has a b/f and there happy and there is no point I think to start a fight again over a divorce now. I do know that if she or I went to one another and said that either one of us is getting really serious, its time for the divorce then we would do it.
2007-07-06 16:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by crash2721 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat as your guy friend. I'm so not looking for another wife and I don't want to spend the money for blood sucking lawyers for a formal divorce. I'm living just fine 400 miles away from her and I'll stay here like this as long as it suits me. As far as that "special person" thing. I thought I had it with this one and she flipped out on my even before the actual wedding. I'm not going to EVER fall for that crap again from women. Marriage is a trap, it's legalized slavery. Once they get papers on your ***, you're dog meat.
2007-07-06 16:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOES HE FEEL THE SAME ABOUT YOU?
HE REALLY COULD BE COMFORTABLE .. BUT IM SURE
HE KNOWS THAT IF THINGS GET REALLY SERIOUS BETWEEN BOTH OF YOU THEN HE NEEDS TO PERSUE THE DIVORCE SO YOU BOTH CAN BE HAPPY TOGETHER.
LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL... DON'T HOLD ANYTHING BACK FROM HIM. OR YOU COULD END UP LOOSING HIM.
2007-07-06 16:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he's too cheap to actually cut ties with his wife and is probably still sleeping with her on the side.
2007-07-06 16:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, that's not what he's saying. He just wants his cake and eat it too.
2007-07-06 16:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, he's saying he doesnt plan on getting one.
2007-07-06 16:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋