please try to answer this guys and girls i have this guy friend but he started to like me more than a friend but i didnt i dont want to date him or lose him as a friend what should i do or say please help....
thank you
2007-07-06 16:05:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest with him. Tell him you do not feel the same way. You like him as a friend. If he hurts too much to be around you, then you can put the friendship on hold or end it. It is always best to be honest, or otherwise, he may have hope for what is not there.
2007-07-06 16:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, you have to nip the bud immediately. There is no point letting this linger on and giving him some hope. I would either take him out, or if you have a place of privacy cook a meal, invite him over and tell him exactly how you feel. You can do it gently, even though it still will hurt him if he has feelings for you, but there is no other way. Tell him that you feel very strongly for him as a friend, and as a friend only, and you would hope that the two of you remain good friends always, but that you do not want to be dating him as a boyfriend. The big problem besides his reaction, is should you meet someone you want and start going with him, and have to cut time with your friend. In addition, most guys do not like their girls to have male friends, especially close ones. I myself do not like it. If you do not plan anything romantic with this guy, I would cut down seeing him often. Also, I would make going out with him a less than romantic evening by attending things like a ball game, etc., where there is no romantic atmosphere. If he is an extra nice guy, and you have strong, friendly feeling for him there is a chance that by knowing him more you might change, but do not tell him that. Also, should he start going out with another girl do not show that you are upset in any way either, as you have then given him the free do-as-you-will. It is sad we are never loved by the people that we love usually, but love is a thing that grows and matures. Very few people know it is the right one immediately. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-07-06 23:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by rompompe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haa same thing hpnd to me. wat i did was i faced him and tld him that i really like him as a frend but i just cant see us going out. and he was really upset with mee like really really upset. then i started being the one to IM him and to go up and talk to him just that way he knew that i cared and i wanted to be frends and now everything is ok. =] plus... u should never date someone out of pity...it's not fair for either of u bc its not an honest relationship. so u shouldn't feel bad about telling the truth either.
2007-07-06 23:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by shorty babee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him as soon as possible, because if you wait to long his not going to want to be your friend when you tell him the truth to late. trust me if he becomes your friend he will only do it to be with you and to have some hope.
2007-07-06 23:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋