I am 21 years old and my parents still treat me like I am a kid. Is there anyway that I can get them to treat me differently? I have a steady job and I go to college, I take care of myself, but they will not let me move out. They are old fashioned and want me to stay at home until I am married!!!!!! They still ground me from my car because they won't let me buy it from them. I don't want to move out because they will dis-own me they say, but I can't be held hostage here my entire life. Any advice?
2007-07-06 14:56:46 · 9 answers · asked by Kayla B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
All I can say is I feel your pain. I'm 24, a college graduate working on her masters, I have a full time job and I practically have no essence of a social life. I have wanted to move out since I was 19 years old, but I'm in the same boat as you, my parents are extremley old fashioned. all I can say is hang in there, try to occupy your time with some extra hobbies, for instance I'm a singer/songwriter and I play piano, so that takes my mind off of the living arrangments I currently have. try to show your parents that you can be independent like spontanously cooking supper, or taking care of household cleaning and stuff like that. Also try talking to them, mine are stubborn so its not that I haven't tried, but maybe yours are different. Let them see your point of view and also look at it from there point of view. Good Luck.
2007-07-06 15:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by angelbear5198@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want to be treated like an adult, you need to act like one. You're 21 years old with a steady job. Move out. They cannot prevent you from doing so. They may say they will disown you, but they won't. As long as you live with them and let them support you, you are still a child and they will treat you as such. Be a grown up . . . and the first move is to rent your own place!
2007-07-06 22:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's some advice. If your parents are treating you like a baby, then you should have a small chat with them. Tell them your older and you are independent. But remember to tell your parents you love them. They care about you a lot, which is important, and the only way you can convince them to stop treating you like a child is talking! Good Luck with your conference with your parents!
2007-07-06 22:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Yolanda F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your parents while they are still around. They love you so much that's why they want you to live with them. If I were you, I will look at your "problem" as a blessing. I don't believe they hold you hostage. I am sure you can go out with your friends anytime you want. There is no greater joy than making your parents happy, isn't it?
2007-07-06 22:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your parents are afraid to let their "little girl" go. Speak to your parents (as an adult), explain to them how you see it. I would buy a car yourself - that would be the first step to prove to your parents your an adult. It worst comes to worst - find a roommate & move out. Good Luck. Its very hard for parents to let go of their children.
2007-07-06 22:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by Suzi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for what your going through at this Adult 21 time of your life.. Parents (I am one) are funny, they do not want to let go...
My children are not at your age and I would not do what your parents are doing to you. I think it is harmful to your relationship with them.
Would they consider family counseling?? that is where I would start.
Good Luck and God Bless...
2007-07-06 22:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a place of your own.If you can afford to.If not, tough it out until you can.The one who pays the bills gets to make the rules.
2007-07-06 22:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this a cultural or religious thing? hard to break out of either but, you have to live your own life. just move out. technically, they can't stop you.
2007-07-06 22:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should talk to them your 21 your old enough
2007-07-06 23:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by VALERIA L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋