I am a christian baptist I have been dating a JW, I need to know what should I do? I am in LOVE and we are planning on getting married only if I change religion, of course... But my question why would he date me if he knew I wasn't a JW and know I am stuck and I don't know what I should do... HELP! If you are a JW please advise me.
2007-07-06 13:42:37 · 27 answers · asked by YssiK 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I WANT A JW ANSWER!!!!!!!
2007-07-06 14:04:48 · update #1
It seems impossible to know what an anonymous self-described "Jehovah's Witness" was thinking when he began dating a non-Witness.
Perhaps the apparent "Witness" had an immature appreciation of the nature of "dating", viewing it as mere recreation rather than as preparation for marriage (as the bible and the religion teach).
Perhaps the apparent "Witness" sincerely believed that his significant other would be genuinely drawn to the bible truths of his religion, and chose to use human reasoning rather than biblical guidance regarding how best to share "the good news".
Perhaps the self-described "Jehovah's Witness" is not fully dedicated to the faith, and merely seeks to please his human family by a show of adherence which he now extends to his future spouse.
Ironically, many current Jehovah's Witnesses originally studied with the religion for reasons which were less-than-ideal.
(Jeremiah 20:7) You have fooled me, O Jehovah, so that I was fooled. You used your strength against me, so that you prevailed.
Perhaps the largest single group of these is formerly unbelieving spouses. Time and again, a reasonable husband quietly tolerates his wife's newfound association with Jehovah's Witnesses until it becomes clear that this is no passing distraction; whereupon the intelligent, sophisticated husband takes it upon himself to "expose" what he condescendingly assumes is a series of naive and unscriptural teachings. If he is a fair-minded person, the passing weeks or months of study will bring surprise after surprise, and a growing respect for the bible scholarship of Jehovah's Witnesses.
(1 Corinthians 1:20) Where is the wise man? Where the scribe? Where the debater of this system of things? Did not God make the wisdom of the world foolish?
Admittedly, not all unbelieving spouses who study with Witnesses quickly become Jehovah's Witnesses themselves. But an extraordinary number who study openmindedly do 'bear fruit and produce'.
(Matthew 13:3-23) [Jesus] told them many things by illustrations, saying: “Look! A sower went out to sow; and as he was sowing, some seeds fell ...upon the fine soil and they began to yield fruit... As for the one sown upon the fine soil, this is the one hearing the word and getting the sense of it, who really does bear fruit and produces
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http://jw-media.org/people/ministry.htm
2007-07-09 19:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a JW doesn't mean we are perfect. Changing for someone else is against most of the things we believe in. It must be a personal decision. My question is why did he begin the relationship in the first place other than your most amazing self? Thinking ahead, to this point, he must realize how much a problem this would cause.
"Marry only in the Lord." is not for JWs only. It is to avoid pain for everyone no matter the faith.
Whether you marry or not, only change faith because you desire to. I am a JW and we only need people who want to be here. Jehovah understands. I advise to investigate for yourself. There is no one who will put any wrestling holds on you to accept the teachings either way. It will cost you nothing. Marrying some guy, no matter how special you believe him to be, is no reason to change.
2007-07-06 14:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by grnlow 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You should only become a Jehovah's Witness if you want to. He can't force you into it. He should have thought about dating you before you guys got into this mess. I think that maybe you should ask him some questions about Jehovah's Witnesses. What have you got to loose. And you could teach him a few things about yours. Just go with what you feel is right. If it doesn't work out, then it won't. You can't change that.
to other responders: We are not a cult! We follow the bible. Yes we do read the bible. EVERYDAY. (most of us) Maybe you should stop judging and actually learn about us before. Stop reading those false websites. They don't teach you ANYTHING. Jehovah's Witnesses are the nicest people you'll ever meet.
2007-07-09 20:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He dates you and wants to marry you because he loves you.
That being said, are you willing to change your religion? Not for him, just to get married, but because you truly believe in the same things?
Your marriage will be much stronger and happier if you are both of a like mind considering religion. Maybe you should go to both churches and seek counsel from the elders or minister, pray together, and see what comes.
As someone who studies with the Jehovah's Witnesses, but has not officially joined the church, I can say it is a peacefilled place with many good lessons. But do not join any church just to be with someone, or it is not genuine. If by your own decision, through study, you decide you would like to leave your church (and many of your birth family, most likely) behind, let that be your own heart's choice, and not just for him.
You sound quite young. Do not rush into marriage. Study and learn what you believe, and find someone of like mind. I know very many happily married Witnesses, and the togetherness of the church family is a powerful force to support a marriage. I do not know as many Baptists personally, so I cannot say one way or the other on that, but I am sure there is a similar feeling there too. Neither of you should force a conversion to the others church, it should be a decision each of you as individuals makes.
My Brother is an athiest, and he married an Irish Catholic woman. They have two children, and although he goes to church on occasion, and took a vow to raise his children as Catholics, he doesn't believe the same as his wife. They have gotten along fine with this, but their kids don't really have a foundation in anything. My nephew went to Catechism (spelling?) and had his First Communion, but he said he felt nothing, it was just because his Mom wanted him to go. Dad went and took photos, and they gave him a Bible and had a celebration, but most of his family in the United States had no idea what it was about, so he didn't either. They stopped going to church eventually. Having parents who not only agree on religion, but embrace it as a family is much more ideal.
This may seem very far down the road to you, being young and in love, but it is a huge decision. One of you will probably lose most of his or her's family, so be sure you are doing this for the right reasons.
God bless you!
2007-07-06 14:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by 2 Happily Married Americans 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
he is a human and humans make mistakes he knows is not going to be a easy relationship hidden from friends etc ,etc also the bible advice that not been involved in unequal yoke
I suggest to stop, but first read the bible together maybe that will clarified some things.
It is false that JWS don´t believe that Jesus is divine you only have to see all our publications of course he is not Jehovah that is his father.
if you wish email me I can give you some more advice.
2007-07-06 13:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think he's not a very good JW. you shouldn't become a JW just because of him. If you are it should be for yourself.
2007-07-08 09:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 01:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is truly a Jehovah Witness then you will have to change your religion if you want to be with him. His religion forbids marrying someone outside of it. Think long and hard before changing your religion for a guy. Can you live your entire life praying to a religion that you don't believe in? Can you give up celebrating holidays and birthdays for the rest of your life? I suspect that as much as you love him you might find that you wouldn't be able to live with him.
2007-07-06 13:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nell 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You shouldn't be forced to convert to a religion if you don't want to. It has to be heartfelt and not because you want to please your boyfriend or anyone else. If you want to be a Jehovah's witness, become one of your own merit. But if you don't, you should tell your boyfriend that; he is already wavering by trying to marry outside the faith. You should ask him why he is willing try to forcefully convert someone he loves so he can be happy. I know his intentions may be sincere; he certainly really loves you, but once again, dedication to Jehovah is your choice and yours alone.
2007-07-06 14:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by rdb_tigers101 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
people on here who know nothing about Jehovah Witnesses will tell you what you want to hear. I agree with my brothers and sisters. don't change your religion because your boy friend wants you to. that has to be your choose. Jehovah does not want someone to become a witness for anyone else. he wants you to love him and worship him because you want to become a witness. go to a meeting one Sunday with him and talk to the elders and ask questions. take this from a mother and a Jehovah Witness
2007-07-06 14:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋