I and my family allowed my best friend to stay with us until she gets on her feet. She and her parents were not getting along to well, so she moved out. She has been with me for the past two weeks. I have explained to her my and my families belief (religion) months prior to moving in. She knew the in's the out's, do's and dont's. Nothing was a surprise. Tonight will be her last night here then she is moving back home. In my beliefs friday evening begins the day of reverence and worship to God. On this day from sunset to sunset wordly pleasures are not desired nor sought. My friend is aware of this despite that fact she still insisted to watch television even though she had been informed that the activity wasnot allowed on this nite. Also the program she had already seen a couple of days ago. I reminded her of this and she replied with quite an attitude retorting with "What does that have to do with me? I am not in your religion." This seemed very disrespectful to my family. Thoughts??
2007-07-06 13:19:27 · 26 answers · asked by shabobla j 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes that is disrespectful, not only of your beliefs, but of your household rules. She is under your roof, and must follow your rules.
EDIT: you guys just don't get it do you? she wasn't "forcing" her religion on her friend, or even wanting her to follow it. The point is her friend knew the rules of the HOUSE SHE WAS STAYING IN, and didn't follow them, because it "wasn't her religion." When you go to a hotel or a restaurant, do you not follow the rules because it "isn't (____)" to you? You have to follow the rules of where you are no matter what. Her friend was very disrepectful.
2007-07-06 13:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Greetings / MM;
I do believe your friend to have disrespected your religion , home, and your person. There are unspoken rules to being a guest, one of which is to respect the way the household is run. I can certainly understand a different belief system, but she took things entirely too far. Her being of a different belief is no excuse. And her knowing of the differences beforhand makes it worse. The answer is a resounding YES.
2007-07-06 15:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by insanedragonpooflinger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That pisses me off!!! Did you let your friend stay there out of the kindness of your heart or did you just see it as an opportunity to push your beliefs on her. If she is sitting in a different room where you are not and you can't see or hear the television then what does it matter? It doesn't distract what your doing and she shouldn't be forced to your family's customs just because shes staying in your house. When my friends family's pray when i stay over for dinner they respect that i don't believe in that and have no problem with me scooting my chair back and not joining. It's you who is being disrespectful.
2007-07-06 13:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by elyseh 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think I am sensing why your friend and her family may have had problems...
At whatever home we are at, rules of the household should be respected...or, on the ay or night when you observe such, maybe she should have been carted off to another friend's home if she doesn't agree with your Belief or the practices...
She has yet to grow up....bear with her and forgive...she obviously doesn't have what you have with her own family, and remember, though we tell people of our beliefs and practices, she probably thought she wasn't included since she wasn't of your Belief...and had not lent it any thought.
May you find Peace :)
2007-07-06 13:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by ForeverSet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You explained your families beliefs, but did you make it clear that those beliefs would be imposed on even those who did not share them (meaning her)?
As an atheist, if I had a house guest who was a theist, I would never even consider demanding that she live by my beliefs. If she chose to pray, I wouldn't think of telling her that that's not allowed in my house.
Everyone has a right to set certain rules of conduct in their homes, but I think that expecting a house guest to follow your religion is going a bit far.
2007-07-06 13:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by YY4Me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is disrespecting you and your family. I don't think it would matter to her what your faith is. She is either in a selfish part of her life or she is just selfish, and she is not being a very good friend. Stand your ground. This is your home and YOUR beliefs are to be respected no matter what she is going through.
2007-07-06 13:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by LDS~Tenshi~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see both sides...she is in your home and your religion doesnt allow you to do certain things, but at the same time, you allowed her to stay in your home and you cant force your religion on her while she is there as your guest. what did you want her to do? sit around and do nothing all day becuase you cant? maybe you shoud have suggested something else to do together.
2007-07-06 13:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless it is directly contradictory to one's spiritual belief (an abstaining from watching TV is not to my knowledge so) it is insulting and disrespectful to not follow the rules of anyone's home you are staying in, regardless of what your "religion" may or may not be. I am a vegetarian, so I wouldn't eat meat if I stayed with you, but it's not going to harm me in any way to not watch TV, so this is something that would be appropriate to do. She obviously is rude and doesn't care about other people, which is probably why she is having problems with her relationship with her own parents.
2007-07-06 13:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by darla 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She could be a more gracious guest, yes. I'm not sure I'd call what she did disrespectful. Inconsiderate, maybe. I don't believe she's under any obligation to observe your religious practice but she could maybe go watch TV at the sports bar down the street.
2007-07-06 13:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Technically she's not disrespecting your religion anymore than you are disrespecting her beliefs. However she is definitely disrespecting the rule of your household and should respect you at that. End of story.
2007-07-06 13:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by wise1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋