I have been caring for my 7yr old daughter for almost 2 years with minimal help from her mother. There was a time where she didn't see her mother for weeks at a time.(per her mother).
My daughter is living with me and sees her mother more in the recent year since she has settled down and had another 2 kids with her boyfriend. Now that they are married she has insisted that she wants to be with her daughter more and I can have her on weekends.I don't think that it's fair that she can assume none of the responsibility of taking care or providing for my daughter for these last couple of years, and now when its convenient for her she wants her back. Things were hard for me to when we broke up but I still handled my responsibility. she has not pitched in at all for her school clothes, or expenses and now wants to make demands. What can I do. I don't want to keep her from her mom, so at most I would like joint custody. What are my chances.
2007-07-06 12:37:20 · 6 answers · asked by darkwolfe_01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to speak to someone who specialises in family law matters.They can best advise you as to how to obtain joint custody.
2007-07-06 12:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A judge will be hesitant to change your daughters stable living arrangement.
You need to prove you are the better parent by
1. having a plan in store for your daughters future
2. having daycare for your daughter when you are at work
3. showing an interest in her school functions, how well she is
doing at school and how stable her environment is
4. providing for her spiritual and social needs.. you belong to
a church and attend regularly
5. providing for her health care and wellbeing
6. showing the judge your daughter comes 1st in all things.
7. keep your girlfriends out of the court room if there are any
8. show the judge you have family ties, grandparents etc
involved in your childs life.
9. Dont ask for joint custody....if you ask for joint, the judge
may flip the custody and give it to her mother. show that
your main interest is the welfare and safety of your child.
I think your chances are good. Show the judge you are willing to work with her mother for the benefit of your child and you will do well.
Been there done all that!!!
2007-07-06 12:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live in the USA, then you better get to Family Court and start working on visitation and also get some back child support for your daughter.
It appears as though, in the USA, have very good chances of keeping it the way it is with your ex having the weekends. With your ex not seeing the child or supporting the child is a black mark against her.
If need to, get a lawyer but you should be able to do it all yourself in Family Court.
2007-07-06 12:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand which you fairly want him to be an element of your daughter's existence - yet while he's not prepared to realize this then you definately shouldn't attempt to tension it. think of roughly it like this...do you fairly think of your daughter could be in stable hands with a man or woman who would not want to be round her or guard her? set aside the reality that he's her father - he's clearly conveying to you that he would not want to guard your daughter or be stricken with it. no remember how plenty you like him to be a father and to be an element of your daughter's existence, he's the only man or woman who could make that ensue. you're lacking the entire element right here. somewhat of attempting to discover the thank you to MAKE him see your daughter, you're able to be attempting to document for finished custody so he won't be able to confirm your daughter. adult adult males like this have not any precise being a confirm! This guy is a undesirable excuse of a father, i won't be able to confirm why you're able to even want to place your daughter in the process the torture of having to confirm a "father" that would not want to be a father to her. Are you questioning approximately your daughter in all of this? sure it will be confusing being a single confirm - yet realistically, that's what you're the two way you like to look at it. Your ex would not want to be a father now, and he nonetheless would not want to be a father if the court docket instructed him he had to. Do your self and your daughter a want and get this guy out of your existence for stable. document for finished custody of your daughter, and concentration on being a reliable mom to her. considering she would not have a father who supplies a sh!t, she is going to need her mom to be there for her much greater. on the tip of the day, and guy may well be a father - besides the undeniable fact that it takes a particular kind of guy to be a daddy.
2016-11-08 08:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by jannelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from what i know you have to try and prove the mom as an unfit mother...&& i think thats pretty much it..
2007-07-06 12:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the courts what she did and give them a list of what you want.
2007-07-06 12:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋