I love my girlfriend and really want to be with her but she is making it really hard for me. She developed minor acne on her face about 4 months ago and she doesnt want to be seen by anybody including ME!! I do see her but just barely (once every two or three weeks). We talk everyday on the phone and I try to bring her up by complimenting her and saying nice things but she tells me to stop doing that. Also, she doesnt show me any affection at all -she says if she doesnt love herself she cant love anybody. This used to be a very great relationship until the acne and I dont care about the acne because I love her and I know she loves me too. Why cant she understand that?? Im really trying to make it work but shes making it really hard for me. I want it to work, what can I do??
2007-07-06 11:09:05 · 8 answers · asked by StraPPeD!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you jussnneed to tell her that no matta what u love her and that u dont care if she has 100 pimples on her face that u love her for her. u love her for the person that she is not for her looks and that u want to spend time with her. And as far as her insecurity that is a person problem that she has with herself that will take time for her to work with and to overcome and it also means that she has low self-esteem which you can also help her work with that by juss telling her hoiw beautiful she is and how much you love her but also keep in mind that it is very hard to try and love someone else before you love yourself. so the best advive that i can give to you is to juss be there for her day in and day ut and juss love here for her.
Good Luck
2007-07-06 11:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by SexieIndianPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are very sensitive to their looks ( sometimes to the exclusion of everything else). Normally I would have asked you to understand that fact. However, it has been about 4 months since your girlfriend got her case of acne. Her subsequent reaction has been out of proportion to the reason. I am inclined to believe that there is some other reason at work here.Maybe, she is using this as an excuse to stop dating you. Think about it: she does not want to see you, does not want you to compliment her,can't love you until she loves herself;all because she has acne?I feel for you because you love her and might not want to take a chance on losing her.But I think she no longer loves you, and might even have somebody new.Has she not left her house in 4 months to go to school, run errands, take care of important matters that can't wait? As painful and scary as it might seem to you ,ask her directly if she still loves you and want to continue the romance.If she says yes then tell her you want to see her and don't care how she looks since you love all of her.If she refuses to see you, then I suggest you move on. Good luck.
2007-07-06 11:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K, well if its her body shes insecure about. Let her know shes hotttt!!!! You like to hear ur hot right, she needs to hear it too, all the time. When u c her after school or work, say hi and then compliment her. If u r about to get it on and shes affraid to show her body, talk to her. Let her know u luv her and nothing could change wut u feel 4her. If she cries, hold her. Let her know, youll be with her, u wont judge her, u love her for her, not her body and sex. Let them know they have you. If they trust and know ur theirs, they will open up. I didnt want to really to anything with my bf when we first started dating until i knew we would have a more trusting relationship and it wasnt some fling. so if its the body shes insecure about, always tell her shes pretty, give her lil comments every now and then "hey gorgeous", call her, buy her flowers. the little things will get ur gf loving and appreciating u....and, dont check out other girls infront of her, this will not help u or her in any way
2016-05-20 01:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to see a dermotologist to help her with her acne. This acne issue could be cleared up in no time under doctor's care.
Perhaps you can speak with her parents and tell them of your concern for their daughter as she seems to be hiding from the world.
Good luck!
2007-07-06 11:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her exactly what you just posted.. tell her that you dont care about the acne because you love her and you know she loves you too.
hope it works <3
2007-07-06 11:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by blahh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would show her your question on yahoo answers cause this is really sweat and it sounds like you are a really nice guy, and tell her that you love her with or without acne. recommend some acne medication.
2007-07-06 11:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by itsmybirthday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"She developed minor acne on her face"
thats the problem.
there is no such thing as minor acne on a girls face. to her, its the size of a bowling ball.
hang in there, it will go away.
then she will be too fat, thin, tall, short.
hair will have too much body, not enough.
boobs will be too small, too big.
hips are too big, too small.
feet are too big, small.
retaining too much water at certain times of the month.
you have got a long road ahead of you, get used to it.
2007-07-06 11:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep talking to her and keep telling her you miss her/love her/want to see her. if that doesn't work tell her that her insecurity is putting a wedge and you love her too much for that. is the girl is the one honesty should improve the relationship not make it worse
2007-07-06 11:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋