I feel so sorry for this girl who lives next door to me. She is 16 and has learning disabilities which is only noticeable when you talk to her. She has been living there a coulpe of years and I hate the way they treat her. With her foster parents being very old she is forced to do ALL the house work which I notice every day when I'm in the back garden and they always sream at her if she has not done everything or has not done them quick. She dose everthing even picking up the dog poo. She also wears all her foster mothers hand me downs cloths form the 50s like very long grey dresses and grey tops. She looks stupid and embarresd. What should I do. She always looks down in the dumps. my mum and she thinks the same and says the foster perents have treated all the foster children like this for years. But every time they are reported they are always smile when ever anybody calls around. Am I being to nosy.
2007-07-06 10:13:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No,get in there and stir things up..No one should be treated like that....
2007-07-06 10:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by trish b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm it's one thing to purposely get pregnant knowing you cant take care of the child its another to get pregnant by accident (like condom breaks and girl didnt know, etc) and then decide to be responsible and care for the child that is yours, rather than take the "easy way out' (I put in quotes bc its actually a lifetime of painful reminders) and have an abortion. But also you could ask this: Do you think it's selfish for rich people to have children, only to have an overpaid nanny raise the child for them, while the mom is busy with parties, socializing, etc.? and Desmeran, you ate my words! couldnt have summed it up more perfectly. Yes, I agree. It's not a privelage, it's a REPRODUCTIVE RIGHT THAT NEITHER YOU NOR I CAN DECIDE FOR SOMEONE ELSE. This almost reminds me of those communist ideas to make sterile "unfit" people. And while to other ppl it may not seem like the "best" or "good' idea to have a child, it's that person's life, not ours, their body, not ours, their child, not ours. edit: well maybe to you not overpaid, but Ive heard of some getting a quarter of the husband's paycheck (which really doesnt make a diff to him bc he makes so much anyway) which is a lot, it's almost as if the parents are BEGGING them to raise their child for them.
2016-05-20 00:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a foster carer and your question disturbs me.We all know there are good and bad carers from previous press coverage and that abuse remains unaddressed.You can take your concerns to the local authority children's services.(social services).Ask to speak to team manager not a social worker.Voice your concerns accurately and give as much info as possible.Tell them you are aware of previous investigations and that the child needs to be spoken to privately with an advocate to support her.If you have heard screaming and witnessed abuse do not let this drop.Better still go to the social services offices in person.This is something that needs investigation and if you get no response do not give up.Let me know how you get on or if you need further advice.
2007-07-06 10:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Niamh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no your not been nosy,, the world would be a lot better place if people reported these things more often. i was brought up by foster parents and they were horrid but no one ever listend to me , contact childline they will look into the situation fully, dont give up till you get a result. and let the so called carers know what your intensions are, good look martyn
2007-07-06 21:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by pooly37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact Social Services - the Family Placement team.
2007-07-06 10:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by godron_wookie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing to do is to keep reporting them. Eventually they may get caught out. You could try keeping a log of whats going on and maybe taking photos but I dont know how legal the photos would be in a situation like that. You could end up in trouble.
2007-07-06 10:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to identify yourself when making a phone call to Social Services - they are quite accustomed to people preferring to remain anonymous when expressing concern about a child in the neighbourhood.
Of course, if you didn't mind being identified, it would give you more opportunity to discuss your worries with a Social Worker.
There will be a record (I hope) of past referrals.
2007-07-06 10:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Veronica Alicia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could speak to social care services? Look up your council website and it should have details on there for you on how to contact them...you can do it anonomously so your neightbours wont know its you!
If you have a concern its better to air it then possibly let a child grow up in a bad way!
2007-07-08 08:47:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people do this because the services give them money to care for the foster child. i would call social services and give them proper evidence. this is really cruel there suppose to be giving her a better life not a worse one...
2007-07-06 10:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Durossndamaken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not just being nosy, you are being a concerned and caring person. I really think you need to report these people. Foster children aren't free servents, they are children who desperately need love and a family to care for them.
2007-07-06 10:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no people like that need to be reported,and should never have had foster kids. kids that are in foster care are very vunerable before going to new parents,kids should know there safe. report her on the nspcc web site you can do it without them knowing. save her from more pain.
2007-07-06 12:51:08 · answer #11 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋