How can i help my cousin?

Question

She is 16 and does cocaine. She and i are very close and im the only one who knows but since she told me i feel i have to tell her father. She will never speak to me agin but how can i convince her its for her own good?

Answer 1

That may be one of the hardest things ever to do,but if she gets mad it would only be a short time.If by telling her father will help her do that,because i know it will only get worse.She will come to understand the good of your heart.She is and has been crying out and she leans alot toward her new happenings.I have someone so very close to me and he don't know if hes comeing or going,there are kids and there now getting a divorce.Shes 16 years old and how fast it can happen is as much as you use,but basicly in a couple of years his brains about fried.I worry about him every day,but i can't help him hes in to deep and it's up to his wife to do this.I'am not sure if i helped but help her while you can.

Answer 2

She'll hate you for now. Her bitterness is a lot easier to handle then going to her funeral because you didn't say a word!

Talk with her and let her know how you feel. Let her know that you love her and care for her and don't want to see her throw her life away! Give her a time frame in which to confront her parents. Let her know if she doesn't, she leaves you no other choice. This eliminates you going behind her back! You are being up front and honest. Sounds easy but I know it won't be. Expect the worst response. Most addicts don't see their own problem and believe everyone is making too big of a deal. Be prepared for her to be extremely mad. This is a chance you have to take if you are willing to save her life.
If she refuses to go to her parents, then you need to stick to what you say and tell her parents. I would give her 3 weeks. Offer to stand by her in support when she tells her parents.
tough love is the best when it comes to drugs. It hurts in the beginning but once the addict sees their true reflection they will be grateful! Be a good friend and do the right thing!

Answer 3

This is a tough one, she is going to hate you at first if you tell her dad. So she can't know it came from you because, she is going to need your support as she is trying to quit, it's a hard addiction to give up. Perhaps, if her parents are open-minded rational people you guys can come up with something without letting on to her that if came from you. Perhaps, she has to have a physical for insurance purposes and during the physical she has to give a urine sample, the Dr. can do a drug test. Or maybe if she is close with her parents they can talk to her about the change in her behavior, because anyone abusing coke has behavioral changes.

Good Luck and don't keep quiet a lot of bad things can happen while using cocaine.

Answer 4

I am just going to reiterate what other people have said - tell her father because she needs to get help and to be honest if he finds out you knew the whole time and said nothing you are not only going to have a problem with your cousin, but with your uncle as well. Doing the right thing isn't always easy, but in the long run this will be for the best. When she gets angry with her tell her the truth and say to her you did it because you loved her. She might not accepted it now but in the long run it will be for the best.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

There is no convincing her. Just tell her father, and get over the fact that she will be mad. It is better then not telling and she ends up dead. Which guilt would you rather have? My best friend and former roommate was addicted to drugs, in fact she had my house raided by the DEA. The next day when I came home, that was it, I called her family. She was very pissed off at me. Her family put her in rehab, she realized, it she should of been mad at herself and not me. I say, tell her dad ASAP.

Answer 6

That's a very dangerous drug, and deadly. and yes you should tell her father, she needs help she may not forgive you right away but later on down the line she will. you wouldn't want her life to need before she even has a change to live

Answer 7

Well to tell you the truth im sure eventually she will get over it. You need to do what you know is best for her. She will thank you later. It is important that she gets help now before she gets to deep into it and it gets harder to stop. do the right thing.

Answer 8

She will hate you and convincing her will do nothing. Go tell her father so she can get some help.

Answer 9

OK. She's your cousin and you think a lot of her.
But, messing with coke is dynamite.
Before she drags you down the tube, do tell her father.As for never talking to you again, toooo bad!
Do you respect her for doing coke???
If she never talks to you again, really, what have you lost?

Answer 10

You should tell someone you don't want something to happen to her then think i should have told someone do it before its to late and the drug takes over her life she is young and has lots to live.