my boyfriend is great, but every time we go somewhere out to eat (which is rare), even if it's applebee's, or let's say we go to kings island (even more rare), he b*tches the whole time "geez, this is expensive" .. he just bought an xbox 360 and a $600 projector.. yet he complains about money even if we go to somewhere nice to celebrate for his birthday and i pay. he looks at the menu and i could almost bet the people at the next table i'll hear "geez, this is expensive". he makes good money at his job and has quite a few thousand in the bank. why is he saying this?? it's insulting! i am easy to please and i don't ask him for materialistic sh*t. i don't mind simple stuff like watching a dvd at home or going to mcdonalds if we're out and we're hungry, but this is getting on my nerves. we're going to cedar point next month and i will GUARANTEE everyone that i will hear that the whole entire time we are there. what do i do without being mean.. i am losing my patience??!
2007-07-06 09:37:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
some of you obviously jumped to a conclusion instead of trying to help me. i love him and i am not dumping him. HE IS THE ONE WHO OFFERS TO PAY AND THEN HE COMPLAINS ABOUT IT. when i offer to pay, he doesn't let me. it's as simple as that.
2007-07-06 15:04:10 · update #1
rainbow: i know that love isn't about money, i'm 25, i do not need to be told that.
random cool guy: stop being a jerk.
chad y: i didn't ask for you to call him names.
daniel: your answer was not only sarcastic, it was sexist too. shut the f**k up.
all four of you need to grow up. this is yahoo answers, not yahoo insults. do us all a favor, and use your drama for acting class when you start 7th grade. =)
2007-07-06 15:14:26 · update #2
Before you go anywhere tell him how embarrassing it is when he does that......and to please not do it when you're out together.
If he still does it....he doesn't respect you or your feelings.
2007-07-06 09:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're really getting so fed up with this, then I question just how "great" your relationship is. This is minor and has nothing to do with you, since he says it whether you pay or not.
I agree with him. A lot of places charge a lot for very little. Perhaps you should make it more of a special treat, though I'm not sure how often you go out to eat. The rarer it is, the less concerned he may be about the money. This would mean you eat in more often, so if he doesn't help out with making meals, perhaps he should be incorporated into that as well. It can be enjoyable.
As for the game system... think of it this way: games have a LOT of value in that they can be played over and over again without spending more money. Food is a one-time thing that doesn't last very long. You might be able to get 40-60 hours out of a good RPG, whereas a meal might last you 30 minutes and cost 25%+ of the game's price. The time spent enjoying the meal is only 2.5% of the time he can spend enjoying the game... But this part isn't too important. Focus o the rest.
2007-07-06 16:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by Skye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For some reason he is a penny pincher. It is good to learn the value of a dollar but to carry it to the extent where it can limit one from having a nice dinner out, then I see a problem. You need to just come out and be blunt with him as he is being rude and appearing stingy, and this has been making you feel anxious over a simple night out. He is being unfair of your feelings over money. Stand up for yourself and tell him that you can understand his concerns over money but that he ruins the event each time he brings it up. Maybe if he learned to separate what he will save from what he spends it would make him less anxious. Otherwise, I am afraid this will be the way he is for all times to come. You need to consider if this will be something you can live with.
2007-07-06 16:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just like that. He could be a millionaire and still complain about how expensive things are. More than likely, his parents are like this. Let him know how much it bothers you that he complains about it all the time. Tell him if he doesn't stop, that you refuse to go out in public with him any more.
2007-07-06 16:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me tell you from my point of view, I am not a cheap guy, but I don't like to spend money on ridiculous fancy but useless stuff. so while I had no trouble paying for something that is useful or even will only make me happy to have. I hate going to plcaes like starbucks or fancy restaurants that would charge you 4 times the supermarket price for the same item. and it really bugs me when I need to go to such places even though money means nothing to me because I feel scammed. if I can make a cup of coffee for 25 in my home, I wouldn't pay 3 or 4 dollars to buy just to sit in a fancy place
However it helps to tell him how you feel, he seems like a good guy to me, and he kinda think like I do. frankly all men thinks like that even if they don't verbalize it. so just tell him not to say such things in public
2007-07-06 16:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by ME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, men are kind of weird like that; most of my guy friends always say, "Girls are expensive!" and those are the ones who are single rofl. Most guys love to buy expensive things for themselves-maybe on your dates, you could offer to pay for him and he could pay for you? That way, he won't complain so much about things being expensive.
2007-07-06 16:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what? If he's watching a movie and says "Wow, this movie is good!" Does that bother you, too?
Maybe he's just commenting. Maybe he's trying to start a conversation. Maybe it really is too expensive and he realizes that you can eat for much less money if you use a grocery store and your own kitchen.
I'm sorry that it bothers you, but its obvious to me that its just the guy's personality.
2007-07-06 16:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel R 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Spend your own money...when you are subjected to someone elses budget you will be subjected to what they want to spend. Spend your money on the things that you want to do and whatever you want to eat. Be Interdependent...may change his point of view if he thinks you won't ask.
2007-07-06 16:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by 2sexxxy32 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my advice is drop him you need someone to feel your needs so tell him whats going on and how you feel and if he loves you he will at least he would take you to one good dinner and if he understands you then you were ment to be and if he wait if he bought a ******* xbox 360 then thats just crazy so what im saying is he still a cild you need a men not a boy trust me if been there
2007-07-06 17:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
lol... well tell him if its soo expensive to start selling his really expensive ****... lol.. or you could do something else... i kinda feel bad for saying that but its the truth.. you cant go and buy something really expensive for yourself and then bring your gf/bf somewhere that isnt all that expensive and say... "This is expensive" thats just total crap..... well thats just my opinion anyway...
2007-07-06 16:45:29 · answer #10 · answered by im... a.... tool..? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dealing with a cheap a** man is a definite NO-NO!
2007-07-06 16:42:57 · answer #11 · answered by brendita7277 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋