and i try to help her gain confidence but she pulls me down... but treating me like poop, should i keep trying to help her, or will she influence me with her negativity?
what do i do?
i have been depressed before.. and it is a horrible feeling... i dont want her to be depressed or to have low self esteem .. but i dont wan it for me either.
what do i do?
2007-07-06 09:18:28 · 4 answers · asked by leoncita 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Excuse me, but who's the mom here? You are putting way too much energy into "fixing" mom. You are not going to change her, you need to fix you. Do what you need to make you happy.
Mom still has the ability to change if she WANTS to. She will probably have to hit bottom before she opens her eyes and realizes that she needs to get help. But not from her kids, from a professional therapist of her own choosing.
I could spend hours talking to you about this. My mom has very low self esteem, is passive-agressive, and obsessive compulsive. It got worse as she aged. Currently she is in a nursing home with Alzheimers. That's another subject I could go on and on about.
Just love her. When she starts to bring you down, kiss her good-bye and leave. Then go shopping, play golf, or sit and cry. I really do understand and feel for you. Take care of yourself.
2007-07-06 11:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Granny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHy don't you sign up for a mom and daughter art class or attend CURVES together. You need to take up some activity and it doesn't matter if you are good at anything or not. What counts is that you are having fun together. You can help her to appreciate it but don't allow her to bring you down. If she brings you down she doesn't have to attend this activites but be determined to participate in them regardless of what happens. That way you will prevent from becoming depressed, yourself.
2007-07-06 16:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by black57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate that...but sometimes, mom's really can make you feel bad...and you have to sadly, realize, that you ca'nt make them lift you up..you have to do if for yourself...don't try to help her, you help yourself...just love her, and be kind, but bring yourself up, and be a star...have confidence, and let others see you shine...love your mom, but misery loves company, and don't let her or anyone, bring you down
2007-07-06 17:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try taking her out slowly slowly i'm sorry but i don't have any advice about it
try to see a privet consalting
2007-07-06 16:22:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋