ive been in a relationship for a year in a half now im always trying to make my boyfriend happy but hes kinda the opposite hes to busy with his friends and it seems like hes never going to grow up he tells me he loves me though but im not sure if he knows what love is ... we have great times together but for some reason i feel like his friends are more important idk what to do yeah i know people are going to say dump him but its not easy leaving someone and if i talk to him about things he never understands or always thinks hes right idk what to do
2007-07-06 08:46:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ahhh, another woman trying to change a man into what she needs instead of loving him for who he is.
Do yourself and the guy a big favor and go find somebody you don't have to renovate or "help grow up".
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2007-07-06 08:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, well I've never been in this situation myself but I've seen it happen to friends. A relationship is a two-way thing and it's certainly not very fair for you to be putting in all that effort for him when he does nothing in return! Friends are really important so if he's always too busy with his friends I think you should get together with your friends more and spend less time with him and then maybe he'll know how it feels. Alternatively you could try getting to know his friends a bit better and your boyfriend could get to know yours better too. I think you should definitely try having another talk with him and let him know how serious you are and how big an issue it is. Take a break from him if you need to! If all else fails then I'm afraid the best option would be to break up with him and find someone who's worth your time. Best of luck honey!
2007-07-06 15:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by spidermonkeyface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's ready for a commited relationship right now. By no means am I suggesting a break-up, just depends on how long you're willing to wait. He's having fun with his friends and not ready to 'settle down'. Assuming you're both still young, ease up and try to have some fun yourself.
2007-07-06 15:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by billyba22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not in the same place emotionally that you are. Everyone is different. I'm sure he loves you in his way. If you want to hang in there and hope that he'll change, it's your prerogative. However, if you are not fulfilled, why waste your time and his? He wants to play with his friends and you want a meaningful relationship. I say distance yourself for a while and see what happens.
2007-07-06 15:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"why are men so hard headed"
now, dont make generalizations, or i'll claim all women including you and especially you are feeble losers that need to turn to yahoo answers to get intimate problems solved :D
if you love someone, you must respect their values, and watch closely for those tiny details that he might convey to you. it is true, some people insist that their friends and mates will, shall and must remain as they have been, you should also realize, just because there is less room for love, that the love itself isnt strong, and that he doesnt love you.
mention to him (hint) you need more attention or tell him that you love him, ask him for honest answers, because without them you can only get so far.
2007-07-06 15:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymously Anonymous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are not hard headed. We are just beings of a much more vast intelligence known as MANkind. Just let me dumb it down a little to fit the soft-headed women intelegence. we is smartur then eu gurls is. we lik u puzys tho.
2007-07-06 15:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by Bencheddar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before it gets worst than it is ... I would set an oppointment up for Marriage Counceling. This will be great help for you and him. I wish you both the best of luck.
2007-07-06 15:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by Charley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why oh why would you want to stay in a relationship that you are unhappy in??? can't you imagine how much worse things will get if you get married? you better get out now before it's too late. you WILL meet someone else.
2007-07-06 15:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by Blue Jean Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both sexes are hardheaded. It's INDIVIDUALS, not either gender. Trust me.
Don't blame all men for a poor choice you made in companionship.
2007-07-06 15:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by Winston Smith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess for the same reasons women are.
2007-07-06 15:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋