I am getting married in Hawaii at the end of this year and my foster family already indicated that they will not be attending the wedding ceremony due to the cost (we will hold a reception here in town once we return and they will attend it).
How should I word an invitation for them and the rest of my relatives who are not attending? I don't want to insult them by saying that my fiance and I are "announcing" our marriage (that would be an announcement rather than an invitation) but I also don't want to say that we "request the honor of your presence" because then they may feel badly for not being able to attend... Please help!
2007-07-06 08:42:49 · 13 answers · asked by Monika 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Even if you know someone's not coming, send them a regular invitation anyway, to let them know you're thinking of them.
Who knows - their plans or finances may have changed since the last time you spoke to them.
2007-07-06 08:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by BeatriceBatten 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem when my son got married many years ago and this is how I see it. The children in the wedding are a different story, they should be at the reception unless the parents of the children want them to be home after the wedding. As far as the invitation goes, I would put down, "Adult Reception". The people that can't understand this are usually the kind that want to bring most of their family without any consideration for the cost to the family of the bride & groom. I say that if they get insulted, that's their problem. When an envelope is addressed to only 2 people, then they shouldn't expect to be able to bring anyone else to the receiption and that includes children.
2016-05-20 00:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do one of two things...either "split" your invitations into two formal invitations - one for the ceremony and one for the reception - and send them only the invitation for the reception. Or, have a version of your invitations printed with an invite to both the ceremony and reception, and one version printed with just an invite to the reception. This is pretty common practice for couples who have destination weddings and local receptions anyway, since most people don't expect all of their 200 guests to fly to a specific location for the ceremony alone.
The other option is to just send them an invitation to the ceremony and reception regardless of whether or not they already told you they'd be there. Chances are, being that they sound relatively close to you, they'd like to have the invitation for a momento from your special day.
2007-07-06 09:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by ♀B♀S♀ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can give them a call and tell them how you feel about that.
But it's usual to have two different cards (at least I saw them used here). One is a "participation", not sure if it's the right word in English, notification sounds dreadful. But that's what it is, you tell people about your wedding. The other is the invitation. In some cases, a third card is used. The invitation says that the newly weds will receive salutations outside the church and the other is and invitation for the party.
2007-07-06 08:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just sent them a regular invitation and RSVP card. Some people actually save the card as a memento. Even if they can't come, they know they are invited and you have some kind of concrete count. Things change, some might be able to make it after all.
2007-07-07 10:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sally and John are exchanging their wedding vows on Sept. 4th at the Coconut Grove Hotel at 2:00 p.m on the island of Kauai, Hawaii. A reception will be held on September 20th at 6:00 p.m. at the V.F.W. Hall.
2007-07-06 16:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already spoke to them and you know they are not coming and you know the reason. I don't think anyone is gonna get mad if the invitation says we resquest you presence. I personally would not send an invitation if i was already told the person would not attend. id be fustrated if i get an invitation when i already said i wasn't going, i would feel like you are pressuring me to go. so dont send an invitation but still word ot we request your honor or presence because it sounds nice that we.
2007-07-06 08:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just send them a regular invitation either way. That way if they change their minds for some reason you won't feel bad. And if they can't make it they will still be able to let you know via the reply card.
2007-07-06 10:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by ventity325 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually you word it just as you would everyone else's; everyone sends invites to people they know cannot come!
In your case, if you are printing your own, where you can print two batches,you could add a little line at the end like this: "We ask for your prayers and thoughts on that day if you are unable to attend" or "If you are unable to attend, we ask for your presence in thoughts and prayers."
2007-07-06 09:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by valschmal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send one to them anyways. With family members you never know if they have a book of (special things) book that they might want to save it in. Just to keep from hurt feelings thats what I would do.... And for your RSVP's put will you be attending in body or in sprit. That is a great wording for those who wont be able to make it and want to say it in a nice way ;) good luck!! :D
2007-07-06 08:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by *Saved by God's grace* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋