There are 12 kids in my family, my mom is pregnant, and there is a possiblity that we may be taking in a 4 yo boy (my half-brother. we were separated before i was adopted).others always assume my mom's a whore (she's not they had 5 and adopted 7), and we're living off welfare (we're not, my dad supports ALL of us. He's an architect). they have enough money, room, time, and love for us. so why do people assume my family's all lazy using up your precious tax dollars. just because some large famlies are like that doesn't mean we all are. personally, i think it's really none of your buisness. who cares if my parents want to adopt 20 kids. it's 20 more kids who aren't in the shelters and streets. and i'm not talking about people here on Y!A (so far you guys haven't been as mean as i thought you would be), i'm talking about every time i meet somebody new and they ask about my family, and i tell them, they make this face, and then tell their kids to stay away from me. jeez!!! lay off!!!!!
2007-07-06 08:29:30 · 8 answers · asked by Me, Myself, and I 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm sorry. this has really been aggravating me lately. it's nothing against ya'll. i just had to tell someone. please don't yell at me.
2007-07-06 08:30:24 · update #1
It sounds to me like you have a wonderful family and wonderful parents. Sorry that people are rude. It's wrong for them to THINK that about your family, let alone say anything.
2007-07-06 08:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by sparki777 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People assume that because it is stereotyping. They believe that because you have so many children and or family members that you are unable to bring in enough money to support everyone efficiently. They assume that you cannot manage. The best thing to do is to just ignore it.
Look at it this way, they may actually be the ones that are living on welfare. You never know. Don't feel bad that you have the family that you do. You know that you will always have someone there if you need something and that you will never get lonely. Just stick together as a family and let nothing stop you.
2007-07-06 09:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by Slider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I apologize for other people's ignorance. It's just a stupid stereotype. People assume a women keeps having kids because she just wants to sit at home and collect welfare. While this is true for some people you are right, this is not the case for everyone. If your parents can financially, physically, and mentally handle that many kids... I say go for! I know I couldn't do it myself though. I have a hard enough time with my one year old! It sounds like you have great parents who really care about their kids. I wouldn't get too bent out of shape about it. Let people think what they want... they might not be getting as much love from their families as you are.
2007-07-06 08:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by hootie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's great. The stereotype is from welfare moms who pop out kid after kid they know they can't afford. I know some of these.
I noticed in your story that your father's still around. I think families like yours where the father is around usually makes even a large family much better off. Kudos to your mom n dad for marrying and planning before having children.
2007-07-06 10:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 4 kids and am pregnant, people assume the same thing. even though we have enough that my husband is an E5 in the military and i am a stay at home mom and we do quite well! it is all about budget and finance.
people on my husband's ship say things like "haven't you heard of birth control?" or "haven't you figured out what causes that?"
why do people assume we are stupid, hello some people want a big family!!!!
i have another friend who is pregnant with her 4th and she was actually approached in the grocery store and told "it is single mothers like you who pop out one kid after the next and cause my taxes to be high" this friend is married and a stay at home navy wife/mom and not on government assistance, i could not believe the nerve of someone actually asking her that.
2007-07-06 08:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by Havanah_A 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
everybody is authorized to stay off the government, which i will't stand. yet i've got self assurance after 2 toddlers the family individuals won't get anymore will develop of their welfare income. this is as a results of fact in the previous this got here into play human beings might purely have 20 toddlers to get greater money, so regulations have been made to quit that from persevering with to ensue.
2016-10-01 01:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sucks for you. I've never met anybody who thought that about us (I am one of 8 kids).
I totally agree with you about adopting! People who are too lazy to help someone else shouldn't dis the ones doing their work for them.
*note to Havanah -
WOW you took the words right out of my mouth! When my parents got married they waited 6 years before having kids. People were always saying "Geez, when are you going to have kids?" Eventually they decided they didn't believe in using birth control, and stopped. As soon as they started having kids people were saying "Geez, when are you going to stop having kids?" and some of the SAME comments that you mentioned, like "Don't you know what causes that?"
SO ANNOYING. Butt out people! It's not your life! Lol.
2007-07-08 17:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by queenbee0889 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to your parents!!!!!!! It is wonderful to hear of people who have so much love to give and can afford the time and efforts it takes to raise children. Don't worry about what other people think. You know the truth. There needs to be more people like your folks, hon.
2007-07-06 08:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by Ghost Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋