I'm ridiculously in love with a married man who has 3 young children (one on the way). It's been going on so long with all our mutual friends hating me that I've moved away. He still calls, writes, emails... sad, because 'there's nothing he can do' but still always telling me he loves me.
Whether he really cares about me or not, how long can I wait knowing he doesn't love me *enough* to be with me? Has anyone had a similar experience and had it work out WELL in the end?!
2007-07-06 08:15:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For cryin' out loud... think of those KIDS!
Let him go and find someone single. Your needs come secondary to the innocent children that would most certainly suffer if you broke up that marriage.
2007-07-06 08:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously are only thinking of your own needs.
You know the guy is married, but still go through with the 'relationship?'
It's obvious you care nothing about his wife, but what about those innocent children?
You wouldn't care if you ripped their father away from them and break up their parents' marriage?
Have you no shame?
Chances are, he'll NEVER leave his wife. With marriage, there's too much at stake that most people are not willing to lose.
If you were the pregnant wife with 3 kids and your hubby was cheating on you, would that be okay?
I have no respect for home wreckers-even though that b*stard you're sleeping with is also at fault.
I highly doubt you'll get the answer you're hoping for.
Here's a bit of advice:FIND YOURSELF YOUR OWN MAN< and quit trying to steal somebody else's.
2007-07-06 08:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by (no subject) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I rarely heard of it working out for women in your position.
I have three kids, my husband flirted hot and heavy with other women. We have been separated now three years, and he did not end up with any other the girls he had flirted with.
Also, breaking up a family is horrible. To this day, I still wonder .... what if. I look at my kids ... and I hurt. Also, the kids would quite possibly hate you.
Leave it. he does love you. Let it be only that. A beautiful possibly. But cut off your private contact with him. Let him give himself to what he has chosen. And take your heart, and dedicate it to something that fills you, helps you grow. Otherwise you are going to live for the next call, email etc.
Start living your life in the light. Stop living a partial life.
be strong, be smart, be honest,
fox
"What a cruel act to be untruthful. Earthquakes happen in the heart that hears sounds that are amiss. Havoc is created in the mind that can no longer trust someone once loved, and schisms devour alliances that helped support our life.
Words can enrich and be as wonderful spices mixed into the days we imbibe with all our senses.
There are fields in the soul in the soul - lush organic meadows, though sounds and words that fall there can be poison. A plague is spread by one who cannot tell the truth." Eckhart
2007-07-06 08:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This will NOT work out...He is married and has young children. he has no morals and is a lying cheating bastard who if he did muster up the balls to leave wifey..would end up penniless by child support payments YOU should be shamed and move the hell on before you get in sooo deep, that you really feel the pain of messing with losers and married losers at that. Grow up damnit!
2007-07-06 08:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really hope you're younger than 21. Because even I have enough common sense to know that this "man" is just dragging you along.
So how much do you respect yourself? He has a baby on the way. He's NOT leaving his wife. You can't possibly believe him.
Please, have enough dignity to know you deserve someone better. You'll NEVER be more than his piece of a**. But hey, it's your life, keep on waiting all you want...............Your happy ending might come along some day!!
2007-07-06 08:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Elsy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have to say I've never been in that exact situation, but I have been the 'other woman' in dating relationships. You are only going to get hurt. And do you really want to be with someone who is treating the mother of his children like this anyway? I know it's hard, but you have to realize that there is nothing there for you. He is leading you on.
2007-07-06 08:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, even if he does leave his wife and children he will probably cheat on you too. How much respect can this many have for himself, his children, his wife or you if he is acting like this. If he doesn't love his wife any longer than how did she get pregnant? This guy wants his cake and eat it too, dump him and go find yourself a nice single man that will respect you.
2007-07-06 08:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by Scooter Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His wife is pregnant! How much could he possible want to be with you? It's time for you to move on and find someone who can commit to you. This will never work out well for you.
2007-07-06 08:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think long and hard about this: If this guy left his wife for you, don't you think that someday he might do the exact same to you? This guy wants the best of both worlds.
2007-07-06 08:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by Me, Myself & I 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey they always say they are going to leave their wives but they never do . you would be better off ignoring his emails,calls and all . leave him alone and get on with your life . find someone who is available in all ways to you . not just emails and calls . find someone who can truly be with you . good luck .
2007-07-06 08:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋