A friend of mine says he really wants to be with this girl, only problem is he claims he's tried to break things off with his old gf but she always does something to keep them together. I know he really likes the new girl but probaly doesn't want to leave the old one since they've been together for a couple of years and have a history. I would say if things aren't working with the old gf, cut her loose and move on. I mean he spends 99% of his time with the new one anyways, so how is that helping him and the old one patch things up. If he really cared for her, I don't think he would be calling texting and sleeping over the newbies house all the time. What ya'll think about the situation???
2007-07-06 08:09:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's just making excuses - unless the (soon to be) ex is a complete psycho stalker, then all he has to do is walk out the door and NEVER speak to her again!
Confront him - what sort of things is this girl doing to him to "keep them together"? If his only answer involves sex in any way - then he doesn't DESERVE to be with this new girl...
You got it 100% right when you said:
"I would say if things aren't working with the old gf, cut her loose and move on."
If he can't (or won't) be enough of a MAN to do this, then he is a lost cause.
2007-07-06 08:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to decide on a few things first. One is how you feel about him. The second is how you feel about him being involved with you before his divorce is final. The third is how do you think he really feel about you. Yes I read the above and can see he likes, but you need to determine if you are now the love of his life, the sweet rebound,or layover before he got back together with his current with.. emphasis on current. Finally are you will to wait for him. I've never been through a divorce, but i can only imagine how confusing it must be. That said it does not excuse him from seeing you then going back to her. Once you've thought about the question above and only if you feel he really deserves it then sit him down for a serious discussion. Let him know how you feel and that you want things to work out, but that can only happen if he isnolonger confused. I would then suggest that you both take some time off and let him decide. Yes it's a version of if you love someone set them free, but it is the best way for you to have a true relationship. Understand if you try this you are really risking getting hurt. If you don't feel that strongly then I would tell him honestly why you are ending it (this will be good for the both of you), then walk away and always remember why you walked away. Sorry can't recommend any stinging, even though it sounds like fun, I don't believe that it is good for you in this case. Good luck and remember to be true to yourself.
2016-05-19 23:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the old guy way - have the best of both worlds. Why he hasn't broken up with the old gf doesn't change the fact that he hasn't. Until a guy can step up and do that for the new gf, regardless of what the old gf does to block the break-up, then the new gf holds no clout.
Think about it, if you were in that situation, would you break up with your old bf to be with a new bf? Possible ans - if he's worth it. If she's worth it, he'll make it happen. Otherwise, he'll ride the fence, not committing to the new gf and enjoying the benefits of both. Again, doesn't change the fact that the boy hasn't stepped up to make it happen!!!
2007-07-06 08:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by Charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing both sides to his advantage. Can't say I blame him as both are letting him get away with it.
If he really cared about either of them, he would break it off with the other, but in reality he only cares for himself.
Take it from me, as I used to do this all the time. Why not take advantage of both? One of them should have the strength to stand up and say 'I deserve more'. Until they do this, they don't.
2007-07-06 08:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by ɹɐǝɟsuɐs Blessed Cheese Maker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has the best of both worlds and will continue to do so until the old gf finds out. PLAYER written all over him.
2007-07-06 08:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should just leave the old one and try to be with the new one. He's only staying with the old one because he feels obligated to.
2007-07-06 08:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by saintmeghan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your friend needs to read between the lines, if he REALLY wanted to be completely through with the old gal he would be. He is getting his cake AND ice cream and these women are making it easy for him.
2007-07-06 08:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to tell him that he really needs to do what makes him happy........and he is only hurting his old gf the longer he drags her along for the ride.....if he doesnt want to be w/her than dnt.....the longer he stays w/her the harder and more its going to hurt her.......thats all there is to it!
2007-07-06 08:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Less words, more getting to the point.
2007-07-06 08:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
why doesnt he just tell her he cheated on her...that should wanna make her drop him.
2007-07-06 08:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by no shame in my game 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋