doing the chasing in the relationship, but he is enjoying the benefits of a much younger woman?
2007-07-06 07:42:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some say that since I'm 44 and she is 21 that I am taking advantage or her. So, I'm just curious.
2007-07-06 07:48:24 · update #1
I'm not sure how you're taking advantage of her.....I here just the opposite about younger women and older men...that they are just after the stability, money, and experience...someone to take care of them! So if you're enjoying the benefits that much and she's happy then it sounds like a great set up to me!
2007-07-06 08:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, older people should have wisdom to see what the younger person does not see. Additionally, being a man you have more responsability in leading the relationship and looking out for your well being and her well being. Since you're technically old enough to be her dad (almost grand-dad) ... you have had more life experience and should act like a man and realistically make life plans that protect you and her. Nothing's wrong with this age difference as long as you act responsible and don't waste a gift/ opportunity. You may even have to teach this young woman virtures to be responsible.
When I was a financial planner, we sold "Long-Term Health care" (retirment home insurance) to couples with major age differences. It was sold to both if the age difference exceeded 15 years ... and only to the woman if the man was up to 15 years older than she. Reason: men live to about 75 & women live till about 80 (average). So, if he's 10 years younger, then this fraile old woman (with little dating possibilities) is left alone for 20 years. She needs a place to take care of her like a retirment home. Mean while, she stands by her husband while he dies, and then is left with no help (except family if she's lucky)
Okay, now when the age difference is above 15 years ... well, then the chances are the woman will leave the man when he is terminally ill (huge crime against love IMO)... so, he needs insurance against a divorce and being left alone in his old age. Anna Nicole's husband had to deal with this; but he had enough money to keep Anna till his death. Ah, the poor dude witnessed her adultry; and ah, seemed hurt deep by the witnessing.
2007-07-06 14:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 52 I am 28. I chased him at first then he came around. My parents hated him at first for stealing their baby even though I was the one who chased him.
2007-07-06 14:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are using her for those "benefits" than yes it is bad because you are leading her on ...if not than if you have the same things in common and relate on the same level than I say why not...
2007-07-06 14:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all parties involved are adults, and up front with each other (and available, no cheating) then what they do is their business. There should be nothing to "blame"....
2007-07-06 14:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she's not tooooooo young or she may be looking for a father figure and it will surely end in tears.
2007-07-06 14:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by lacldc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can a man be blamed for what? Is she jail bait?
2007-07-06 14:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by hootie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blamed for what? What is the problem?
2007-07-06 14:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by anotherbsdparent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋