ok i thought i like this guy that was a really good friend of mine. i gave him hints on that i like him and stuff well he finally asked me out and i realized i am really not into him like i thought i was. what should i do? and how do i tell him that?
2007-07-06 07:19:15 · 26 answers · asked by bumbee14 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him what you just told us.
i thought i was into you but turns out i`m not. sorry.
thats what you should say (:
<3
2007-07-06 07:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by Taylor. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, if he started off as your friend, then I think you tell him. How you tell him depends on what kind of guy he is. Sensitive, caring, nice guys - tell them the truth. Sit them down, someplace neutral (not dinner, etc.) and tell him that you guys need to talk. Be honest - things weren't working out the way you thought they would and you would prefer that you guys remain friends... if that's possible with him. If its the "other guy," then things may get a little problematic. Some guys think that there are a ton of women out there, no loss. Others get vengeful.
One thing to remember is not to give a guy too much information, as it will cause the wheels in a guys head to turn and think about EVERYTHING (What'd I do wrong? Could I have done this differently? Etc. Keep it simple - things didn't work out the way you wanted them too). You're a woman; to a large degree, men accept the fact that it could be a feeling and intuition, whereas guys always want to support their decision with a fact.
Also, be aware that there are a few possible outcomes to this decision that you must be able to accept: 1) you lose your friendship forever 2) you regain the friendship as it was, or 3) he ends up bitter and angry with you and essentially hates the very idea of your existence. One difference between one and three is that there may be a side of you that feels guilty about what happened, to the degree that you felt like you maybe led him on. Well, from my experience, I've been led on and I'd have rather ended it sooner before things got any deeper and I experienced the amount of pain and healing that I had to go through just to be okay again.
So, in the end, you are doing the right thing by cutting him loose early and before things get too messy. It may take time for him to heal, but the healing will be easier then having gone through a relationship, then get dumped. I read somewhere that the amount of pain a person feels post break-up is directly related to how emotionally invested he/she was. Sucks, but its true! Hope this helps.
2007-07-06 14:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by Charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you really aren't into him? You seemed to like him before, could it be your current lack of interest is just nervousness about actually gaining your fantasy?
If you've already agreed to the date, you should probably just go and give it a chance. If you haven't, just tell him straight out that you're sorry, but you just don't think it will work out. Be honest with yourself, and with him.
2007-07-06 14:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest but be polite. Tell him that you treasure your friendship with him and want to remain friends but that you do not like him romantically. I know this is a difficult situation to be in but I am sure he will appreciate your honesty when he has a chance to think about it. Good Luck!
2007-07-06 14:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest tell him you like him very much has a friend and you dont want to ruin what you guys have has a friendship and that you not into him like that. Just be honest be yourself well i dont really know you but ill say dont break it to hard dont hurt his feeling.
2007-07-06 14:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Tough one. Maybe call him up and tell him straight out what you just said on here. However, he might ask you what it is about him that you don't like. Be prepared for that one. I'd tell him you don't know but there just isn't the spark that you are looking for.
Good luck
2007-07-06 14:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by GeriGeri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont Go on the Date for one.
Tell him you realized we shouldnt jeopardize the good friendship we have by getting romantically involved, and you wouldnt want to ruin a good friendship by jumpin into something right now.
2007-07-06 14:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sorry to say it but this is all your fault. you should've realized you dont like him before you started hitting on him. but you still need help dont you? well tell him you just dont feel that way about him. if he says you were hitting on him you have to tell the truth. lying will just make it worse. tell him you liked him but realized you dont feel that way. say you're sorry you hurt him, you didnt do it on purpose, and you totally understand if hes mad, but you hope you'll stay friends b/c the friendship really matters to you.
2007-07-06 14:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by Cassieee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, tell him you appreciate his friendship and you will like to keep it that way...
I know it may be a hard or difficult situation, but been honest is the best answer I can give to you :)
2007-07-06 14:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by Cookie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard isn't it? I know what you mean...you just have to be honest and let them know that the chemistry just isn't there and you appreciate their interest, but the two of you aren't a good match after all.
I've experienced that issue from both sides.
2007-07-06 14:23:14 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him if u feel like that , dont cheat him anyway ,but be careful and you have to get peace in ur mind first because you have to ensure that you might lose a friend . anyway , it is just hard for us to make some one knows that we like them , it is really easy to let someone know that we dont like them . Be good sis !
2007-07-06 14:27:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋