I have been been in a wedding and have been asked to be the best man. Im pretty sure that i have to do the bachelor party but besides that i dont know anything. Anyone know what i should do
2007-07-06 07:15:26 · 10 answers · asked by paul81324 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
From "The Knot" website:
As best man, you may think you're just a glorified groomsman, but guess what? You actually have special responsibilities -- you'll be a combination valet and hand-holder as you help the groom come through this nerve-racking experience with flying colors. As leader of the groom's posse, you'll:
# Serve as the groom's personal aide and adviser before and during the wedding. This can include helping him pack for the honeymoon (the valet part).
# Help the groom choose and rent (or buy) wedding formalwear, and coordinate the other groomsmen's rentals. You guys are supposed to match, after all! You may be expected to arrange accommodations for out-of-town groomsmen.
#It's your job to corral the other groomsmen and make sure
they're performing their duties.
# Organize the bachelor party. Don't be shy about enlisting other groomsmen to help you out -- most guys don't mind this duty! Put financial worries out of your mind -- the cost should be split among everyone who attends the bash.
# Attend the rehearsal with the bride and groom and all the other attendants. This is your chance to figure out how you're supposed to walk down that aisle.
# Stand beside the groom at the altar and keep the bride's ring until vows are exchanged. Find a safe place for the ring (and triple check that your pockets don't have holes) -- you don't want to fumble around when it's time to whip it out.
# Corral the other groomsmen and make sure they're performing their duties.
# Sign the marriage license as a witness after the ceremony, along with the maid of honor.
# Give the officiant a sealed envelope with his or her fee (the groom's responsibility) just after the ceremony.
# You may be announced with the maid of honor when the reception begins.
# Dance with both the honor attendant and the bride during the wedding party dances.
# Give the first toast to the bride and groom at the reception. This is your biggest -- and probably most frightening -- duty. Read our article about toasting, and remember the cardinal rule: Mum's the word on the bachelor bacchanalia.
# Collect any gift envelopes guests bring to the reception. You may be asked to deposit them in the couple's bank account or at least to keep them until the couple returns from their honeymoon.
# Decorate the getaway mobile. Grab the other groomsmen and the bridesmaids for this one.
# Drive the couple to the wedding-night hotel or airport after the reception. If you perform this service, you'll need to stay sober throughout the reception. If you have a feeling this may not be possible, hire a limo to drive the couple into the sunset.
2007-07-06 07:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Marvinator 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are supposed to throw the bachelor party, you also are responsible for the rings (like make sure that you have them for the ceremony), you should also take the grooms tux back to the shop while he is on his hoeymoon, you are also responsible for the wedding day transportation(usually the bride will handle this though, but you and the groomsmen are supposed to decorate the getaway car if they are using their own). You have to give a toast.
You should check out some of these websites: weddingchanel.com
theknot.com
brides.com
They will give you full checklists of everything that the bestman is supposed to do. You could also check out Barnes and Nobles or some bookstore and they have books that you can buy. Good Luck! It's really not that hard. And oh yeah DO NOT GET DRUNK AT THE WEDDING!!!! Our best man did this to us at our wedding and it was horrible and so disrespectful. He was also our ride to the airport that night and he was supposed to get my husbands tuxedo. So on the night if our wedding we had to rearrange all of our plans.
2007-07-06 08:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of things that a best mans is to do for a wedding. You are supposed to make sure everyone gets together to get fitted for your tux's. You are also in charge of the bachelor party. You are also to make sure the groom does not forget the ring. You may be ask to seat people like a usher. You are also supposed to write a speech for the reception. You are also supposed to dance with the bride for one dance. Plus whatever else the groom may need you to handle.
2007-07-06 10:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, technically speaking, you don't "HAVE" to do anything other than rent the tux and show up at the wedding.
But if you have the time and desire to do it, throwing the groom some sort of bachelor party would be a nice gesture. You could offer to help coordinate things with the other groomsmen (make sure they've gotten measured for their tuxes, chip in for a big group wedding gift, etc.). You may be asked to offer a toast at the reception.
2007-07-06 07:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by BeatriceBatten 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as groomsman your main job of the day is to get the groom to the wedding fully dressed and on time. Walk the guest into the church and seat them. But before the actual day you guys get to take the groom out for one last night of craziness. Whether you take him to a dance club or a strip club that's up to all you guys. Just make sure there are NO pictures or video's that the bride can ever find.
2016-05-19 23:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my cultur the best man is responsible for the grooms hotel accomadations, he is responsible to pay for the bride and grooms first night at whatever hotel they oplan to stay. do the bachelor party and make sure the groom shows up at the wedding. and at the end of the night he gives the groom some spending money for the honeymoon. no more then 200 bucks. but thats my culture, i dont know about everyone else.
2007-07-06 08:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you help the groom out... basically youre there to be his right hand man. along with holding the brides ring at the wedding, giving a toast at both the rehearsal dinner and reception, and throwing the bachelor party, youre supposed to make sure his bride doesnt drive him crazy before the wedding.
2007-07-06 07:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by Squeaks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do the Bachelor Party, you hold the ring during the ceremony and you give a speech at the reception. That is about it...unless you are going to a non-traditional wedding...then who knows...
2007-07-06 07:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by Macho Duck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be the one to make sure that both rings are there, give a speech, and be the support for the groom.
2007-07-06 07:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you also steal the bride for a while at the reception, take her to a couple of bars and stuff like that.
2007-07-06 07:24:59 · answer #10 · answered by bismanpokerclub 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋