I've been noticing for a while now, a man at my kids school constantly stares at me. His son goes to my kids school, and although i've never spoke to him, i used to chat to his ex girlfriend when she used to take their son to school. It's now beginning to make me feel uncomfortable, and I try to avoid the school at times he's there even picking my kids up late. Recently we were at the kids school fete and he was in front of me at one of the stalls. When he walked away I started talking to a friend and caught him staring at me from quite a long way. Why is he making me feel so uncomfortable, and how do I go about sorting this situation out?
2007-07-06 07:05:12 · 17 answers · asked by ♥ Nicola ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmm... this could be nothing, but your instincts tell you there is something bad going on. There is nothing you can do unless he takes overt action, i.e. stalking. Just avoid him, or anyone that makes you feel uncomfortable. We often perceive things on a subconcious level and can't rationalize the perceptions. But they are real and should be listened to. Trust your instincts.
2007-07-06 07:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered that he might feel the same? that without realising it you were giving the same signals? maybe every time he glances at you he sees you looking at him.
The best bet is just to ignore him completely, make sure you don't even glance at him, as far as you are concerned he doesn't even exist.
Of course another simple option could just be that he finds you attractive.. its always possible that its that simple., but again if you are just not interested then blank him completely.
If anything else should happen to make you feel uncomfortable about the situation then go and have a chat with the local police.. i know, its sounds a bit much but trust me they can really help with good advice and they wont do anything unless you ask them to.
2007-07-06 15:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by junebud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach him with a friend and ask him outright what he finds so fascinating. The chances are he will run to ground and that will be that.
It's a form of stalking, but often there are some men who do not know how to communicate with women and he might just think he is trying to show you he is interested in you, not realising the discomfort he is causing.
For every real control freak, stalker, call them what you will, out there, there are many more sad souls who are really quite harmless.
2007-07-06 14:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you feel uncomfortable about him because you use to be friends with his ex girlfriend and somehow you feel like your betraying another woman. Maybe instead of avoiding him you should strike up a casual conversation with him as you would with any other parent. During that conversation you could mention a significant other (real or fictional) that way he knows that you aren't available or interested. Perhaps then he'll stop starring.
2007-07-06 14:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by motherofthree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds wierd to me. Nobody who wants to meet you would be like that. It is a form of harassment because it makes you uncomfortable. He has to know what he is doing. Approach him with somebody else and tell him you are uncomfortable. Either another woman or a man who is a friend of yours. Hopefully you will embarass himand he will avoid you. If he continues call the police. That's the place to start. Maybe they will have something to say to him.
2007-07-06 14:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by thomas m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm , well we still dont know if he were a good or a bad man , best advice is that you should be careful with that stranger , never be alone , and better alway to be with at least one colleague or just have a talk with him when your kid garden is crowded , just go straight in front of him and ask him if you can help anything and such . Hope you r fine .
2007-07-06 14:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes probaly just curious
i shouldnt worry bout it unless he follows u while your on your own>
maybe u should talk to him
i was at school and this girl who i didnt seem very comfortable with was my partner for music, we sort of got to know each other and i found out we shared the same b-day!!!!
now were really goood friends!!!
2007-07-06 14:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by Eyes_Up 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes interested jus cool it out next time try to maybe start a conversation with him or when he stares you can stare back and smile it will let him be very aware that your onto him
2007-07-06 14:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by l3l31801 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him and figure out your own feeling. Do you like him? Do you stare back? Tell him how you feel!!!!!! Either go away or lets go on a date.
2007-07-06 14:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok he likes you or hes planning to do a lil somethin somethin to u i stare at mamiis all the time just not in that way belive me that happend to my friend and she got rapped
2007-07-06 14:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋