Has anybody ever been raped and have some advice?

Answer 1

Yes, it happened to me two years ago, when I was 15.

If it happened really recently, make sure that you don't take a shower or change clothes, no matter how much you may want to. Then you need to go to the ER. Tell the doctor or nurse that treats you that you were raped, and ask them to take whatever evidence they can find. You have to report it to the police, and put the f*cker that did this to you in prison.

If it wasn't recent, but you're dealing with the emotional trauma that comes from it, just know that there's hope. You don't have to go through it alone, tell someone. I know if you're at all like me, you might feel ashamed to tell someone, but what happened to you was not your fault. This gets so much easier to deal with when you're not alone. It took me two months, but I finally told my best friend what happened, and I just felt this huge weight being lifted off me. I don't know if you actually want to do this, but if you feel like you want to, professional help is definitely a good idea. You can get counseling to help you deal with what happened. Try maybe writing poetry or songs or painting or things that help you release your feelings on days when you're feeling at your worst. If you want you can call RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network) at 1-800-656-HOPE. I called there after it happened to me, and it helped to be able to tell someone, even if I didn't know them personally. Above all, just remember, this was not your fault, no matter what some people may say. Good luck to you, and I hope that you find healing.

Answer 2

If you've ever been raped, you need some one to talk to. Don't think you can do it alone, you can't. Being raped, living with the meories, no matter how or where it happened , is very difficult. Talk to a psychiatrist, maybe even another rape victim. ANd remember, It's not your fault. You did not ask for the rape, you did not invite the rape.

Answer 3

There may be physical pain.
There will be emotional and psychological pain.
It is not your fault. It is not your fault. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.

The internal guilt is consuming.
The crime against the person of WHO YOU ARE takes a giant toll.
You may feel unworthy - of relationship, of love, of a right to live, of the right to be treated with respect in the future.
You may feel unworthy or unable to feel a satisfaction within yourself, and a sense of pride to be the person you are.
You may feel the person of who you are was stolen from you, and stomped on before your eyes, and you may lose the will to live........for awhile.

DON'T BE ALONE
DO TALK WITH A FRIEND, Counselor, or CRISIS HOTLINE. (Call the operator or 1-411 Information to connect you)

There is life after rape
There can be love after rape
You are still a person,
You deserve to be respected.
Your feelings and thoughts will not go away overnight. This is something that you will overcome, and it will fade into the background eventually.
You are still a beautiful person on the inside!
You are of value!
God made you, and loves you tenderly.

This is a very hard thing to do. Learn to write/journal
your private feelings and rage. Learn to speak to a female
you can trust of what your thoughts and feelings are.
Be open to listen to your female friend and advisor.
Become willing to heal.
Learn to live again.

Answer 4

Here is a link to the teen help hotlines. There is someone there to talk to 24/7

Girls and Boys Town National Hotline
1-800-448-3000
(TTY 1-800-448-1833)

Call With any Problem, Anytime

24-hour Hotlines


NATIONAL YOUTH CRISIS HOTLINE

A 24-hour crisis line for any crisis - from pregnancy to drugs to depression

Phone: [phone]

Phone: [phone] (TDD for Hearing Impaired

Call one of these today!


Open 24 hours a day, everyday



Talk to someone who is trained to help you, hotlines are free.

Answer 5

Yes & it was ONE of the worst times in my life. To make it worse, I KNEW my rapist & he and/or his lawyer paid some of my freinds to make their depostions in his favor rather than mine. When the case went b4 the grand jury: there was no evidence b/c I hadn't gone to a DR. I was only 16 & didn't want my parents to know what happened but in the end they did. It's been almost 15 years & it still spooks me. I don't know your exact circumstances but call the police if you can, file charges with the D.A. & throw his butt in jail b4 he does it to some 1 else.

Answer 6

first things first. YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME for it. it was not your fault. the person who did this to you is very, very sick. i hope the caught him. i was raped on a regular basis by a family member for years as a child. the person kept telling me that if i told my parents they would not believe me and they were right. there is a grieving involved with rape. you will go through all of the phases that you would go through as is if someone died and in truth someone did your innocence. your trust in being protected by the society and the legal systems and depending on who it was that raped you, possibly by your family. the thing is that you need to learn to trust again and the only you are going to be able to do that is to start with you. you need to relearn to trust, just like a new child learns to trust. you need to learn to forgive the person that harmed you. the best way to do this and this is what really helped me to get passed it and the angry and hatred was to sit down in a quiet place and write a letter to the person who did this to you. if you know his name start it to his name if you donn''t start it off to TO whoeveor you are.... write down in that letter everything you would like to say to him. and i do mean everything. let it all out. call him every name in the book. you may think you don''t really have mucvhto say but as you start wriying tou find you have a lot to say. in this letter you can say every hurtful you can think of,etc. just let it all go. after you have written the letter..... BURN IT. hopefully you feel better. you may nooot be totally heeled but you should start to feel better. you really should seek out a therapist to finish the healing process. GOD's BLESSINGS on you.

Answer 7

i think people need to realize that the police will not take it as seriously as they should. i was raped and they told me my rape kit wouldnt be even processed for close to a year. the cop was so horrible it persuaded me not to go further. it is very sad

Answer 8

no longer precisely, no longer via older human beings anyhow. In seventh grade, i had nicely extra advantageous boobs than something of the girls. So there have been like 5 or 6 adult men that would continually attempt to snatch me and touch me. i might ought to stroll with a team of friends to resign them. i might attempt to slap them away, yet they wouldnt provide up doing it. It sucked yet despite, it became a on the same time as in the past. the only way it affected me became that i slightly enable adult men touch me, till if its somebody i know as a radical buddy and theyre giving me a hug.

Answer 9

my best friend was raped last year and she was too embarrassed to tell her parents...so she told me first. You should NOT take a shower....go and tell your mom immediately so she can take you to the hospital...dont worry about being embarrassed.. you have more worries like being pregnant or having an STD

Answer 10

i was raped and sodomized when i was 9
WATCH YOUR KIDS!!!!!
take care of them and dont leave them just anywhere..............or even someplace you may think is safe!
NOWHERE is safe for a pretty lil girl!