my boyfriend of a year and a half is in fort benning at basic training. his first phone call was made home, and then he wrote me about 4 times in the first month. when i finally got his address I was able to write back. his 4th and last letter he wrote to me said that he wanted to be serious about me and prayed that I would stay strong until he gets back. He's been writing home several times in the last few weeks, but he has not written me back. I wrote him 3 times since his last letter because I was waiting on him response, but the last letter I told him that I don't know why he's not writing me. he got a phone call pass and used it to call home. if he loved me, wouldn't he call me? I'm trying to be strong, but if he doesn't want to be with me, then why doesn't he tell me? he even asks about me in his letters home so i dont get i. i feel bad b/c it seems like most other guys are calling and writing their g/f's and he's calling and writing home. i really love him, but i can't force him
2007-07-06 05:55:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
most of these answers are bull.
he should be writing you as long as you are writing him.
make sure he is recieving your letters and make sure he knows how you feel.
2007-07-06 06:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by mike b 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Normally it is the opposite. Normally the soldier calls home all the time to talk to his girlfriend only to find out that she has been cheating on him with some other dude back home. It could be different reasons. Your time is taken up when you are at basic training. The time that you do get call home, you want to talk to the ones that you love the most because they will make you feel better. It is a comfort. Dont be mad and disappointed if he wants to talk to his mother or father before you. Girls come and go, your parents will always be your parents. Be patient with him and keep writing, he needs it. Basic is only a month and a half, if for some reason, he doesnt want to be with you, then oh well, move on and find someone better. Hope this helps!
2007-07-06 06:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by meeda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mail system there is lousy..... I went to basic at Benning as well and I recived letters from my family two months after I moved to Fort Campbell. He's also very busy, so give him the benifit of the doubt.
2007-07-06 06:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by The Forgotten 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First: men don't write letters. The fact that your b/f has written more than 1 is a miracle.
Second: he's probably too busy or too tired to write. Basic training is hard work, mentally and physically.
Just keep sending him letters of support. Include a self-addressed stamped envelope and a "fill in the blanks" letter:
"Dear Girlfriend:
Today I ________ with my friends _____ and _____. It was _______. Then we _______. "
You get the idea. He'll love it!
2007-07-06 06:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
More like he's in some rather heavy stuff right at the moment and can't write as much as he'd like to and don't forget the mail from the military takes it's time. I once got some valentine's day cards in the middle of March.
2007-07-06 06:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should ask his family to include one of your letters in their envelope with their letters. Or ask them to ask him about it. They could say somthing like " Susy was here the other day and was just seeing if you were ok since she hadn't heard from you. If you are too busy to write to her, you can always include a messege in the letters you write to us for us to pass on". Maybe he doesn't feel like writing the same letter over again telling about what he's doing ect...to send to you.
2007-07-06 06:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by saint with grenades 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
also, men in basic can be given a real hard time about girlfriends back home and their letters. he should at least mention you in a letter to his family, if he can't write to you. give him teh benefit of the doubt and talk to him when he comes home.
2007-07-06 06:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you begrudge him for writing and phoning his parents? If you're jealous of them, you're going to have some serious issues in a relationship.
2007-07-06 06:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by John T 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
honey, from personal experience in the military, he does not have the time or energy to write to you now. also, he will come back a different person and you need to be prepared to deal with that.
2007-07-06 06:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by Sue 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't be selfish!! he is in a very hard spot right now!! you should be writing him!!
2007-07-06 06:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by stop it 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋