I'm 19. For the past few months I've been feeling depressed, Suicidal and I cut myself from time to time.

Question

I saw my dog get hit by a car on thanksgiving and I really became depressed after that. I'm not sure if grieving is ok, or how long it should go on for, does anyone know? I'm suppose to see a psychologist. I've called a few places, but never went. I'm scared about going to a psychologist I need help, but I'd feel like a baby asking for it. Only one of my cousin know I'm depressed, suicidal and cut myself. He's the only one I let see the real me. Everyone else in my family thinks I have an aditiude problem.I don't like they think that way. A bunch of my friends know how I've been feeling, but it doesn't seem to be doing much good, I never talk to them. Please don't get me wrong I know there's so many other people in the world who are worse off then me. So maybe I shouldn't be complaining.I never realized how much depressed sucks! I don't know what to do. If anyone has some handy advice could you please help me. No mean answers, please! Thank you for your answers!!!

Answer 1

Honey, grieving is not only OK, it's normal and healthy. I'm wondering if maybe part of the reason for your depression is that you're not allowing yourself to go through the grieving process. Cutting yourself is a means of lessening the emotional pain by countering it with physical pain - among other things.

If you need help, there's NOTHING babyish about asking for it. Actually, recognizing the need for help and stepping up to seek it out is a very brave and adult thing to do.

Therapists are not headshrinkers - they are there to help you find peace with yourself.

It's a shame that people still don't recognize pain unless it leaves something bleeding, broken or burned.

I have a lot more to say but don't want to ramble. If you want to talk about it, feel free to email me.

Answer 2

i was 19 when i started cutting and getting suicidal. Its wicked hard to ask for help at first and it does not make you a baby. Being hard on yourself might be leading you to cut among other things. Set up a support system. This could be friends family docs etc. For me I have my doc and my therapist who have helped me so much. They have worked on my trust issues and now Im beginning to recover. So try and get a therapist so you can let someone know what is going on with you. Isolating only causes probs trust me Ive been in the hospital 4 times this year because I thought I could handle things on my own. If you drink or use any drugs I would suggest stopping all that because it just distorts an already depressed brain. Im glad you can talk to your cousin but be sure to get some professional help as well options are good things to have.

Answer 3

It's true - no one can truly understand that kind of depression unless they've been there. You can tell yourself to snap out of it as many times as you want - but it just simply isn't that easy. Seeing a shrink is NOT babyish in any way. Getting back to the place where this world is somewhere you actually want to be is not an overnight thing and it isn't easy. Of course you need someone to guide you through it! Medication might be appropriate for you, but that is between you and your doctor. It does wonders for lots of people, so don't feel bad about giving it a try if you need to. In the meantime, do some life-affirming things. When all you want to do is stay in bed, go for a walk. Concentrate really hard on three good things in your life each day - even if they are just little things. Write. You can write about your depressed feelings and happy ones. Writing has been the single most effective tool for me. Just getting it out there seems to help. Please, please, please. See someone right away. I'll be sending some positive energy your way. Good luck!

Answer 4

well im 14 and i kinda know how u are feeling.i'v been feeling very depressed lately too becase my mom past away a year ago. And i cant get over it . this may be hard but the best thing is to move on and be happy cuz if not,ur life will just get worse. u have to make thee best of every situation no matter what and appriciate life and live it to the fullest. DON't cut urself or think of suicide. That is just not the way to go,u have to be Strong and let it go. ur dog is in doggy heaven lol.

Good luck and i hope u get happier and chear up=]

Answer 5

I just want you to know that I have been there. I used to cut myself regularly and was very depressed. I avoided getting help for almost 6 years and it wasnt until I almost killed myself that I realized I needed to change. You need to really sit down and take time to yourself and write down everything you are feeling at one time. Dont even think about it, just write. Honestly, I think that these problems you are having have more to do with your dog. And dont feel like a baby for asking for help. I have been seeing a shrink for a few months now, and it has helped me tremendously, as does the medication. If you think you are getting worse,call those shrinks back and go....its ok to be selfish sometimes, and this is definitely one of those times. IM me if you ever need to talk. qtigrl5704 on Yahoo IM.

Answer 6

I'm depressed and have been seeing a therapist and psychiatrist for a few years now. A lot of people go to therapy to sort out problems in their lives. Seeing your dog killed was probably very traumatic and I think it would be helpful to talk out your feelings with the psychologist. Try to convince yourself to go whether you want to or not. I know it can be hard to do anything when you're reallly depressed. Good luck.

Answer 7

I am so sorry to hear about your dog. You do need to talk to someone. Call one of the many hotlines that are available 24/7 for someone who is trained to give you answers you seek.

Here is a link to the depression help hotlines. There is someone there to talk to 24/7

Girls and Boys Town National Hotline
1-800-448-3000
(TTY 1-800-448-1833)

Call With any Problem, Anytime

24-hour Hotlines
National Hopeline Network 1-800-784-2433 (1-800-SUICIDE) http://www.hopeline.com/

National Suicide Prevention Helpline 1-800-273-8255 (1-800-273-TALK)

NATIONAL YOUTH CRISIS HOTLINE

A 24-hour crisis line for any crisis - from pregnancy to drugs to depression

Phone: [phone]

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Call one of these today!


Open 24 hours a day, everyday

Good luck!

Answer 8

I know that must be very traumatic for you.
My bloodhound just recently died,he was the best dog I have ever had.
My father took off work and cried for two days straight,thats how much it hurt him....and he's like an emotional rock.
Perhaps you have had tiny problems and they never really affected you much until now when something really traumatic hit you.
Go to a therapist. Trust me,they are easy to get along with.If they aret,then new ones need to be found.
good luck sweetie

Answer 9

By cutting yourself you are making yourself more depressed because you realize what you are doing to yourself...and it embarrasses you...You have to realize whatever reason you are depressed the problem can be fixed if it is because of you have no job get out go to college there are six month programs, year programs, two year programs..etc....you have to be willing to get up and do for yourself..GO TO CHURCH talk with your local minister or someone in the church that you can trust...Complaining does nothing and remember The Problem you are having is NOT the proble its your ATTITUDE towards the problem so if you look at the problem with a negative attitude your are more likely to get a negative outcome look at the problems you are having with a positive attitude and wait for your positive outcome...and cutting does nothing so get that thought out of your head you are only causing more problems so stop it immediately Pray and believe that a higher power can and will help you if you would only believe in him and his words...separate from all people that cause you to think and or feel negative...step up and step out of the trap you truly can...tune into Joyce Meyers and Joel Olsteen....Smile because God truly loves you o so very much

Answer 10

When I feel like that I just find someone to talk to. It doesn't nescessarily have to be a professional just someone you trust. It just depends on the person. If you think that you need professional help then get it and don't feel ashamed because you need help. Everyone needs help at some point in their life.