Ok. My and my boyfirend want to get married, but the problem is i hardley have ANY family that would be able to come due to relationship problems and family issues. He has a large family, but isn't too close to them. It embarress me so much to think that my side of the wedding will have hardly anybody in it. I don't want to elope, i really would like somthing small and beautiful....any ideas?
2007-07-06 05:04:08 · 17 answers · asked by beaniebaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There were 52 people at my wedding, outside of the wedding party. On my side, only six members of my family where there and then I had two friends whom my husband didn't know. Everybody else was his family or mutual friends.
Nobody cared, I didn't feel embarrassed or slighted in any way. All the mutual friends sat on the "bride's side" of the aisle to even it out.
You can do that, too. Tell the ushers that anybody who says, "Both" when they ask "Bride or groom" should be seated on the bride's side.
It's really not a big deal.
2007-07-06 07:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to elope. Small weddings are very popular and I'm sure it will be beautiful. I've done affairs for as few as 50 people and the couple was much happier that it wasn't a huge gathering. It makes things more intimate. Invite the family you want to and all of your close friends. I would suggest still inviting a few family members who you used to be close because you never know if they would come or not until you ask.
2007-07-07 06:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what will make you happy! Me and my husband had some problems like that. He is an only child and his father passed away when he was 10, and the father had a big fight, so the only one he is close to is his mother, and one aunt that lives out of state. My side of the family has issues with my father, so things were strange there. Just invite people and let them make the decision if they will come or not. If you know someone will cause problems then do not invite them. I wish you both the best of luck, and a happy life together
2007-07-06 12:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by Susan R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have the wedding at a restaurant that you both enjoy with the small amount of family/friends. don't be embarrassed, these things happen to couples all the time. maybe once family hears you're getting married they'll be more inclined to resolve conflicts and come together. have someone get certified as an officiant and perform your ceremony, to keep the intimate feel of it. a small wedding is just as beautiful as a big wedding.
2007-07-06 12:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by tvelez128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already answered yourself. You want something small and beautiful. So do just that. Pick an intimate location, make a small guest list with the people who are most important to the two of you. Dont invite people because you feel obligated. Invite those who you love and will appreciate sharing in your special day. If they cant behave appropriately out of respect for you two, then dont invite them!
2007-07-06 12:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by LeJess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have people sitting in both sides regardless of if their are yoru side or his of the family.
There is no need to feel embarrased. Rhis ahappends all the time and noone ever remebers such things.
Make it a small intimate affir and keep you guest list under 75 pp. Invite only who you really care about, no seconds cousins that you haven't seen since your were 5 or co-workers and gym acquaintances... close friends and family only.
Congratulations and good luck
2007-07-06 12:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question! Do something small and beautiful, friends and the family you want there. The day is for the two of you, starting YOUR life together. The last thing you need to worry about is whether or not people are getting along or who can't sit next to whom. Be selfish just this once and focus on him.:-) good luck.
2007-07-06 12:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by ashpea2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you are getting married to the man that you love and that is what the day is all about. If most of your family can't make it and you really aren't close with your fiance's family - ask yourself if you really need them there.
I know you don't want to elope but see if it makes sense to you and your finance...to do something romantic together...vacation in Hawaii and get married there - the day is about the two of your anyway.
2007-07-06 12:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by mkv6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of having a huge wedding, hve a small wedding wth close friends and family memebers that will be able to attend the wedding.
2007-07-06 12:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be embarassed...invite everyone you would want to come, knowing that many of them can't- beef up your side by having your friends there....as much as I love my family- my "chosen family" are just as important to me...
think of the bright side- the cost won't be as high if you don't have a large number of people- take the money you save and have an INCREDIBLE honeymoon!!
good luck- your day will be beautiful
2007-07-06 12:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by jmd72inva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋